First, i want to know that you were smart enough to get tested before being with her. Her reckless lifestyle is scary. It just shows her thinking, she could have turned to God. I dont think this is a girl you want to be with in the long term. Any kasala, and you know where she is going. Am sorry but a leopard never changes its spots. And she is young. Just let her go and find someone that is more sane. She seems really out of control, think with your head not your heart. Her past is too much of a past.

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Please don't leave her. She will do what she said. Show her love and care. Take her to a psychratic doctor. She needs to help from her depression or else she will go back to her past way of life. Going clubbing with her will not solve the problem. She will always want your attention, please give her as much of your time as you can spare. Her past is a fall out of her depression. Am sure the doctor will give you detail. PLEASE SEE THE DOCTOR.

She can and will regain her decency if treated. Please don't wait time.

From experience people always want to hear what they want to hear. I know what i will say is not what you want to hear, but people hardly change. She is impressionable and a follow follow, also from what she has done shows that she has a weak mind. She will also do most of these things for money. Are you able to satisfy her financially at this stage in your life? what if a friend calls her one day with all the perks of her former lifestyle involved, she will not be able to resist. You have to be confident and sure of the person you are with, and also be even more confident of what she will do when you are not there. If you decide to stay with her, it is at your own risk of heart break and all sorts. You also know that people can have gonorrhea in their mouth right? So many things these days that you cannot afford to be with a reckless person. My concern is the phase she is in her life, all her friends are doing the same thing and what you wont let her do in your presence she will do in your absence. Hope all i wrote makes sense.

there's an adage that says if u can't beat them 4 get them

a wise is enough for the word

i have said it

silentc:

Your story is a little touching. It seems you really love this girl.

To make it work, you both have to give something. You need to spend more time going clubbing and doing what she likes and she needs to tone it down a little. That way both of you dont think you are loosing too much. You sound like a nice guy, but you also need to try and up your game. Go clubbing with her, let her dance her life away, dance with her a little, sit down and relax if you are tired and watch her dance.

Let her know that her reckless lifestyle will lead to her hurting you. I dont think she will want to hurt you intentionally, but it is like someone who wants to stop smoking. You do it gradually. I dont think going cold turkey will work.

Less clubbing for her, you guys should go clubbing together, do other things together. Show her love and be patient. When she finally outgrows this lifestyle she will love you more than you could ever believe, but be really patient with her. You both should agree boundries that wont be crossed (sleeping with other people, being drunk to stupor etc). She is 23 and is still young. Soon she will outgrow this phase.

One thing i know, good girl, bad girl, they all want to be loved (Even ashawo get guy wey she love. I dont mean your girl is a love-peddler in anyway)

Hang in there and be positive.

^^^ True talk.

Apocalypse, I feel you need give her some more time and try to push yourself out a little so that you can enjoy going out sometimes in the evening which necessarily may not be a club if you don't like clubbing and try to see how best you can engage her in some other activities that can take her mind off clubbing. Try to know the things that interest her and try to work it out from that perspective.

@apocalypse. As for me, I believe that someone can still change for the better if he or she REALLY wants to, no matter how disgusting the person's past must hav been. Even the worst criminal on earth today can turn out to be the most beloved saint the world has ever seen tomorrow. Eventhough u will be spooked by her past, u don't hav to worry about it since u very much love her (Cos' it's very obvious that u do from the way u post.) Just keep reassuring her of ur love for her & that u would never hurt her in any way in as much as u would want her to do the same for u. Keep on lending her ur helping hand in overcoming her difficulties. I assure u, with time she will come over. Don't worry, u're doing the right thing. U ARE THE ONLY ONE TO GIVE HER A CAUSE TO CHANGE. Never forget to pray to God for guidance. It's in ur hands, bro. Good luck.

silentc:

Your story is a little touching. It seems you really love this girl.

To make it work, you both have to give something. You need to spend more time going clubbing and doing what she likes and she needs to tone it down a little. That way both of you dont think you are loosing too much. You sound like a nice guy, but you also need to try and up your game. Go clubbing with her, let her dance her life away, dance with her a little, sit down and relax if you are tired and watch her dance.

Let her know that her reckless lifestyle will lead to her hurting you. I dont think she will want to hurt you intentionally, but it is like someone who wants to stop smoking. You do it gradually. I dont think going cold turkey will work.

Less clubbing for her, you guys should go clubbing together, do other things together. Show her love and be patient. When she finally outgrows this lifestyle she will love you more than you could ever believe, but be really patient with her. You both should agree boundries that wont be crossed (sleeping with other people, being drunk to stupor etc). She is 23 and is still young. Soon she will outgrow this phase.

One thing i know, good girl, bad girl, they all want to be loved (Even ashawo get guy wey she love. I dont mean your girl is a love-peddler in anyway)

Hang in there and be positive.

I bet even this guy has a point.

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