naijaboiy:
When you show to a girl that it’s mainly sex you want from her and you take care of her and see to her needs well. She will definitely think that’s what you want from her and will use it to her advantage.

But girls should note that in a relationship no matter how you open your legs for a man if you’re not worth his salt he won’t look at you twice.

I cater for you and don’t complain but all you offer is sex plus incessant nagging and emotional blackmail? Nothing else to the table. :

If I find a woman who has more to offer ima dump yo ass. Men got standrards too.

Gbam.

Aptly put.

sapien:
Boss,

In more developed climes, their ladies enjoy sex without attaching monetary value to their vaginas.

It's only in Africa that most ladies see sex as an escape route from poverty.

That's exactly my point. In more developed climes, women who embrace their sexuality and enjoy sex aren't shamed for it. But in Africa, once a guy is ready to settle down, he begins to look for a virgin. Even those who settle for non virgins act as if their decision is some magnanimity that women ought to be grateful for. It's an unequal playing field for women in Africa. You need to sweeten the deal for her.

Or join the feminist train and stand against the unfair social bias. Then you can have free sex.

ibkayee:

Aptly put

Thank you.

sapien:
Boss,

In more developed climes, their ladies enjoy sex without attaching monetary value to their vaginas.

It's only in Africa that most ladies see sex as an escape route from poverty.

its not an African thing, if it is there wont be prostitutes all over the world. when you grow older, you will understand the sex concept differently. The problem is an average Nigerian male youth is obsessed with sex, he is bothered more with sex than to do well and solve life problems and an average Nigerian lady is obsessed with slaying. so its a case of peter and paul. . When you perhaps grow, get a good job, meet people. you will get to meet many ladies that enjoy sex for the fun of it and not for money per say

Cos most of them are fvcking stupid

pocohantas:


What is the correlation between the post you dug and the question the OP raised? No, don't edit...continue digging old post, na your work.

The post you dug was on submission in marriage.
This is on sex as a bargaining tool in a relationship.

And you are telling me the post you dug is what I should have typed?
You okay?

This is how the logic you want to apply doesn't work.

I could also argue with you, what does commandments have to do with marriage since everybody is not a Christian or religious?

No certainly not, but what you typed there should be consistent with what you typed in the other post. If you as you wrote, they shouldn't disregard the commandments and also paying attention to Bleep materials, it then follows that the individual on this thread will at a later time be faced with having to adhere to the post on the other thread. You should remember you mentioned a faulty foundation, I believe relationship, is a foundation to marriage, now you have contributed to the faulty foundation here by not explicitly stating what will make a good foundation for him in future and also blame him for it again in the future.

I hope what I am driving at is clear to you?

That post wasn't exclusively about submission to marriage, it began with 'foundation' and ended with "Bleep materials"

NightHound:



That's exactly my point. In more developed climes, women who embrace their sexuality and enjoy sex aren't shamed for it. But in Africa, once a guy is ready to settle down, he begins to look for a virgin. Even those who settle for non virgins act as if their decision is some magnanimity that women ought to be grateful for. It's an unequal playing field for women in Africa. You need to sweeten the deal for her.

Or join the feminist train and stand against the unfair social bias. Then you can have free sex.

@emboldened Utter trash!

NightHound:



That's exactly my point. In more developed climes, women who embrace their sexuality and enjoy sex aren't shamed for it. But in Africa, once a guy is ready to settle down, he begins to look for a virgin. Even those who settle for non virgins act as if their decision is some magnanimity that women ought to be grateful for. It's an unequal playing field for women in Africa. You need to sweeten the deal for her.

Or join the feminist train and stand against the unfair social bias. Then you can have free sex.

Yes yes yes

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Blackfyre:


This is how the logic you want to apply doesn't work.

I could also argue with you, what does commandments have to do with marriage since everybody is not a Christian or religious?

No certainly not, but what you typed there should be consistent with what you typed in the other post. If you as you wrote, they shouldn't disregard the commandments and also paying attention to Bleep materials, it then follows that the individual on this thread will at a later time be faced with having to adhere to the post on the other thread. You should remember you mentioned a faulty foundation, I believe relationship, is a foundation to marriage, now you have contributed to the faulty foundation here by not explicitly stating what will make a good foundation for him in future and also blame him for it again in the future.

I hope what I am driving at is clear to you?

That post wasn't exclusively about submission to marriage, it began with 'foundation' and ended with "Bleep materials"

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Give up already...
I answered the question on why girls use sex as a bargaining chip, not how to ensure a good foundation in relationships. You can create another thread on that. Thanks.

pocohantas:
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Give up already...
I answered the question on why girls use sex as a bargaining chip, not how to ensure a good foundation in relationships. You can create another thread on that. Thanks.

