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Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Nobody: 2:41pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Bro. U not alone. Sometimes is quite annoying the way those old school treat their children. I got asked those questions also, but u know how e dey be na. Na me go first quote Malachi, proceed to revelation, wen i will continue into Hosea through Samuel, na my mama go first change d topic. For my mind u don tire? But she knows what'sup but she can't just help it because i have not appeared like someone against what she was saying. My papa na strong.... deeper lifer. I was like mumu while growing up. TV was unthinkable. But we all were patient till we left home due to school and all. We went rogue as we were not within his control and influence anymore. Na him taya. Call me and start to provoke old testament, me i go start how the Israelites cross the Red Sea. How fish carry Jona. e no hard. At least not everyday so i believe is about been diplomatic. If ur dad says na bible matter, buy him old testament bible as a Christmas gift. Haha. My guy...... hmm 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Zeze06(m): 2:42pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Timbuktuo: I don't support rebellion against parents except in matters of love, every other thing is a no for me, I can't rebel mumsy for anything... Although I can comfortably say this because she is very rational.... But also... Parents don't respect "ethical boundaries"... They love too much, protect too much and also react too much... 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Benevee: 2:44pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Beverly1: OP I wish I had a dad who can control me like this spiritually, maybe you don't know what it means to have a dad, I lost my dad at the age of 13 ,never had the opportunity of a father to son talk ( man to man) you are a grown man behave like one and talk to your father instead blocking him,even if he's not your father consider his office as a pastor |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by busomma: 2:44pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Looks like ur father is one of those parents that never allow their children room to grow up even after starting ur own family. Like someone commented, ur father is a religious extremist which the scripture union sect are known for. If I were u I will give him a huge space & time. No fone call, no visit, no nothing. May be, just May be that will put him on a straight line. Don't feel sorry for him. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Zeze06(m): 2:45pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
lozanni: Amen. You only know you love them when they are gone..God rest their souls... 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by deadie(m): 2:46pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
You are a grown up and do not need to lie or pretend to your dad like a kid would do. I have a lot of respect for my dad and used to be scared of upsetting him. Now I don't lie or sugarcoat anything for him any more. He has learnt to accept my decisions even when he doesn't like it (cos he is reasonable and knows that I am now my own man). Disclosure: I am an atheist and my mom still doesn't know what to make of it 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by enemyofprogress: 2:46pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Op I would do same to my father. Which kind nonsense be dat?na by force dem dey go church? |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by emmpire: 2:46pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by oloriadejoke(f): 2:46pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
no matter how fully grown or matured a child is he or she will forever be like a baby in the eyes of his or her parent,if i were you i will just laugh it off and turn it to a joke and moreover he only call ones in a while,but my candid advice to you is that dont brake your relationship with him,just give him a call and apologise to him...NOTE fighting with ones parent is a great sin in the presence of God even if they are wrong... Am sorry can open doors of blessing,take the steps now a minutes may be too late to apologise 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by cymontempler: 2:49pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Blocking your Dad because he cares about your salvation is worrisome. He expressed his concerns about your Christian life, not for himself but to avoid stories that touches the heart on judgment day. Just simple question and you are flaring up... There is no way he can enforce any doctrine on you via phone. Your action is that of a rebellious son. I will advice that you unblock him. Apologise for your behaviour and thank him for checking on your Heavenly race. If he doesn't love you, He won't be bothered cause he knows its your life and you can live it the way you want. Arrogant Child... That's what you are. Ask those who don't have a Dad... Or Those whose Dad don't care about them. Then you will know why you should be grateful for his concerns. Be Careful... Abroad is not the same as Heaven. 3 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by richard870(m): 2:50pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Greenbullet:Dude! where in the world did you get your manners from We re talking about someone's father here and you are saying this bunkum Pls try to be more civil, this is social media 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Nobody: 2:50pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
You were not harsh just spoke ur mind. You dad is yet to come to terms with the fact that ur all grown up and can make ur own choices in life. Controlling parents have this problem give him time and space he will come to terms with the change in the phase of life. |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by ireneidiva(f): 2:51pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
chii8:Why must you pray in a manner that someone in the next room hears you? 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Icon79(m): 2:52pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
A wise man once said: "The words of our elders are the words of wisdom". It's really a sad day to see someone threatening to cut off any communications with his own father simply because the old man strongly recommended that he prioritized worshipping his God. That's definitely NOT a bad suggestion, especially coming from your own father. But, hey, to each his own, you can go ahead and cut all communications with him. However, I will tell you this, if you carry out that threat, you'll regret it one day. Mark my words. O pari Beverly1: |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by fpeter(f): 2:52pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
OP, i grew up in Deeper Life so i can relate. My own was so bad because the entire building had mostly Deeper Life members. The coordinator lived in the building, My uncle was the head usher and my aunt was the woman coordinator. I was frustrated, I was summoned one time for buying hair relaxer to relax my hair. It was a serious matter then. I remember most of my friends fell out with their parents because they were overbearing. My father flogged me 7x7 times one day because he said i didn't read the Bible for a whole week. I feel you OP, just make him understand that you are now a family man and should also be respected. 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by emmpire: 2:52pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
