And it's kindness to jilt a guy on his wedding day.

Sparkles003:

Most times this comment simply means let us Bleep very well first.would you still be in that relationship with this same comment if she says no sex?

No sex BEFORE marriage? Tah. I think people should just go for partners who share their orientations and ideologies.

I, for example, can never rush into marriage, and can never marry any woman a virgin, because I want to SEE and KNOW what I want to marry before going for it.

Some of us are like that.

Yian1:
Wat is d wickedness there? u tink marriage is a thing one can just run into. both of them need enough tym to knw and understnd each other better. When they r okay wit each other's attitude n character, then they are gud 2 marry. Thy shall not mislead

Even if they give you 20years, you still will say its not enough.

desreek9:
She's right though, but there are instances that warrant long relationships e.g age, education, maturity, readiness etc. but doesnt really work for everyone.
I have a friend that her boyfriend left after 5 years when he got a multinational high paying job last year after struggling with him for years, his excuse was that he is not ready to settle down, imagine how hurt she felt

You see, that's why ladies don't like dating broke guys, when they make it, they tend to forget you and move to a "tusher" babe.

Pheo:

no it's not but wen if you don't have her in your budget its best you free her and look for a Bleep buddy till you're ready

Yeah, I get your point.

Unnecessary lamentation... You had the option of moving on. I dated a girl for 2 years and after she was putting pressure on me to settle down. Mbok, I told her I no ready o! Worse comes to worse, we separated amicably. No be do or die o!

dated my ex for 10 still not sure

Pavore9:
Dating does not mean it must end in marriage. Some ladies do see clear signs that the relationship is heading nowhere but still hang on, hoping against all the odds that is stacked against the relationship ending in marriage.

you love betting ehhhhhh

HungerBAD:
She has a point.

To some extent she is right. If the guy is in that marriageable age,and he keeps moving the goal post forward,we can then consider that wicked.

But if somebody that is 19 yrs old,dates a lady for 2 yrs, i believe he still not ready in some instances to get married.

Lastly,why do women, especially Nigerian women view marriage as the crowning glory in their life?why do conversations with most women have to some how end up at the marriage corner?

shebi you're a Nigerian? Nairalanders alone will use their mouth to speak ill of any unmarried 'eligible' lady. Sometimes I pity Rita Dominic.

AnthonyAk:
dated my ex for 10 still not sure

you need jesus

Yian1:
pikin wey dem born 1 year ago dey secondary school bikonu

For ur vilage, abi??

She said 11 years

desreek9:
She's right though, but there are instances that warrant long relationships e.g age, education, maturity, readiness etc. but doesnt really work for everyone.
I have a friend that her boyfriend left after 5 years when he got a multinational high paying job last year after struggling with him for years, his excuse was that he is not ready to settle down, imagine how hurt she felt

This is one of the reason I ended the relationship with my lady. Always quick to quote years of being in a relationship as a crown. Yes, I got a better job, and trying to map out the next plan of action but my girl was more concerned on the 7year relationship leading to a marriage. Honestly, i decided to end it to save the troubles of counting years on my head. My simple point, it takes two to tango. If he isnt ready he isnt ready

Sparkles003:
I concur. Like one of my aunty would say 2 years is enough to have a one year old baby.
The maximum time a guy needs to know a lady is 3months(character, likes,aspirations, wants,dislike,dreams,vision,where she is coming from) if they have been truly honest to each other from the get go of the relationship. My personal opinion

3 months?! Hehehe. "CATASTROPHE".

Yian1:
pikin wey dem born 1 year ago dey secondary school bikonu

For ur vilage, abi??

she wrote 11 not 1

Mryacks:
Not necessarily....every relationship is peculiar in its own way

~Pearl~

Maezara:
No sex BEFORE marriage? Tah. I think people should just go for partners who share their orientations and ideologies.

I, for example, can never rush into marriage, and can never marry any woman a virgin, because I want to SEE and KNOW what I want to marry before going for it.

Some of us are like that.

