ImaIma1:


My ex owned his own company. His business was strong enough to pay my salary for life. He just needed a little assistance to also get back on his feet which i obliged. But he still used sweet mouth till he disappeared.

Showing undying love without using some aspects of your brain is what makes ladies lose track of what is really going on. Not all men are sincere...put that in mind.

MissJoy29:

You are right. It has. I'm not against giving in relationships but it shouldn't be one-sided...

ImaIma1:


After several calls, the best he could do was a text. When he needed the money, wasn't he spending time with her and call her and responding to her calls?

thesuave10:


This is your problem. Your bias towards men on this issue as a result of your irrelevant experience has clouded your reasoning. Look at the case for its facts and for its facts alone

OLUJOSHINS:




What is the point of saying for better for worse if you will treat your man like a complete stranger in a situation like this.


Believe me, He will pay her back. He might just be taking time to come to terms with the character she showed him when He was down.

Maduawuchukwu:


Yeah. Kedu ka Aba di today?

ImaIma1:


The fact that he is being elusive and not even picking up or returning calls is cause for concern. I don't know if men find it particularly difficult to return money they borrow from their women because most of the women i have related with never get their money back.

The men either disappear or start trying to use love and marriage to cover up. They could even become abusive towards her, saying she is not a virtuous woman...blah blah blah.
Let him borrow from his friends instead or they sign a contract with witnesses.

thesuave10:


LOL. NEVER BELIEVE WOMEN UNDERSTAND BETTER. NEVER!

thesuave10:


Nobody said it should it be one sided. Why do you people keep bringing up issues that are irrelevant. The issue is with her decision to end the relationship with the given details. THAT IS THE PROBLEM

thesuave10:


Stop saying she should forget about the money. The dude is gonna pay her back. Your marriage is your marriage. Don't impose your ideas on her own relationship

MissJoy29:

Aba Is calm now thank God.

Maduawuchukwu:


That's cool to know. I hear say Una governor dey try. That he is transforming Aba and the shoe making guys. Na true?

MissJoy29:

Lol...you are funny

Maduawuchukwu:


Lol. But am serious here. I want to know. I am calculating some things

MissJoy29:

I was replying MADUAWUCHUKWU. If you follow our mentions you will understand why I said one-sided giving which isn't even directly related to the topic at hand.

Now, the issue in what the OP wrote is not just that she wants to end the relationship. She said & I quote, "I don't mind losing my relationship with him cos I don't trust him anymore". The issue here is that SHE DOESN'T TRUST HIM ANYMORE (which is understandable ) & cos of that, the relationship is now on shaky ground. Grab?

Yoshy:


In my case, a girl did exactly all you mentioned.

MissJoy29:

What are you calculating? Let me know

thesuave10:


Read her post again. He replied to her text and said he'll pay her back via text but without a specific date. So not picking calls is logically and equally related to the fact that he can't be trusted? again I ask, is this the right decision given the Available evidence at the moment. Answer the question like a woman

thesuave10:


Don't get things twisted her actions and her reasons for them are not the same thing. She feels bad and hurt OK . Now ending the relationship because of this is the problem. I'm tired

iomoge2:
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See this one

Lol

Let babe forget that money
Nigga aint gonna pay back.... and if he does its a plus

I rather not let a man know i hve a kobo than putting mysf in her position

thesuave10:


Of cuz he was . Now do some thinking why do you think he responds to texts and not calls?

Maduawuchukwu:


If the place is bubbling I might make plans to benefit from there nah. I am coming to the East next month and am planning to settle there and man must settle where money dey.

FunspoT:


It shldnt be the case when there is trust,I believe a man shld always be trustworthy,I don't take money from my gf nor did I from my ex even when they offer,(am kinda proud like dat),u shld be able to assist ur partner,buh dat is if u trust them,and if u don't,den u shld think more abt d relationship then.

supersystemsnig:



Poco, the 300,000Naira i borrowed you since January, when are you going to return it?

pocohantas:


Mere N300,000??
Okay...open thread.
If over 75% of guys can blame and insult you, as they're insulting this OP...I will pay immediately. If they insult me, nothing for you.

sunshineG:
mere 300000

pocohantas:


Yes. If N500,000 is mere...N300,000 is worse than mere.

ImaIma1:


To avoid confrontation maybe. But only him can answer that.

LordKO:





Citing this flawed logic of yours "He replied to her text and said he'll pay her back via text but without a specific date" in your mental slowness you didn't realize that since he didn't give her a specific date, that makes his promise infinite and by extension means that she may wait till eternity before knowing when to recoup her investment - her hard earned money. And to add salt to injury, he's equally avoiding both effective communications with her or meeting up with her physically (even when they're in a romantic relationship) like they used to do prior to this happenstance. Now, I wonder, why then do a dimwit like you and your ilks still criticizes the leaders of this country since they have always promised the citizenry that they will make the country great starting from 1960 to date, but without meaningful things in place to justify the previous pronouncements in same regard, even though they're always carrying out day-to-day governance. . . Everyone ought to keep calm and be worshiping them based on their promises. Boy, there's a difference between fiction and fact.

Meanwhile, I also wonder what you gain from badgering and misquoting people in particular and trying so hard to arrogate monopoly of wisdom to yourself in general. For your information, it's only an insane person that will choose to remain in any form of relationship with a disingenuous, conceited and self-centered party.

Truly, shame doesn't catch a mad person rather his relations - you've validated this axiom through your actions and inaction on this thread.

Personally, I have given you enough undeserving attention - Goodness doesn't cost money, try to acquire it. This is my final bye to you.

pocohantas:


Mere N300,000??
Okay...open thread.
If over 75% of guys can blame and insult you, as they're insulting this OP...I will pay immediately. If they insult me, nothing for you.