“It’s Wickedness To Date A Lady For More Than 2 Years Without Marrying Her” – Nigerian Lady Says


A Nigerian lady identified as Chukwunonyelum Akunne has reacted to a viral report that a couple got married after 11 years of dating.

According to her post on Facebook, it is only a wicked guy that can date a lady for more than two years without marrying her.

She wrote:

“It is wickedness for a man to date a girl for more than 2 years.
Pikin wey dem born 1 years ago is in secondary school bikonu.
There is nothing cute about “ancestorial” dating.”

SOURCE: https://primesng.com/wickedness-date-lady-2-years-without-marrying-nigerian-lady-says/

She has a point.

To some extent she is right. If the guy is in that marriageable age,and he keeps moving the goal post forward,we can then consider that wicked.

But if somebody that is 19 yrs old,dates a lady for 2 yrs, i believe he is still not ready in some instances to get married.

Lastly,why do women, especially Nigerian women view marriage as the crowning glory in their life?why do conversations with most women have to some how end up at the marriage corner?

Someone don break her heart be that

Wat is d wickedness there? u tink marriage is a thing one can just run into. both of them need enough tym to knw and understnd each other better. When they r okay wit each other's attitude n character, then they are gud 2 marry. Thy shall not mislead

pikin wey dem born 1 year ago dey secondary school bikonu
For ur vilage, abi??

ok

She's right though, but there are instances that warrant long relationships e.g age, education, maturity, readiness etc. but doesnt really work for everyone.

I have a friend that her boyfriend left after 5 years when he got a multinational high paying job last year after struggling with him for years, his excuse was that he is not ready to settle down, imagine how hurt she felt

Lol

What of a situation the lady says, she is not ready herself for marriage and after 5years, everyone starts looking at the guy as a wicked person.

If he pushes himself into it broke, the people calling him wicked wont be there to help him out financially and then it turns to "that one na man" .

Its not a race.

dis girl fine ooo but mum funmi nor go gree me marry 2nd wife.oops!She's from dat side

she is right ?

even a mint car u test drive for a month don turn to tokunbo

likewise a virgin u test drive for 2 yrs

ur attitude nd expression towards ur husband all the time knowing fully well that ur husband's dad is a rich man...

Samusu:
Someone don break her heart be that

Very correct my brother

Lol, am just observing you for two yrs ni o, three more yrs we can talk of marriage,I don't want surprises

different strokes for different folks madam....if they decide to date for 100 hundred years... izzit your consign is it your date

Chaiii.....dis one don suffer 4 guys hand no be small

Dem tie you put?

Baby mama's will not agree with this. They don't even care

when most girls are confused

And what will she call dating and draining a man's resources for years only to decline his marriage proposal



Goes both ways.
No gender has the monopoly of dishing out heartbreaks.

It's not a must whoever you're dating marries you. There are better things for ladies of this generation to focus on other than marriage. Find your identity first.

You need at least 5 years to know each other very well before marriage mbok

She's got a point. No need dating when you ain't ready to settle down yet

Dating does not mean it must end in marriage. Some ladies do see clear signs that the relationship is heading nowhere but still hang on, hoping against all the odds that is stacked against the relationship ending in marriage.

I'm sure is the datee and the dater that should know when to put on the rings

How? You must be very stupid, just like other girls like you.

After marrying you, you will tell me that I shouldn't cheat on you.... and when I inevitably do, you will start talking about gender equality and why you have the right to "do as I do." Na who send you? Who need the imprisonment called marriage more?

The baby mama arrangement works perfectly. Until when these so-called Instagram and Twitter era Nigerian woemen understand two important things: (1) You can't expect or force your man to be faithful (to cut down on his guyman lifestyle). (2). You are NOT allowed to imitate him, to also have your own affairs outside because he is doing so. In other words, you are not equal in that aspect.

If you're getting married, allow the man to slow down at his own pace (if he chooses to), and you too must lock your pussy to other men and be submissive, regardless of what the man does.

If these conditions are unacceptable to you, then DO NOT force men into marriage. Stay single and live by your own principles the way you want. Don't try to force your rubbish down an innocent man's throat.

She's right. If a man can date a woman for 11 years, what stops him from marrying her? Money?