nanizle:


To compensate the bride's family for the money resources they spent training her... and also compensation for the lost 'labor'... lady that would otherwise have been working the farm and doing home chores.

What about me, my parents sent me to school, raised me, nurtured me to become a full fledged man to take responsibilities for my home and household ..

I think I deserve the compensation and appreciation so, we guys deserve the "Bride price" or grooms' price ....

Whado u think Na ?

LordIsaac:
It is a poverty inspired act....held onto, because it profits women.
As can be seen from the responses thus far, no logical answers, yet, the practice is in force. You wonder why the superiority complex of a gender over another persists...becaise, you cannot eat your cake, albeit symbolically, and have it!

How does it profit women? Or are you saying that the decision makers in the typical African set up are women?

Let me help you out, who is the bride price paid to? The elderly women of the bride's family or men?

XhosaNostra:


True, it is a money making scheme. More like a return on their investment Remember that they're "losing" a valuable member of their family, while your family is gaining & also receiving all that they've spent years cultivating in her.

pls what is valuable in it? am I not valuable also? what of members of a family that don't even know the child exist, but they will be d one to lobby for bride price.

they are selling their daughter to you

princeade86:
pls what is valuable in it? am I not valuable also? what of members of a family that don't even know the child exist, but they will be d one to lobby for bride price.

Well, I can't counter-argue the practises of YOUR culture because i don't know why or how they do things.

She's valuable to her family, if you don't like that, don't marry her. Finish. You're also valuable to your family, I'm sure, but they're not marrying you off, now is it?

XhosaNostra:


Well, I can't counter-argue the practises of YOUR culture because i don't know why or how they do things.

She's valuable to her family, if you don't like that, don't marry her. Finish. You're also valuable to your family, I'm sure, but they're not marrying you off, now is it?

OK ma. but is greediness

XhosaNostra:


Dude, it's your choice. Nobody is forcing you to marry. Let the people with deep pockets show gratitude to the elders.

u think it's majorly about pocket. It's ok Africans will always be Africans but all I know is that it stops being gratitude the moment there is fact that they wouldn't consent your marriage if u don't pay them (sic) keep up the good practise
#Godblessthewest

princeade86:
OK ma. but is greediness

It is but we gotta preserve "our ways"

histemple:


Of course we know it's culture. What we want to know is the meaning or importance of such cultural practice.

Oh sorry, I thought you didn't know.

brownhawk:
u think it's majorly about pocket. It's ok Africans will always be Africans but all I know is that it stops being gratitude the moment there is fact that they wouldn't consent your marriage if u don't pay them (sic) keep up the good practise
#Godblessthewest

So you want a "free" wife?

Bride Price Is Biblical

XhosaNostra:


It is but we gotta preserve "our ways"

what I believe is that we shud love one another

princeade86:
what I believe is that we shud love one another

Love doesn't pay the bills

XhosaNostra:


Love doesn't pay the bills

and if I pay d bill finish, non of them should come my way again for money . shikena.

princeade86:
and if I pay d bill finish, non of them should come my way again for money . shikena.

...

XhosaNostra:


So you want a "free" wife?

theres nothing like free wife 1.i hate any form of blakmail.
2.whats the essence of paying big as submission to blackmail with curse and tears when I can willingly and conveniently appreciate them how I want
3. Africans can barely see beyond what they have seen. That's the bitter truth so no point in trying to convince anyone further.
4.all I know is that no in law or gf (of your mindset, though I can't mistakenly hook up with one )can push me into paying an extortive and mean bride price or "gratitude" if I don't want because I consider relationship paramount to family members wishes
5.bows out

brownhawk:
theres nothing like free wife 1.i hate any form of blakmail.
2.whats the essence of paying big as submission to blackmail with curse and tears when I can willingly and conveniently appreciate them how I want
3. Africans can barely see beyond what they have seen. That's the bitter truth so no point in trying to convince anyone further.
4.all I know is that no in law or gf (of your mindset, though I can't mistakenly hook up with one )can push me into paying an extortive and mean bride price or "gratitude" if I don't want because I consider relationship paramount to family members wishes
5.bows out

2. It's not up to you, it's their daughter. Take it or leave it.
3. Let them be then.
4. Good. At this point we'll call in the stand-ins. Next!
5. See ya!

XhosaNostra:

...

hope u don marry sha

XhosaNostra:


Love doesn't pay the bills

Sad but true.

Lionessza:




Sad but true.

Fmartin:
Why do one have to pay bride price?

Nairalanders i need your views

People were not consumed with competition and collecting wealth when it started.

Actually, this is a secret that only the real elders know. Dowry was a covenant ceremony. For some ethnicity, elders say some words as they slaughter the animal that will be eaten - to bind the two families (and some curse anyone who breaks the union). Breaking the kola but and sharing traditional brew has the same purpose too.

Nowadays, society is gone. People are only looking for money.

XhosaNostra:


Awww, don't worry, I've been here long enough to sift through the rubble

dragonking2:


Lol. It's smart of you to quickly end the conversation with that guy.

Bride price is a traditional thing, yet they always drag their religion to it.

Is religion not part of the tradition/culture of a people?

It is a compensation for the person who leaves his family, his clan to go to a new family. But it is not always the family of the man who brings the dowry, in other countries, it is the family of the woman who pays the dowry, example in many European countries such as France, in India also.

LordIsaac:
It is a poverty inspired act....held onto, because it profits women.
As can be seen from the responses thus far, no logical answers, yet, the practice is in force. You wonder why the superiority complex of a gender over another persists...becaise, you cannot eat your cake, albeit symbolically, and have it!

Seconded.

Originally meant as a gift from groom's family to that of the bride, it has now become a tax. Poverty warps the mind.

Muafrika2:

People were not consumed with competition and collecting wealth when it started.

Actually, this is a secret that only the real elders know. Dowry was a covenant ceremony. For some ethnicity (sic) elders say some words as they slaughter the animal that will be eaten - to bind the two families (and some curse anyone who breaks the union). Breaking the kola but and sharing traditional brew has the same purpose too.

Nowadays, society is gone. People are only looking for money.

You may have a point.

XhosaNostra:
In some cultures, it is believed that once a woman is married, she is no longer part of her biological family, but a new daughter/ family member to her husband's family. So by paying a bride price, you're showing gratitude to the people who raised her, fed her, sent her to school & instilled some values in her. They prepared her just for you & your family, so you must give them something back as a reward for all the work they had to put in. At least that's how we look at it in my culture. In the olden days you couldn't even run back home if your husband is troubling you, they'd send you back so you can go discuss your issues with your "new mother".

That is not showing gratitude, that is a sale.

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Lwkm

Sagamite:


That is not showing gratitude, that is a sale.

Ok.

ask ur mother op

Sagamite:


That is not showing gratitude, that is a sale.

You mean sale?
How much do you want to pay or will they collect from you will amounts their spends on her...


Foolish word

Hope u know the meaning of 'sale'

Funkybabee:


You mean sale?
How much do you want to pay or will they collect from you will amounts their spends on her...


Foolish word

Hope u know the meaning of 'sale'

You are a fccktard.

Can you tell me what is your understanding of the word "sale"?