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Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 10:39am On Sep 14, 2017 |
laudate: Yes o, i highly recommend her. Her wisdom is legendary |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Oyindidi(f): 10:43am On Sep 14, 2017 |
Blissquare:which kind yama yama talk be this? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Consula: 10:43am On Sep 14, 2017 |
Oga, do you need a soothsayer to tell you you are headed in the wrong direction? As a 3-star general (3 lovely children) in marriage i make do to tell you that its now or never! Call your fiance to order NOW! Make this also know to her parents that such is unacceptable.......(gauge their response) cos sometimes she is been encouraged from the background. Moreover, bros put that wedding on hold. Yes u will ask me, wat about the money invested (anyways thats for guys that still do that), what will my people say, bla bla bla.....Who gives a fcvK! I was once told during my wedding preps back then that whatsoever i can not tolerate or i see as wrong i should not swallow it under the guise that "she will change" cos the moment u walk down that isle and take ur vows bro, u are in for a long thing especially if the girl is learned....u go pay for divorce. So chose wisely, to be know as a man that put his wedding on hold or a man that divorced his new wife a few years after a flamboyant wedding? Love ur wife with ur head not ur heart, women are not only to be loved and cherished, but should be shown the red line which they MUST not cross! amliftedhigher: 2 Likes |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by laudate: 10:45am On Sep 14, 2017 |
Blissquare: What kind of twisted, shallow perspective is this? Ok, when you get married (or if you are already married) I pray your spouse cuts you off from your family completely, and does not allow them to remain close to you. Is it a crime for a man's family to remain in his life completely? Or should they become enemies, the minute he gets married? The OP's family made sacrifices to see him through university, and you turn round now to say their love is NOT sincere? Do you think they did not have better things to do with their money? Has it occurred to you, that they may be extending their love for their brother to her, which is why they loved her from the first meeting? 2 Likes |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 10:48am On Sep 14, 2017 |
bluetrails7: The work is when you change your words and your actions to along with the legacy you want to leave behind the next generation should inspire you to do better and build each other up to. You will have your issues but they will not become issues if your open to making each other's lives easier. I'm not siding my sister you have said enough for me too I'm just generally speaking I don't do research I don't want to die early I just know when I'm gone I want people to know I came |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 10:50am On Sep 14, 2017 |
solasoulmusic: .... |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 10:52am On Sep 14, 2017 |
bluetrails7: It is well sha share cake make we chop on that day but I no dey follow you under the sea o I sabI dolphin language me and my people |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by JohnJr(m): 10:52am On Sep 14, 2017 |
Just a lil piece of advice,bro. Ur family has been there for u from day one, and will always be. So, don't marry a lady who'll alienate u from them, and besides, remember u are an only son. D earlier u call off d wedding, the better for u. 1 Like |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 10:53am On Sep 14, 2017 |
solasoulmusic: .. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by stuffs4me(m): 11:07am On Sep 14, 2017 |
To slap this mumu OP just dey hungry me.. How will a sane human being open his eyes and walk into a burning fire for God sake. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Rozaytee: 11:18am On Sep 14, 2017 |
D woman u married is a viper and a black mamba..u better do somthing fast..before she spits venom on ur happy family.... |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by stasiaannie(f): 11:19am On Sep 14, 2017 |
you must have had signs of this while courting which you ignored and went ahead with the TM, what you cant change while courting , you cant change in marriage / your family is a very important part of you life man up talk to her set your rules postpone the marriage plans / if its not working well with her and your family den leave her she is not ready to be married, if you go further she will divide your home, train your kids with the very wrong mind set bring enemies in the family........wake up man |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Rozaytee: 11:20am On Sep 14, 2017 |
tukdi:3 gbosa for u!! 1 Like |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by nayosman: 11:23am On Sep 14, 2017 |
Leave that woman and run for your dear life. I warn you, forget the lady and be yourself,she is not your wife. I know why I'm saying this.That lady will kill you if you marry her. I don't respond to this kind of post but something compelled me to admonish you now. No amount of love should make you marry the lady. Forget the trad marriage, forget the money spent but run for your life. I have spoken bcoz I know what two of my friends are going tru and they are walking corpses. I can reach you if you are interested for further proof. Cheers my brother. 1 Like |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by zubydave(m): 11:23am On Sep 14, 2017 |
I'm really sorry for bringing this up here but I got to say it; my uncle's wife is just like the OP's wife. First of all she pretends to like u a lot and stabs you in the back. This is a woman people were praising to be well brought up in a typical African way, but the woman is a divider. She has succeeded in alienating every of her husband's family member from their home. Initially my bro was feeling unconcerned but right now, my guy eye don clear. Nobody gives a Bleep about him and his family no more and its telling on his kids. I feel sorry for the OP, you know why because talking to her like some folks are saying will not change her. A tiger does not change his strips. 4 Likes |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by dotcile28(f): 11:40am On Sep 14, 2017 |
amliftedhigher: pls don't do. family over everytin. i love my family and i will always do. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by TinaAnita(f): 11:46am On Sep 14, 2017 |
coolcatty: I won't waste my money on a marriage that is obviously dead on arrival. I ain't betting pls |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by TinaAnita(f): 11:48am On Sep 14, 2017 |
amliftedhigher: You will eventually do so when you are forced to choose between your family and saving your marriage from crashing |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by TinaAnita(f): 11:51am On Sep 14, 2017 |
