I hav a serious date we hav stayed upto 2 & half yrs, he is also 4rm my state but different village, and based in Spain & he loves me so much even when he is not in Nigeria he takes care of me more than when he was in Nig. It happened dat i met one guy online chating d guy was also 4rm d same village wit my guy, almost dat both of them are brothers in d same village and both of them knew each other very well, they are not in Nigeria. They live in d same country too (Spain) as well. One day d guy i met online as we are chating he was asking me questions about my family, after discussing wit him on chating, we get to find out dat the particular guy was my elder brother's childhold friend who traveld outside the country 4 long time ago, by that time i was very small and he knew me when i was a babe mum's pet. So he asked me to give him my elder brother's phone number and i did, he called my brother and told him dat he got his number 4rm his little sister. Since then we ar chating online and he calls me all the time on phone asking me to be his wife, dat he knew my family very well and knew me also when i was too tender. Now, he is sending his people to tell me dat he loves me dat he wants my hand in marriage, all dis while he use to call me every 24hours of the day to know about my health and to tell me dat he loves me so much, and pleading me to marry him. As this Easther, he called his people to come and see me so dat i will know his parents, right now am comfused. I dont know what to do, if to be wit my date who always act as a husband to me but not to open his mind and tell me what he wants, but in his acting i knew where he is going, but this other guy dat's my brother's friend now open up to me, but the problem there was dat i only saw him on wedcam and pictures not physical. but proposing to me and sending me to visit his family on this easther sunday.
Now i told d guy i met online about my date and it happend that he knew my date very well and he has his International Phone No. as well. He knew dat they ar living in d same country, please i dont want to act as a bad gul i was known as a good gul even my date calls me dat always.
Pleade advice me on what 2 do?

Angel4 (F):

l[b] i was[/b] known as a good gul even my date calls me dat always.

you no longer is

Have you told your first bf about this online guy, why not tell him first, before making any move

@Poster,
I'll advise you to be careful.
The best thing is to see the person you're about to marry before accepting any proposal.
if you agree to marry any of them without seeing them, you might regret it for the rest of your life.
You cannot accept someone based on what you see on a webcam or picture. Pictures can lie.
Marriage is not a casual relationship where you can get in or out whenever you feel like.
Its a lot more than that.
Best of luck.

i would tell u to 4low ur heart girl.but be wise oh.

I told my first date about this but i didnot give him the every details of the hole things now, bcoz i know the kind of man he is dat he's very jealous guy.

I appreciate all the advice u guys gave to me. Thank u all,

Why do you want to dump your bf becuse of a guy you meet on net?
I will advice you to stick with your boy friend and remain a good
girl that is all. Wish you luck.

Hmm since you said the guy has been doing well ,taking good care of you,then don't dump him just like that.One thing again,try and ask him if he will marry you or is just taking you as a casual friend,if he hesitate then you can go with the new guy instead of loosing the two.another thing,try to be prayerful when it comes to choosing a future partner cos marriage is not so easy to jump in,

you no longer is

co-sign. u had a boyfriend n was chatting other guys up, emotionally cheating on ur boyfriend. the 2nd guy is asking for marriage now cos u egged him on, all the while wen u were still wit ur boyfriend is is unaware on wats going on/wat u're doing.

bottom line:

u are unfaithfull/untrustworthy n need to free ur current boyfriend so he go look 4 sumone who'd appreciate him better

I don't think you are being fair to the first guy. I don't even understand the relationship. If you want to get married don't you think it is something you should have discussed with your REAL BOYFRIEND? Abi are you afraid that he will stop "taking care of you". This is wrong on so many levels. This new guy would not have even gone as far as he did had you not given the impression that you were interested. If you respected your man you would not have this issue. This is like you hearing that your boyfriend has shown interest in another girl even to the point of getting to know the family. If you are not careful you will lose both and you will have nobody else to blame for this but you

Wow! Why did you put yourself in this mess? You ought to have told the second guy off in the first place. Obviously you were enjoying the game,those calls and the chats. Now this second guy is so desparate and you have gone ahead to expose the first guy's details and they stay in same Country.This second guy may set this dude up and have him rot in jail so that he can be with you.Get out of this game lady, tell the first guy what is going on so that he can be careful with his dealings.

It is clear tell d online guy dat it wont work, u already have a guy u sincerely love except if ur love for him is not real. To be sincerely a guy dat knows u are in a relationship and he is still asking u to marry him does not have human feelings. Why not ask him if he was in ur guy's shoes how would he feel

Even if he has a sincere intension towards you, he should have asked you to ask your guy, his intention, either marriage or bf of a thing.Any guy that knows that u are in a relationship without asking you to first verify the intension of your guy towards you will hurt you sooner than later.

Why not ask him if he was in your guy's shoes how would he feel, Good question, ??//

please my advisers !!!

The guy i met online knows my first guy very well, they all heald 4rm the same town & village, even live in the same country (Spain). I love my guy so much dat since he left Nigeria i decided not to have any other man. but the gut i met online happens to be my elder brother childhold friend dat he knew me when i was a little girl, but i dont know him very well due to i was still a babe when the relationship started wit my elder brother. So now, my brother was telling me to keep the relationship wit him, but is not so easy 4 me to do due to the love i hav 4 my first man.The issue now was the guy i met online sent his people to see me on easther which they came to my house, my elder brother and my parents knows the family very well due to the relationship wit my elder brother, so i told the guy i met online dat i hav to sort things out wit my boyfriend b4 anything. Now i told my boyfriend about it last two dats on phone and he disagreed wit that idea and ask me if i will marry him, dat his parents will come to do somethings on my head dat i should not live him 4 another man. Now the both families has came to ask me hand in marry but am still a jambite 4 now. Am now afriad if am puting two brothers in trouble. My problem now is dat i cant live my first man 4 anybody, but my people especially my elder brother dont want me to marry my guy due to he wants his childhold friend to marry me. The worse part of it was dat my elder brother said dat he wont pay my school fees again if i wont do what he ask me to do 4 him. But i cant do dat bcoz he wont live 4 enternity wit his friend or me. So i told my first Bf and his parents came to my house and see my parents but my elder brother is not in support of dat due to he dont want him and he told me dat he wont pay my school fees in university. I hav to let my Bf know what am passing through and he decided that i should further my university in Ghana so dat i will be out of their site and he is ready to pay whatsoever dat is my school fees. I bought school forms and now going further to get addmission in Ghana by God'd Grace.

Now am doing against my people's wish but my parents is on my side dat i should go 4 what i want, but my elder brother who is in good position to see me through in school is saying dat he wont do it 4 me if i refused to do his wish. SO nairaland am i doing the right thing now bcoz am ready to live them now my BF is showing up to marriage and want me to further my education in Ghana dat everything is on his bill no one else.

Please asdvice me am i doing the right thing?

I think u caused it in d first place,before ur relationship wit d internet guy grows 2 the extent of he! Proposing marriage 2 u,dont u think u av went 2 far? I think u should steak wit ur first guy,nd also be careful.gud luck.

my advice, tell ur bro to marry his friend or better still give his first daughter to him

Ol girl e be like say you fine die sha! See how 2 Spanish connections are fighting for your hand. As for your elder brother na him go live with your husband? Babe shine your eye and DO NOT MARRY SOMEBODY BECAUSE YOUR ELDER BROTHER SAID SO cos you would regret it. Pray to God for guidance but marry for love hon!