God always like things done the right way not the way that seemeth right. If not, David would have been able to carry the ark of God home the 1st attempt, King Saul would have remained King after sparing the King and keeping the spoils. Obedient is better than sacrifice. Note: I'm not disputing your suggestions in it's entirety. missjane: |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Mystic1(m): 2:53pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Those saying "Op i wish i had a father like yours", "You cut ties because of this" really know nothing about what the Op is trying to say. From experience, i believe the OP is putting it mildly. It is worse than he is saying it. Mine has been my mother, woman is a fuc.k.i.ng extremist, I'm so tired of her I device ways to avoid her, can't stand her nonsense query anymore. My father is late and i have never for one day wished i had a father. Infact the whole parenthood is a farce since Nigerian parents use all shits like i bore you for 9months, i breastfed you, i paid this, i paid that, to hold you down and do things against your whole wish. Even as an adult when you try to make decisions on your own, they be like "So you now know more than me abi"?. Their thinking is archaic and they never put your own feelings into consideration. No doubt some of you might have jolly parents out there but one thing is sure, I'll never wish to have a parent even as loving as yours. PS: I love my mum, Reason why i still call her my mum and I'm stuck with her despite all. 4 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by richard870(m): 2:54pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Beverly1:@Op, I would advise you call your father ASAP! as this could create a serious dent on your wife's image Also, try explaining yourself by not justifying your actions. Just let him know that you don't joke with your Christian faith......in a soft tone Bless you! |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by babs50g: 2:56pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
@Beverly 1 . you won't know the essence of parenting until you become parent yourself. Don't break the Cord just be diplomatic with him. No matter your status in life one's father or mother are too precious to ignore |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Nobody: 2:59pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
cymontempler: I can see you belong to those persons who use religion to control their children uv already passed judgement on op already. Parents arent perfect. 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by espn(m): 3:00pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Beverly1:Pick up your phone and call him..suppress your anger...swallow your pride..you have been managing him for years even when you lived together.. Apologize to him...let him realize you were wrong hanging up the phone on him. He is only over-protective and wants the best for you. You definitely know what is right for you but do it wisely and dont let anything come between you and your father. Remember he had strived and sacrificed a lot to make you who you are today. The only sacrifice you have to make now is to keep managing him and keep him happy. |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by MrHighSea: 3:00pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
correctguy0900:lol. Chairman, I hail.o |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by saydfact(m): 3:00pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Beverly1: Parents are our gate way to heaven - You should find a way to convince him into trusting you, There are fathers/mothers who show there kids the way of crime; be glad yours is showing you the way of God... |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by harriet412(f): 3:01pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
frosbel2: Mr, watch ur tongue |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Tunenez(m): 3:01pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Bro...i lost my father recently, and it was completely unexpected. The thing is we had not been communicating as often as we should have, and i must say that today i deeply regret it. That your dad even picks up his phone to call you just to inquire about your welfare shows that he loves you, and in my humble opinion the reasons you listed above are not good enough to cut ties with him. Your short write-up points to the fact that he is a good dad(albeit a mild religious extremist), and not a bad one. Please unblock him and call him, you do not want to have regrets tomorrow. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by isaacodo: 3:03pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Bros, you don't even know you have more of your father in you. When you get older you will realize he was just being a father. I imagine myself with 4 children worried like hell about their future, their lifestyle and the this question, will i be a good dad? or will i live long to see them really grow old? As a father, you can't but help it to worry about your children and sometime you push hard. You cutting ties with him IS AN INDICATION THAT YOU have the capacity to push hard too. You are just your dad, you don't know it yet. Please talk to him now brother, Take it from someone who has lost his dad and can't find a father to relate too. You will live to regret this decision later. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Timbuktuo: 3:04pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
Zeze06: Adult children are super free to rebel against their parents when they become overbearing and too controlling. If you were married and your parent came to dictate what school your children were to attend would you just accede to their demands? OP's father was totally out of line. And while OP could have tactfully and respectfully handled the matter, I fault him not. Person wey dey for another country with wife and children? Come on. The father will think twice about trying such stunts in the future with OP or his siblings. 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by segzyndpep(m): 3:06pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
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Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by voiceoftruthNG: 3:10pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
My friend! Don't be silly. Go and apologise to him before you get God to contend with. U will not celebrate an old man who looks after ur soul when majority in his shoe will be asking for dollars. U piss me off honestly, no insult intended. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Cut The Cord With My Father by Missonas(f): 3:12pm On Sep 18, 2017 |
So cos of this small thing u cutting ties? You'll become a dad someday too remember. Parents always go to the extremes but they mean no harm. You are just overeacting. |
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