Curvinus:
These hoes ain't just loyal and that is their nature. It's factory fitted man. If they are not panning after good looks, they are aching for a rich dude, meaning they'll still try to destroy a beautiful relationship either way. Trust me, I've seen it all. Only thing I wanna do now is fvck cos I never met a biitch that I can trust. I've had bitches bite me when I was really in love (duh) despite claiming they were different at the outset. Its all bullshit. These hoez are remarkably similar.

Some guys are desperate for something more meaningful with a woman, love, a proper relationship and blah blah. Fair enough, I understand that desire, but all this shit still applies. You will get bleeped. It’s not a question of if, but when.

My advice to op and other niggyz is live your life on your own terms and don’t feel like you have some fucking duty to these ungrateful harpies who’ll never appreciate all the sweat and toil you put into making ends meat. If you’re not already lumbered with a woman, a woman’s problems, and a kid, sit back, sip a JD & Coke from a cocktail straw and let it all fucking burn.

chokey419:
Even if na wife a real man never hits a lady.

lyrical:
Only candid advice have recieved so far..

Ridbaay:
Hv got a lady whom hv got a clear intentn in relation to relationship and we had met officially for like 3months. She's a student & self employed.

Within my power ve been fulfilling necessary gestures deem fit as a man but the bone of contention here is her reply has been *I ain't ready for any relationship*. This statement weigh me down & confused. She already told you she ain't ready. I'd advise you to take a break from her or move on permanently, if not she will just agree thinking she has done you a favour. That's when she will bring in her sense of entitlement, taking advantage of you and all the annoying things these slayqueens do.



what step can I take?

Ridbaay:
Hv got a lady whom hv got a clear intentn in relation to relationship and we had met officially for like 3months. She's a student & self employed.

Within my power ve been fulfilling necessary gestures deem fit as a man but the bone of contention here is her reply has been *I ain't ready for any relationship*. This statement weigh me down & confused.



what step can I take?

chiommy123:
you were very wrong for slapping her. she is not your wife for crying out loud

Mcbussy:

He shouldn't even slap his wife.

Ximenez:
Take a break or leave her completely. Lest she will just accept you thinking she's doing you a favour.That's when she will start taking you for granted.

Ridbaay:
break like how many wks / months bro. I appreciate u

IamD18:


You don't have sense.

fran6co:
go and take ur 45k fone and still live her, c to b honest a guy Nd a girl can never b BESTIE, something must happen infact ur girlfriend has been looking for way to provoke u so u will act harsh so she will hav a valid reason to go with the guy.

Ximenez:
Just for sometime bro, to see if she will reach out to you.

pocohantas:
From your story, I don't think anything is going on between them YET. What I can say is, the guy has a thing for your girl (and she probably feels same way too). So, they are trying to hide it under the bestie umbrella.


I am more concerned about the lack of respect from her and from you too. Even if the guy is her bestie, of which I don't think 5mths is enough for this kinda bond, she doesn't have to rub it in your face.
That shows disrespect from her. But then, why should you slap her?
You slapped her before, you have slapped her again...what next?

5yrs is a whole lot to throw away. Relationships do get boring along the way, especially long ones like yours. You both can fix this.

Please, keep your hands to yourself next time.

lyrical:
Only candid advice have recieved so far..

fancy4eve:
Hmmmmmm, wrong advice from a front fellow. I don't see reasons y u should get back d phone wen u know u re more dan it.

fran6co:

well u can keep the fone with her bt tbh that girl has been scheming to jet out of the relationship bt she doesn't want the reason to emanate from her.

MisterBash:
Well my lil contribution is: don't be too quick to judge if they are doing it or not, why don't you take your time and get to the root of the matter first.5yrs relationship Nobi beans bro.
And in addition I am totally against the issue of having opp sex as a bestie bro,because It happened I was a bestie to 'A' back then as an undergraduate, yeah we did it over and over under the canopy of bestie radarada, I later option out due to conscience sh*t, although me and 'A' bf weren't friends but I do feel bad whenever d nigga comes to check his babe in my hostel.
Take your time, ,seriously it could be what you are thinking and it could be other way round.
Besides, 5years relationship you should have known lots of stuffs bout her bro.

fancy4eve:
Hmmmmmm, wrong advice from a front fellow. I don't see reasons y u should get back d phone wen u know u re more dan it.

fancy4eve:
u went too far by hitting her, daz domestic violence u know, u know u can't do dat 2 ur sis, y do dat 2 sum one else's child.

U need 2 apologize 4 slapping her, den sit her down nd talk 2 her, make her see reasons y she should drop d best frwnd stuff nd if she refuses, den u make her choose btw u both. Her answer will tell nd pls do not collect d phone u bought 4 her, leave her to her conscience.

Ximenez:
Where did he tell you that he's more than that?He said he used his last card to buy phone for someone who isn't worth it. Which is a top act of foolishness in the first place.

lyrical:

i did exactly what you said and she told me nothing was going on.... apologised for the slap. Now, we are in good terms though i have not known my position yet. but she has stopped the visiting the guy sha... We just dey look. she still thinking about it i guess.

lyrical:
Bro she is worth more than it okay?