And the cycle continues were we compartmentalize things and refuse to see how they relate with each other.

You answer this only for it to breed/lead to another issue in another scenario.

Blackfyre:


And the cycle continues were we compartmentalize things and refuse to see how they relate with each other.

You answer this only for it to breed/lead to another issue in another scenario.

Then advise him na!!!
Must my post be all encompassing? Jeeeeez!!!

pocohantas:


Then advise him na!!!
Must my post be all encompassing? Jeeeeez!!!

I am sure he has heard the message from how I countered you.

Both the men, women and those advising for "embracing sexuality outside marriage" are all FOOLS!.

Plus quote me anywhere, you will face the music in marriage...

Daeylar:


Yes yes yes

yeyerolling:
Cos guys use money too as bargaining chip. Sex equals money. Ns only mumu dey train gal for school

abeg no let those guys wey dey train babes for school come for u oo

lefulefu:
abeg no let those guys wey dey train babes for school come for u oo

Blackfyre:


@emboldened Utter trash!

Try tell yourself the truth sometimes.

NightHound:



Try tell yourself the truth sometimes.

Truth? Before I refer you to my signature, enlighten me please, tell me this 'truth'.....

Daeylar:


Yes yes yes

Why are you screaming yes?

Is it because the dude dropped a feministic comment?

sapien:
Why are you screaming yes?

Is it because the dude dropped a feministic comment?

No I was just watching smackdown and Daniel Bryan came out

Blackfyre:


I am sure he has heard the message from how I countered you.

Both the men, women and those advising for "embracing sexuality outside marriage" are all FOOLS!.

Plus quote me anywhere, you will face the music in marriage...

Lol at you will face the music in marriage.

NightHound:



That's exactly my point. In more developed climes, women who embrace their sexuality and enjoy sex aren't shamed for it. But in Africa, once a guy is ready to settle down, he begins to look for a virgin. Even those who settle for non virgins act as if their decision is some magnanimity that women ought to be grateful for. It's an unequal playing field for women in Africa. You need to sweeten the deal for her.

Or join the feminist train and stand against the unfair social bias. Then you can have free sex.

I thought we agreed on humanist though?

Daeylar:


I thought we agreed on humanist though?

Oh, right! , old habits die hard, I guess.

#humanist

sapien:
You are quite right with your last line.

Who trains a girlfriend in school?

If you want to train any lady at all, let her be your wife.

some mumu men are still training random girls in schools oo with promises of marriage.some will even train from jss1 in the secondary school to final year in the univ.when the girl graduate then she will tell the man that he's too old for her.some guys dey try o.

sapien:
Lol at you will face the music in marriage.

There was a time I never cared for such talks just kept to my own beliefs, but today, foolishness has become wisdom, and stupid classifications(liberalism, conservatism, centrist) that never existed since the time of their forefathers is now taking root and stem and seen as wisdom or enlightenment.

I wonder which of their great grand fathers will they say homosexuality is not an abnormal act and won't spit to the ground but their sons and daughters think they are wiser and more enlightened.

They are all fools!

NightHound:



Oh, right! , old habits die hard, I guess.

#humanist

Blackfyre:


There was a time I never cared for such talks just kept to my own beliefs, but today, foolishness has become wisdom, and stupid classifications(liberalism, conservatism, centrist) that never existed since the time of their forefathers is now taking root and stem and seen as wisdom or enlightenment.

I wonder which of their great grand fathers will they say homosexuality is not an abnormal act and won't spit to the ground but their sons and daughters think they are wiser and more enlightened.

They are all fools!

That's the effect of civilzation and globalization.

Sons and Daughters now believe they are more sophisticated and wiser than their antiquated and archaic fathers.

Blackfyre:

@emboldened Utter trash!

Why do you think it's trash?

lefulefu:
some mumu men are still training random girls in schools oo with promises of marriage.some will even train from jss1 in the secondary school to final year in the univ.when the girl graduate then she will tell the man that he's too old for her.some guys dey try o.

Train a girl from JSS1 to final year in the University?

That's some crazy stuff right there!

I expect such man to commit suicide if the lady eventually breaks up him.

This is so true, funny sometimes they use it in bizzare ways. For instance, when a girl is really into you, she will think the best way to get you is to have sex with you. Nonsense! Guys love sex, but we love meaningful mutual relationship that both parties have something good to offer more. Ladies and sex ehh! Tufiakwa!

iamJ:
Wen una dey behave like say woman na big deal
No girl alive can use sex to form for me

Really?

sapien:
That's the effect of civilzation and globalization.

Sons and Daughters now believe they are more sophisticated and wiser than their antiquated and archaic fathers.

The morons!

Pridestorm:
Really?

truth no need escort