Good day LS,

I was introduced to your blog three months ago and I must confess,it has been a huge blessing to my life. I love to read the stories and how you and one of your commenters:Uche always advice on the issues. I am a believer and I thank God for people like you who are fighting for godly marriages. I have been married for twelve years and it has not been easy but I thank God for His grace.

I am constantly being eaten up by the guilt of what I did about a year ago. It was a horrible mistake and I cannot forgive myself. You see,years ago,when my marriage was about eight years,my husband cheated on me. When I found out,I was broken.I mean.we are Christians. I never dreamed that one day,we would find ourselves in such a mess as s*xual sin. I know no one is perfect but I never ever expected it. My husband was a righteous man. He feared God. He loved God. He would frown at adultery in marriage in  a heartbeat. When it happened,my husband apologized and begged me. I was so devastated. I was depressed for months.I couldn't bring myself to see him as the man that I loved and married. It was such a big betrayal to me.

Eventually,after like two years,I began to put the whole thing behind me. Or so I thought. As I say this, I am crying cos I dont know how this happened. But I became a gym fan after my husband's affair. I thought he didnt like my body. I felt insecure about my looks so I began to gym and I was really good at it. But the problem started when

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But the problem started when I met a new guy at the gym. We started talking as just members of the same gym but it became a friendship over a few weeks. He would call me to find out why I was late to the gym or even absent. Sometimes,he would volunteer to be my gym partner. I guess I was just thrilled to have a man interested in me. He really encouraged me to follow through my keeping fit journey.

Something crazy happened one day. As we exercised,he was actually helping me to do my tummy exercises. And the next thing I know is,I had an orgasm!…It was so obvious that he noticed and I was embarrassed. He laughed and told me not to worry about it. That however opened up the opportunity for us to have conversations around sxual topics.It was flirty and we used to tease each other. Before I knew it,I was meeting him in a hotel and I slept with him. It happened once and I felt so horrible after. I was so sad afterwards. But the devil wasn’t through with me. Somehow,this guy convinced me that I was in love and he could make me happier. I never really had an orgasm with my husband. Most especially since his affair. This guy opened my eyes to a whole new sxual experience that I was not used to. I slept with him a second time before God arrested me. I stopped seeing this guy. I blocked his line and stopped going to the gym.

That was two years ago. Am afraid I didn’t tell my husband.For a long time I blamed him for this. Yes,if he hadn’t cheated,our marriage would still have been perfect.I would never have registered in a gym and I would never had met a guy to cheat with. I have prayed to God to forgive me but every time I pray,I feel convicted to confess to my hubby. The problem with that though,is I feel like,he would not forgive me. I feel like our marriage would not survive another infidelity. You know,its easy for women to forgive infidelity,men ,not so much. So ever since,I buried this secret with me but I get consumed every day by the guilt.

Please tell me what to do. I have been praying about this. Since reading stories from your blog,I have been getting a bit hopeful but I am also scared. I love my husband. I cry every time I make love to my husband cos the picture of this guy keeps flashing in my mind. I even think about it sometimes and it makes me feel worse.

We are trying to repair our marriage. Will telling my husband help or should I or just keep quiet and suffer this guilt in silence?

Sis Hannah,

Lagos

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Made up story from a traffic hungry blogger.

Don't blame ur husband for ur mishap. U Just want to Bleep.

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Go ahead and tell your husband what happened. Pray about it before telling him so that you can obtain his favour. Stop blaming him for your misdeed, he didnt cause it, you did!
By keeping it to yourself and feeling guilty of it all the time, you are adding more sin to your guilt.
How? By indulging in sin of unforgiveness
Not forgiving who? Yourself!

One solution is see a good therapist. I am one. He will help you deal with the guilt plus the intrusive images and get you to forgive yourself, get closure and start a new life with your husband. You don't have to tell your husband if you don't want to.

You don't really have to confess to your husband unless you're ready for the consequences. Forgive yourself and never do it again. Some secrets are better taken to the grave

Dyt:


But the problem started when I met a new guy at the gym. We started talking as just members of the same gym but it became a friendship over a few weeks.

Sis Hannah,

Lagos

Thanks for sharing the final part here

Kumar4india:
Good day LS,

I was introduced to your blog three months ago and I must confess,it has been a huge blessing to my life. I love to read the stories and how you and one of your commenters

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OP, I will advise you to settle this with God only. The forgiveness of your husband holds no water if God does not forgive you. Truly plead for God's Mercy, then go & sin no more. And if you truly hear from God that you should confess to your husband, then go ahead. I am sure God has settled it beforehand

Guard your marriage with all jealous, if you still have interest in it.

I do tell my gf that if she mistakenly cheats on me, she should seek the face of the Lord & keep it a secret from me till death I can't bear the heavy pain. 'Igbe kinkin leti awo, bi oju ba kuro nibe, okan le ma kuro nibe'

Mm

If you still want your marriage ,don't tell him!

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chivera018:
Made up story from a traffic hungry blogger.

And people will still drop comments here

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