Ishilove:

I don't understand. So she should not watch TV again because you're ill?

Did she neglect you in anyway? Or perhaps she should hold your hands and sing 'lullaby baby don't you cry'? You seem the dramatic type. Lord knows personally I can't deal with drama

Acidosis:
You ordered her out of your house like a common thief?

Bigsteveg:

Madam kindly read the above comments to see the updates so far before jumping into the frying oil like a fish.
Did u read the part that she already declare top her friends that he dumped his asss because he is a terrible man.

Ishilove:

Shut your stinking yak and don't quote me. EVER

Ishilove:

Shut your stinking yak and don't quote me. EVER

shaybebaby:

Canada- too cold
Australia- too far
I'm thinking of the far east.. I love eastern food, they have beautiful beaches and weather pattern in some places mimics ours, monsoon etc but I don't want winters.

supersystemsnig:



Where have you been ?

shaybebaby:

Busy, busy, busy. Should be back to normal next week. Hope you are good.

VERDA:


Haba madam, he might have taken it too far immediately ordering her out,but ur assertion that some people don't know how to care for others does not hold water, if you don't know how to care for another,you have no business getting married until you learn how to because marriage is basically two people making public their commitment to care for and nuture each others growth for the rest of their life's....that is basically the definition of love.

MissJoy29:

I'm not excusing the OP's girlfriend's behaviour but what the person you quoted there said is actually true. Some people are actually unfeeling and cold and clueless when it comes to taking care of loved ones. I have been with one. It hurt me a big deal when he was unfeeling when I had an accident. His excuse was that he gets awkward about stuffs like that. I wanted so much to believe him...lol. But I couldn't cos I could never understand such behaviour.

So, it's possible that's the kind of person the girlfriend is. It's either that or she doesn't love the guy.

truthsayer009:


Please tell me you eventually broke up with him.

dokwhot:
I fell ill today.My girlfriend was watching TV with earphones on,even as I was shivering seriously. I felt it was callous of her,especially since I take care of her well when she's ill.She didn't respond to me even after I called her attention to this. I had to tell her to leave my house since she was being inconsiderate.She left,dropped the ring I gave her 2months ago. I need advice on how to proceed. I feel it's over.Is it?We have done introduction, planning to marry next year.I intend telling her it's over.Am I doing the right thing?

dokwhot:
I have some new developments.

My ex-fiancee was happy to be free with joy, even announcing it on facebook immediately after our relationship broke up last month as I wrote in page one of this thread.

I have tried to move on,unfollowed her on all social media as I was getting tired of the shades from her. I wanted to be free too.

In the last one or two weeks,I noticed my ex enthusiastically waves at me in greeting in our frequent chance encounters.We live in the same area.I decided to speak with her as I love to be friendly with my exes. No use becoming enemies.She was crying profusely,telling me I damaged her emotionally,that she almost got taken advantage of by one of her married male friends,blaming it on me.

There was chemistry again,we hugged. I gave her a shoulder to cry on. But I can't seem to shake the feeling of resurrecting our relationship whether it works or not.
I suggested that if it's possible we could get back together mostly because I don't want to be seen to have damaged a girl I loved. I don't want to have that reputation.

For me, it's about saving her now as she's extremely sad, emotionally down now. She isn't eating,cries always as she said. I can't sleep tonight as I've been thinking. Can I do this? Can a very friend and family aware break up like this be mended? What can I do now? Please I need advice.

Thanks.

dokwhot:
I have some new developments.

My ex-fiancee was happy to be free with joy, even announcing it on facebook immediately after our relationship broke up last month as I wrote in page one of this thread.

I have tried to move on,unfollowed her on all social media as I was getting tired of the shades from her. I wanted to be free too.

In the last one or two weeks,I noticed my ex enthusiastically waves at me in greeting in our frequent chance encounters.We live in the same area.I decided to speak with her as I love to be friendly with my exes. No use becoming enemies.She was crying profusely,telling me I damaged her emotionally,that she almost got taken advantage of by one of her married male friends,blaming it on me.

There was chemistry again,we hugged. I gave her a shoulder to cry on. But I can't seem to shake the feeling of resurrecting our relationship whether it works or not.
I suggested that if it's possible we could get back together mostly because I don't want to be seen to have damaged a girl I loved. I don't want to have that reputation.

