Please i beg you, dont let anyone presurize you to the extent of making you desperate. A man is meant to find a wife and not you lovely sisters bearching with all desperation for a man. This week alone two people i know who let themselves become desperate and got husbands by hook or by crook are now on their way to being divorced.
First Case, She is a nice friendly, kind and upwardly mobile sister, met this guy who was ok but as far as i could see too ambitious and greedy, fast fast she asked his boss to introduced them, she never gave hime breathing space, greedy boy saw rich woman, next they were married in november, now we are in may, they are all over town abusing each other, he is saying she forced him to marry her, she is saying he is a greedy man who wants her to defraud her organization with his constant demands. he made her buy a jeep which he uses, live in a House which she could not afford. Hmmm.
Second case, a dear friend, met a guy, one two one two, got pregnant, married, guy lost his job with one of this banks, madam has been turned to a punching bag, her father went to pack her things out himself sfter his daughter spent 2 weeks in coma, hanging between life and death.
Moral of this close up experiences, My sisters, Be patient, The man will find you, dont rush, The women who even though marry late but are patient find and marry men who appreciate them. Abeg, I hate hearing such stories

Female 'Maga' tales

Just like a typical woman, you trying to base love off of fears. Do you see the problem in your argument? I doubt it because you are a woman.

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Utter dross. There are many marriages that broke up in which the man was the initiator of the relationship.

Whether its the man that finds the woman or the woman finds the man, the issue is to give each other time to know themselves. Whether they are compatible or not, marriage is a life time commitment, its not just an ordinary game. I know there is no specific time limit but less than one yr is not adviseable.

neily:

Whether its the man that finds the woman or the woman finds the man, the issue is to give each other time to know themselves. Whether they are compatible or not, marriage is a life time commitment, its not just an ordinary game. I know there is no specific time limit but less than one yr is not adviseable.

[size=15pt]i have been saying these things

marriage is not an easy thing

DONT RUSH IN TO MARRIAGE

ELSE U RUSH OUT~

it might be sweet but after 3yrs, who is to blame
despite having kids,

KNOW YOUR PARTNERS
DATE FOR LIKE 5YRS OR SOME TIN AND GET MARRIED

I would keep advising people but they wont listen[/size]

guess she cud see this thread anyway

Dating like 5 years is almost like being married nevertheless, it's of utmost important in a relationship , prayer shouldn't be undermined.

Another is tolerance, but don't forget that familiarity breeds contempt, hence foreknowledge won't be a bad idea .

Please i beg you, dont let anyone presurize you to the extent of making you desperate. A man is meant to find a wife and not you lovely sisters bearching with all desperation for a man. This week alone two people i know who let themselves become desperate and got husbands by hook or by crook are now on their way to being divorced.
First Case, She is a nice friendly, kind and upwardly mobile sister, met this guy who was ok but as far as i could see too ambitious and greedy, fast fast she asked his boss to introduced them, she never gave hime breathing space, greedy boy saw rich woman, next they were married in november, now we are in may, they are all over town abusing each other, he is saying she forced him to marry her, she is saying he is a greedy man who wants her to defraud her organization with his constant demands. he made her buy a jeep which he uses, live in a House which she could not afford. Hmmm.
Second case, a dear friend, met a guy, one two one two, got pregnant, married, guy lost his job with one of this banks, madam has been turned to a punching bag, her father went to pack her things out himself sfter his daughter spent 2 weeks in coma, hanging between life and death.
Moral of this close up experiences, My sisters, Be patient, The man will find you, dont rush, The women who even though marry late but are patient find and marry men who appreciate them. Abeg, I hate hearing such stories

The women who are patient usually don't find any men to marry @all.

^^that could also be true.

Its not true

wht a confusing headline

[color=#770077][/color] The aim of this post is not to paint men black and women white.The aim is to open dear sistas eyes to the fact that marrying late is not a crime,marrying wrong is the crime and just cos you are getting older does not mean you should be desperate and not check out the guy properly thats just wat she is saying cos marriage is your life. and please guys we all know all women are not good women.

Marriages fail and sometimes, this has nuffin to do with who initiated the whole thang
but I agree with You-the man should find the woman and not the other way round.

@ OP,

i think your first sentence was enough to pass the message across. but then you went ahead and confused us with them stories. whether the girl finds the man or the man finds the girl is not the issue, the issue is what happens after they find each other ,

my 2 cents

andromida:

[color=#770077][/color] The aim of this post is not to paint men black and women white.The aim is to open dear sistas eyes to the fact that marrying late is not a crime,marrying wrong is the crime and just cos you are getting older does not mean you should be desperate and not check out the guy properly thats just wat she is saying cos marriage is your life. and please guys we all know all women are not good women.

Thanks

THANK GOD THAT U KNOW THAT.[b][/b]