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@Poster

Lets hear your own past, the number of women you had slept with, the kind of clubs you had been, the life you had lived in the past generally- dont leave anything out- then we can compare and contrast and advice you accordingly.

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U shuld sit her down, tel her how much u luv her(be sincere pls) xplain 2 her aw her behaviour is afectin ur relatnship nd wuldn't get u guys anywhere,tel her 2 drop dem nd pls help her in doin so. Wish u luck

Her past frightens you? Oh you r such a chicken!

if your past is that clean, how come you allow yourself to meet such a person you have described? and please, out of curiosity, where did you meet her, or how did you meet her?

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Oh boy.

Live with the past i beg. From the way you talked about her - she seems to be a nice girl. Tell me who doesnt have a past? To some women, your past with four women is enough to scare the living daylights out of them - so, come on, live with it or let her go.

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@ apocalypse
I honestly don't see the dilema here for you. This babe is obviously bad news but you seem to be reluctant to do the smart thing by cutting her out of ur life as quickly as possible.

Are you waiting for her to have another drunken episode where she ends up fucking your best freind & defending herself by giving you the " i was drinking & dancing on the stage , then mistakenly slipped and fell on top of his dick " speech in order for you get the message ?

I believe you know deep in your heart that this girl is no good for you , just  MAN UP  and show her the way to the door b/4 she messes up the good life you have going for you right now .

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@ apocalypse
Dude , why are you still talking like this ? this your babe is so smart she managed to screw up her life so bad b/4 she reached age 23  

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well ur case is touching but i dont think u should leave her, she is recovering, she is still gonna have relapses but u need to stick wit her to the very end and am sure u wouldnt regret it

@ poster,

its a pity i still have a friend as urs that i broke up with, cos in her/my own case tried lying but i caught her, i club, party and get around a lot incidentally i dont smoke and still have lots of control over me, most likely she's a nympho and at the age she/u claim she is[half d babes in our higher institutions are, i hope i'll not be crucified for that ascertion].

it might take a much longer time to effectively change her perceptions to life, , easy money, sugardaddies, guys, boose, sex, etc. my "friend" even went for 3 months councelling at Redeemed camp for trouble young girls somewhere in Epe, she came back and went into it again, scares me sometimes even as a guy, i ve probably done shit stuffs, but i just thank God i didnt sink into it. the issue here, is simple, if you truly want her stick to her if shes honest about moving on start with changing her phone number thats her 1st link to her past, then after take each day as it comes but then u'll also have to be very strong, she get past it, it a phase in life except she's "caused" love is the most stupid feeling in the world but yet still the most wonderful!!!

my "friend" is gradually after almost 2years of shouting, swearing and threats that i'll never see her again adjusting with the real world.

BE STRONG !!!

apocalypse:

@ Labiyemmy : It's not the past I'm worried about it's the future , what are the chances she'll go back to it.

Now you said its the future you are afraid of? then change the title to the post then.

Stick with her! Just be patient, Shes was just astray, when she needed guidance she didn't get one,

We are all capable of going astray sometimes.

Just be her friend for the time being and watch what she does. If you're her boyfriend and she starts slipping up, you'll be pissed and you could push her further into her old lifestyle. I mean, ol' girl went something hard to have accomplished what she did in less than a year.

Give her more time n watch mayb she wil change n if she does nt,quit.a broken r/ship is beta dan a broken marriage.

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@ poster, Godly repentance bringeth no so sorrow. Since she is missing her old ways she will go back to it sooner or later.
Once a LovePeddler always a LovePeddler.
Be wise!

damn!  how the hell do you guys do that stuff.  talk on the phone for 2hrs?     15mins and i'll have an excuse to get off the damn phone, 

anyways,  back to your situation.  there's nothing she has done that is out of this world.  if u really do luv her u might as well share some of her ideas of fun i.e. clubbing and all.

maybe take her clubbing sometimes and let her feel free.  its better she acts like that in front of you rather than hidding it from u.  however, if u really dont dig stuffs like that, then u'll prolly need to find another pass time activity both of you can enjoy that'll keep her from missing her past,

have i said enuff??  

if u ask me i'll say she's aite,  there other things chics do that'll drive you even more crazy than this  

Your story is a little touching. It seems you really love this girl.

To make it work, you both have to give something. You need to spend more time going clubbing and doing what she likes and she needs to tone it down a little. That way both of you dont think you are loosing too much. You sound like a nice guy, but you also need to try and up your game. Go clubbing with her, let her dance her life away, dance with her a little, sit down and relax if you are tired and watch her dance.

Let her know that her reckless lifestyle will lead to her hurting you. I dont think she will want to hurt you intentionally, but it is like someone who wants to stop smoking. You do it gradually. I dont think going cold turkey will work.

Less clubbing for her, you guys should go clubbing together, do other things together. Show her love and be patient. When she finally outgrows this lifestyle she will love you more than you could ever believe, but be really patient with her. You both should agree boundries that wont be crossed (sleeping with other people, being drunk to stupor etc). She is 23 and is still young. Soon she will outgrow this phase.

One thing i know, good girl, bad girl, they all want to be loved (Even ashawo get guy wey she love. I dont mean your girl is a prostitute in anyway)

Hang in there and be positive.