Oyindidi: That same silly question almost made me insulted the OP. It's offensive for him to nurse such an idea in the first place so your reaction is spot on. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 12:08pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
amliftedhigher: Hmmm.....op am not wishing you bad but i give you just 5 months max and you will come back here God reveals for love and to protect us ,humans conceals for selfsish reasons |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by DJInfluence: 12:10pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
i sorry for you. Wait till you completed all marriage rite. Then she will show your family something. i doubt she will even let the kids go near them. No let love blind you. better deal with it now and make her know that your family is part of you. Especially because they like her. Assuming they don't like her, then i for understand her para. 1 Like |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by nautybride: 12:17pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
laudate:Do you live with amliftedhigher? If No, then we are both commenting on the information he has given. I am not insulting you OP! If she gets angry about your calls, ask yourself maybe you are already a talker. Women talk a lot and you lived admist them. If she wants an expensive vendor what will cost you to tell her that you have budgeted 300k for this, find a vendor within the capacity or add up the remaining. This life is easy don't complicate your marriage before starting it. I still maintain that you communicate with her and try understand her view but if you don't, break up your marriage like some are saying and start looking for the perfect partner that exists in dreams. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by mercyland93(m): 12:31pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
u just av to sit her down nd talk sense to her . let her know dat she need to love ur sisters for peace to actually reign in d matrimonial home. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Excellent7(m): 12:35pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
bluetrails7: This is deep! |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 12:35pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
Excellent7: .. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by idibelle13: 12:53pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
Do not compromise your family, better quit and move forward, she isn't the only lady in town. In fact she does not like you too, she is just after material things. Period |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by fpeter(f): 12:54pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
You are married already and so don't even think about divorcing your wife. You made a very terrible mistake by not fixing this issue before paying her dowry. I am married, my husband's family and I get along very well because i purposed in my heart from the onset to live with them in love. My husband's older brother is also married but his wife and my inlaws are not so good together, these things have to do with the woman's background most times. I don't see my inlaws as a threat to me or my husband's resources so i love them unconditionally and get along with them. Please set your house in order, call your inlaws and your wife together and clarify things before the white wedding and please if you have been giving her too much info about members of your family before now, please curtail it. Find out from her what her problem is and why she detests them, some women go into marriage with the mindset that they must be tough and rigid with their inlaws, they must keep boundaries and not tolerate any nonsense from inlaws so the earlier she started giving them attitude the better for her...but this is very wrong...Love births love. 2 Likes |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by victorDanladi: 1:32pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
amliftedhigher:dindinrin slave of pussy dont use your dick to think use your brain |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Nobody: 1:34pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
amliftedhigher: I don't care what people will say of my suggestion, I will give it anyway. If all you said is true and you have not wedded yet, then CALL OFF the wedding asap or at least delay it until you can get her to understand the place of your family in your life. Women tire me o. She expects you to now hate and avoid people you have known all your life for someone that is just coming into your life now? Pls I beg you, don't marry her no matter how far you have gone before now or how much you have spent. Otherwise you will regret it and you will cry a lot. If your family were bad, it will be a different ball game. I am telling you from experience. My wife, for no just cause has vowed never to relate with my siblings and my mum. She hates them, she deleted their numbers from her phone. She said she will never pick their calls if she knows they are the ones calling. And if she picks her call & it is any of my family members, she will cut the call. And she specifically added that my mum is included. She vowed she will never allow any of them into our house. Now if you are in my position, what will do - especially as she is the extremely stubborn type? The situation causes me terrible pain. Meanwhile I cherish all her siblings and her Mum. Bros I am begging you don't marry her or at least delay the church wedding until she gets some sense. If you must marry her, get a written and video commitment from her that she will love and respect all members of your family the same way she loves and respects her family as long as your family don't do her any serious harm (in any case you won't allow your family hurt your wife). If she refuses to make the commitment or she does so halfheartedly, call of the wedding. I am just trying to spare a brother a lifetime of pain. Believe me you don't want the pain and confusion which among other things will affect your work/job/business or whatever you do. I don talk my own 1 Like |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by Sholato242(m): 1:35pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
Live her and move on, there is nothing like family love... Maybe she is among in John 10:10 |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by CioAngels(f): 1:36pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
If your story is true, then, this lady waited for you to marry her traditionally before she shows you who she really is. Please, see your people to see her family and free her by annulling the traditionally marriage. Please don't go ahead with the white becos you cannot kill your family to marry her. Be warned, that she might do jazz for you to forget your family and marry her. Please move on with your life and start all over. I pity you. |
Re: My New Wife Hates My Family Without Provocation by tossie101(f): 1:39pm On Sep 14, 2017 |
amliftedhigher: Is it intertribal marriage? |
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