For me, it's about saving her now as she's extremely sad, emotionally down now. She isn't eating,cries always as she said. I can't sleep tonight as I've been thinking. Can I do this? Can a very friend and family aware break up like this be mended? What can I do now? Please I need advice.

Thanks.

Viking007:
You don't know what You want. After vibrating in the first few pages, lamenting how terrible she treated You, now You're here trying to go back. You better grow up & put a stop to this Your indecisiveness.

Rubbiish:

YOU ARE A WEAK MAN!!!!!
Jesus christ!!!! I can't believe this is coming from u!!!
After all the lamentations on the first page, u wanna go back to lady who abandoned u & announced to the whole world that u were a terrible person, simply because a man promised her alot of goodies. Now that the man is through with her & dumped her sorry asss, she wanna come back to u & u are already contemplating whether to accept her back!!!! Even cococandy that always post baised opinion against men had to support u....to show the extent of the evil the lady did....

GOD, WHAT SIN DID WE COMMIT TO DESERVE THESE KIND OF INDECISSIVE MEN?
They are causing trouble for the world.
Men incapable of making decision at old age.
You are a big disappointment to men...

Viking007:
You don't know what You want. After vibrating in the first few pages, lamenting how terrible she treated You, now You're here trying to go back. You better grow up & put a stop to this Your indecisiveness.

dokwhot:
Boring,beta? Man all the same. Read from the beginning of the thread.I disagree with your assessment because it cheapens it all,makes me out to be a weakling.I cut her off and refused to be guilt tripped.I'm anything but weak.I'm not emotionally hurt.I took actions before I came here to seek advice.If I could make her mine,rest assured,I can do much much better than her.I know she will be back and it will be,if it does continue,on my terms.This is alpha territory,the advanced program. Donald Trump is not boring and is certainly alpha but has been divorced twice.You're an angry person who gets dumped easily.

cococandy:
Respect yourself

dokwhot:
My relationship with my fiancee once again is strong,more loving and caring.Now she is giving without reason,I feel very loved.This is exactly what I prayed for.I know I will not regret my decision to salvage our relationship,by God's will.I give it all to Him.

My greatest ambition is a peaceful life,full of greatly happy moments with happy friends and family.I believe my woman can contribute to this result.

Wedding loading...

I know marriage will not be easy but God will only give you what you can bear.If anyone has succeeded in marriage,I can and will.

dokwhot:
I'm not hurt emotionally.Just that there are expectations in all relationships.Probably this is just a bad case of incompatibility and I accept it if it is.Better a break up than a divorce,right?I'm very hurt financially though.That one is painful.As to why return her belongings while ill?I was ill,got better to an extent as is normal.Even much better this morning.And I wanted to find out why this happened so rapidly(too much trying to claim smartness).And I did from the messages,chats with her friends on the phone.Thanks all for your opinions.

Blonchilli:

I don't want to read another topic from you complaining again? Next we'll be digging dagger from your heart

dokwhot:
First,I reject all you've written.You'll sooner get shot dead for voicing unbaked opinions.

And you can ignore my topics,don't have to read.Nairaland is a free, open forum. I write what I want to.

dokwhot:
I have some new developments.

My ex-fiancee was happy to be free with joy, even announcing it on facebook immediately after our relationship broke up last month as I wrote in page one of this thread.

I have tried to move on,unfollowed her on all social media as I was getting tired of the shades from her. I wanted to be free too.

In the last one or two weeks,I noticed my ex enthusiastically waves at me in greeting in our frequent chance encounters.We live in the same area.I decided to speak with her as I love to be friendly with my exes. No use becoming enemies.She was crying profusely,telling me I damaged her emotionally,that she almost got taken advantage of by one of her married male friends,blaming it on me.

There was chemistry again,we hugged. I gave her a shoulder to cry on. But I can't seem to shake the feeling of resurrecting our relationship whether it works or not.
I suggested that if it's possible we could get back together mostly because I don't want to be seen to have damaged a girl I loved. I don't want to have that reputation.

For me, it's about saving her now as she's extremely sad, emotionally down now. She isn't eating,cries always as she said. I can't sleep tonight as I've been thinking. Can I do this? Can a very friend and family aware break up like this be mended? What can I do now? Please I need advice.

Thanks.