Hey guys!

I need some serious advise! I am currently with a guy but I dont know if he is just using me for sex and money. I have money since I have a good job, and he doesnt have a job. When we go out, I always pay. I really dont mind, but if you were a man, would you allow your woman to pay for EVERYTHING? And when we talk on the phone, he is always saying that he misses my puz, When we are together he is always thinking of himself, How can I really know. I have such stroooong fealings, but Im afraid to be hurt (again),


German1234

German1234:

Hey guys!

, he is always saying that he misses my puz, When we are together he is always thinking of himself, How can I really know. I have

run! run! he is not Mr right.

misses ur puzz but not ur heart
plz steer ur ship away from his waters, for ur own gud

How can u know? My guess is u already do!

But Should I completely ignore my feelings? What about them? I really disslike this situation,

When Im with him I feel that Im floating on a pink sky filled with joy and happiness.

And when he's not around I feel like I should be thinking more of myself,

Hate this - but this is really what love does to you, Ay!

hey gurl i know every inch how you feel but believe you me he's a cheat

He probably likes u, but tin is guys like a challenge and am sorry u've bin conquered.
U sound worth keeping but doubt if u look it else he'll b scared of loosing u.

Girl if you feel like he's using you then he's using you

but if u feel he's using u for sex or money- dont sleep with him- dont spend on him

see how he reacts when he visits you expecting sex and he doesnt get it

or when you refuse to go out cos u dont want to pay

his true colours will show-- if he's a good dude he will go and get his brokeass a job!!

i dont think a woman should be paying for anything at all! except for xmas and bday presents

but its lookin like a trend for women to date loosers nowadays

let us no how u go love

You already know.

poster

how can i reach you on FB,
i would really like to discuss this issue with you
seriously,

190
Please not here and it concerns your relationship!

Yield:

You already know.

abi o

Flashfast1:

abi o

she prob just needs confirmation every woman comes to a crossroad in a relationship

and will always need an idea from a different perspective

aint nothing wrong with it!!

ayettymama:

she prob just needs confirmation every woman comes to a crossroad in a relationship

and will always need an idea from a different perspective

aint nothing wrong with it!!

That so true, I guess I just need a kick in the behind afterall, Anywell, I have a lot to think about now,

190:

poster

how can i reach you on FB,
i would really like to discuss this issue with you
seriously,

190
Please not here and it concerns your relationship!

Erm, is this a message for me or yourself?

i wonder whypeople still want to ask the audience,when they know the right things to do, if fire is burning you and you are still asking whether is good for you, i mean this sound rediculus. run for your dear life, else what you are preventing will later happen

@OP
If you must ask, then you already know he IS just using you. . .free meal ticket and all.

What a lucky guy he is,you cater for his bills and service him too.

Why should he not miss your pu%%y.

lmao@ osama don''t u wish u were that lucky?

be careful with pieces of advice you receive from some female members of NIL. They always give stereotypical answers. If you had changed the question " I'm dating this Naija guy, He does not show me any affection " they would tell that Naija men are like that and he might have wife in Naija. Be careful of one size fits all solutions. You really know this guy more than these nameless and faceless folks. It depends on the context, if you guys really love to talk dirty, that's no way he will not use those words or maybe if you told him that the sex was good, should you not expect his response to be sexually and explicitly worded?

If you think you are being used, chances are, you are, BUT speak to your man about this issue or hold the puz and the spending and see if things will remain the same, all the best! How long have you dated this man?

Hate doin dis but ayet 's right bt dats frm a female's perspective. He might b tryin his best 2 get a job and i see u layd more emphasis on u payin 4 everything. I advice u just talk 2 him about it b4 takin drastic measures.

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be careful with pieces of advice you receive from some female members of NIL. They always give stereotypical answers. If you had changed the question " I'm dating this Naija guy, He does not show me any affection " they would tell that Naija men are like that and he might have wife in Naija. Be careful of one size fits all solutions. You really know this guy more than these nameless and faceless folks. It depends on the context, if you guys really love to talk dirty, that's no way he will not use those words or maybe if you told him that the intimacy was good, should you not expect his response to be sexually and explicitly worded?

i hear what your saying-- put me bein a woman aside, or me not likin nigerian men aside

what kind of honest respectable man sits around waitin like a scrub for a woman to be payin for all thier dinners??

a man with no job shouldnt even have a gf, he should be lookin for a job!!!!

if any man will succeed in life- he wont have a woman paying for his ish-----Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime---unfortunately this girl is gonna be feedin him food and puzzy until she fixes up and finds a man that has a job!!!!

i can tell my babe i miss her puzz and that doesnt mean i dont miss her heart or whatever fckery someone spewed up

so its a biggie when a guy doesnt have money and the babe pays the bill but not when a guy caters for all and y'all sit ur fat asses to watch movies .

@OP talk to ur guy and tell him ur fears, if he really wants u, then he'll sit up

besides, try and get him a job and stop giving him money. Ure not his father. If europe is bad, he shd pack his bags and run to Lagos

tkb417:

i can tell my babe i miss her puzz and that doesnt mean i dont miss her heart or whatever fckery someone spewed up

so its a biggie when a guy doesnt have money and the babe pays the bill but not when a guy caters for all and y'all sit your fat asses to watch movies .

of course it depends on ur communication i alwaysused to tell my ex i miss his prickk- doesnt i dont love him (or maybe it does!!!)

yes its a biggie not because a wona can collect money and a guy cant, but because no self respecting guy will do it, people can lament all they want, even if a guy has small money he still has dignity knowin he worked for it and spends it wiseley. A guy that sits around waitin for a woman to pay all the bills is nothing more than a scrub and a looser!!!

@Poster forgive me for saying this "this does not sound right" your guy seems like a user.


 Feelings can be powerful but, in this case put yourself 1st

why is he not working?

Na wa oh, tomorrow now you'll come and say he duped you! lol!

A guy that sits around waitin for a woman to pay all the bills is nothing more than a scrub and a looser!!!

ure right ayettymama

scrub and loser!!! what do u call a woman that does that
pidgeon and loser shey

miller123:

why is he not working?

because he's a scrub

Ujujoan:

Na wa oh, tomorrow now you'll come and say he duped you!  lol!  

its bad to say but its tru- women should have this kinda attitude when dealin wit nigerian men

tkb417:


ure right ayettymama

scrub and loser!!! what do u call a woman that does that
pidgeon and loser shey

ill call her a housewife!!!

lol u guys have no better defence!!- anyways it all boils down to ur upbringin

ayettymama:

ill call her a housewife!!!

lol u guys have no better defence!!- anyways it all boils down to your upbringin

housewife in this 21st century?

what if somethn happens to the guy? how will she cope and catch up

any woman that believes in the term called 'housewife' is a pidgeon and loser

ayettymama:

because he's a scrub

its bad to say but its tru- women should have this kinda attitude when dealin wit nigerian men

Why Nigerian men only?  

As far as I'm concerned, they are all the same.

@ Poster!

I dont get why people think they have to pay the bills to show their love! If he cant take you out, then you guys should stay in doors! If you enjoy s3x with him, go ahead and do it for yourself and not for him!

You are still asking if he's just using you, when you already know the answer!