Ominiknowest
So because you want to "know" the person, it's no longer "who" you want to marry, it's now "what" you want to marry abi
continue "knowing" more power to your "knowing"

Before I forget, MAS

Maezara:
3 months?! Hehehe. "CATASTROPHE".

CATASTROPHIC HOW?
What do you both do when you hang out.
What do you discus when you call"how are you,what did you eat,what are you wearing?
When your with friends what type of topics comes up for disscus.
See all I wrote are things you find out easily in discussions if your a good listener.

Ceejay8:
you need jesus

i need wife na , come show me the way

Flashh:
Sparkles003, you can come to house to explain that better. I don't feel like reading mentions these days.

Thank you for reading and replying mine.there is therefore no need to come to the house.

what's the wickedness there?what if the guy has been tolerating her bad attitudes all those years hoping she will change and mind you ladies of now adays are more prone to leaving a guy at the slightest pressure as compared to a guy leaving a lady

Daeylar:


Ominiknowest
So because you want to "know" the person, it's no longer "who" you want to marry, it's now "what" you want to marry abi
continue "knowing" more power to your "knowing"

Before I forget, MAS

Lol. In a sense, everything in the universe is a "thing".

I'm only just something that wants to know what it wants to marry.

MAS? Errr.... What's that?

Yian1:
Wat is d wickedness there? u tink marriage is a thing one can just run into. both of them need enough tym to knw and understnd each other better. When they r okay wit each other's attitude n character, then they are gud 2 marry. Thy shall not mislead

so you think it is the number of years that will make you understand a girl's character. You are wrong

Sparkles003:

CATASTROPHIC HOW?
What do you both do when you hang out.
What do you discus when you call"how are you,what did you eat,what are you wearing?
When your with friends what type of topics comes up for disscus.
See all I wrote are things you find out easily in discussions if your a good listener.

Lol. I pity you. I'd rather live with a person and OBSERVE their character-nature-behaviour-personality-temperament over a reasonable period of time than have "discussions" and "listen", after which I swim in the sublime pool of delusion, that I "know" them after 3 MONTHS (!).

Seriously, you really mean THREE MONTHS? Are you kidding me?

Maezara:
Lol. I pity you. I'd rather live with a person and OBSERVE their character-nature-behaviour-personality-temperament over a reasonable period of time than have "discussions" and "listen", after which I swim in the sublime pool of delusion, that I "know" them after 3 MONTHS (!).

Seriously, you really mean THREE MONTHS? Are you kidding me?

your opinion

Depends on the circumstances of the DATING!

If na me dey disturb u, i concur. But if na u dey disturb me, it will happen WHEN I AM READY!!

Sparkles003:
your opinion

No. This is REALITY. Not my "opinion". How can you "know" a being as complex and sophisticated as a human being within 3 MONTHS? Unless we're talking about a subhuman, a robot, or some other kind of automaton, it's impossible.

desreek9:
She's right though, but there are instances that warrant long relationships e.g age, education, maturity, readiness etc. but doesnt really work for everyone.
I have a friend that her boyfriend left after 5 years when he got a multinational high paying job last year after struggling with him for years, his excuse was that he is not ready to settle down, imagine how hurt she felt

God will punish such guy

If u rush in my dear...u may end up rushing out too soon oo...biko nnu...just take ur tym abeg if need be!

HungerBAD:
She has a point.

To some extent she is right. If the guy is in that marriageable age,and he keeps moving the goal post forward,we can then consider that wicked.

But if somebody that is 19 yrs old,dates a lady for 2 yrs, i believe he still not ready in some instances to get married.

Lastly,why do women, especially Nigerian women view marriage as the crowning glory in their life?why do conversations with most women have to some how end up at the marriage corner?

Bros, I tire, I went on a date with a girl last week. She started showing the picture of her friend that just got married. I was like hope this girl is not telling me indirectly that she wants to marry soon. She was like I am older than her. First date oo. I tire for girls and marriage.

Yian1:
Wat is d wickedness there? u tink marriage is a thing one can just run into. both of them need enough tym to knw and understnd each other better. When they r okay wit each other's attitude n character, then they are gud 2 marry. Thy shall not mislead

Enough time like 10years ba?