Dear Ijay,

To be honest with you, distance could be one of those factors that distrupt courtship if care is not taken.

My candid suggestion to you is to pay an unschedule visit to your man where it is possible.  What ever the outcome may now inform your decision on this matter.

Have a wonderful season.

get busy with ur time and try think positively

think positive as fihan has just advised.

it happened to me too, and when i asked friends, they told not to think negative.

for three months, he didn't call me and after calling him concurrently, i got tired and i stopped but eventually, he kept calling again and thaty was it. although, he later confessed to me, he was having a nice time with a lady as at the time he stopped calling.
although, when he stopped calling me, he was still calling my siblings and when i wanted to quit the courtship, my siblings were advising me to give him another chance and that he just needed time.

my friend, put everything in prayer. i don't know how to pray before but learnt it when i got engaged and things wasn't going fine.

God answered my prayer and today we are married and i trust him the more.

Hello friend,
this is not where to post ur romantic problems. this is for job seekers. My advice for u is to get a job and stop thinking about him

I've never seen any topic get these much responses from Nairalanders. An advice for you though, if he was calling frequently and all of a sudden stops calling (and its not a result of money shortage) then the alarm bells are high! Take it from a man. Long distance relationships have this problem in common.

@ izzau
bros na wa for you.how could you say that.
i guess ur the kind of person that would behave like this ijay's guy
birds a feather they say,flock together
i guess you're   a player like me

I assure you, he has another girl. No doubt about it. You should start letting him go from your heart.

@mylife:

Relax, if you wanted to find postings on jobs, try the Careers, Jobs, or the gazillion postings on Vacancies in Nairaland?!
Why would you being a reasonable person _{(let's assume),} click on a title that refers to a personal dilemma and then lament about it not being about jobs??

I tire O!

trini_girl:

I assure you, he has another girl. No doubt about it. You should start letting him go from your heart.

You sound quite ludicrous.

Douzy:

You sound quite ludicrous.

Thank you for sharing your feelings.  However, perhaps I know more than you think. 

She should let him go.

IT all in the mind if you fear losing him this much -you might have lost him already

If he see other woman no wan now.he shall retrun to you if he was meant to be.instaed of worrying about that get some thing intresting and useful to do with yourself.

Why hold anything too tight * sigh*

My dear, be calm. It might be nothing maybe work has become real hectic for him but again be 'alert' cos you never know these men they can shock you,

@ ijayc

I thought I read somewhere where you said you had a boyfriend before and all he did irritated you and that you got yourself a new boyfriend and he rocks!! You see, that's the problem with you girls. When you're with somebody and you suddenly see this other guy that you have the hots for, you start seeing everything that's bad in your guy.

I'm not wishing bad stuff for you and hope you guys are able to sort yourselves out. I just have the feeling that I've seen these situations so often and the girl is usually the loser.

@THE ONE, i agree with u but not completely.the lady is almost always the looser,not when she's smart.
@topic sorry gal, 1 word 4 u: assumption is dangerous! have a face 2 face,heart 2 heart talk with ur bro, it should settle things.if it doesn't 4 u then u can pull ur self 2gether & move on.
remember,life is beautiful .
enjoy

hava coke and chill
life aint dat complex
at least u aint married yet,
cos if u think hes cheatin,
then he probbly is

@ the poster,why don't you take a bus,ABC or any of the others  from Lagos to Port Harcourt and find out for yourself if your fiancee is up to anything.
You can speculate till the cows come home but a sudden visit will speak volumes.
Any woman you see around that is not his blood sister makes him suspect.
"Cousins" don't count!

what do u have to loose if he keeps another gal over there?, Na waa for u. soonest he will start to suspect you too, since you dont know the way to where he stays to find things yourself. Till you learn to grow, it is cheers from me

@ one

I thought I read somewhere where you said you had a boyfriend before and all he did irritated you and that you got yourself a new boyfriend and he rocks!! You see, that's the problem with you girls. When you're with somebody and you suddenly see this other guy that you have the hots for, you start seeing everything that's bad in your guy.




Well i ended that one and gave myself time before i went into this one so it was not this one that made me to leave him.
2ndly i wish to thank all that have contributed to it and i will make out time 2 visit and after then i will know the decision to take. i wish all a nice day.

Good girl!

dont ever visit such a man without informing him.
you may end up sleeping outside or if he's the nice type he may put you in a hotel room or a cheap guest house and tell you about his visiting relatives whom he doesn't want you to meet.
call him before you visit.

bennygee:

don't ever visit such a man without informing him.
you may end up sleeping outside or if he's the nice type he may put you in a hotel room or a cheap guest house and tell you about his visiting relatives whom he doesn't want you to meet.
call him before you visit.

Well if that happens,her questions would have been answered!

where u talk say him dey again ph.4get it cos the girls 4 dat town wicked they nodey pitty man even if u nowan do dem go do u.i go jst advice u say make u begin dey pray

mine went to ph and became something else. i feel is best u zero ur mind dat u've lost him and hope for the best in ur heart.fellybabe is right,who knows,he might come back.

What makes u think so and girl y r u scared, chill. U women always over eact. Damn!

I think u should just confront him and whatever he says, come back and tell us and we tell u what next to do.

Dont sweep ur intiution under the carpet cause woman have the best and are very alert when it comes to that.

Ask him and then decide go to him unannounced or better still, ask someone to spy on him for u - i would.

abeg leave the man jo,why you dey greedy like dat?only you fit finish the THING,no kill yourself for nothing o.