Be specific about the effect it is having on her.

pacino26:
What you're passing through is a phase for most men after their wife put to bed.

It can be as a result of an indescribable feeling of disgust, empathy over what your wife passed through. In some cases also if you're having some financial tsunami. Whatever be the reason don't take it out on her. Talk things over and try to be lively again.

Get her out of limbo too cuz you might have successfully shut her down. Try going out with her and the kid, do a lot of talking and probably she needs to get out of the "I am a mom" act. I don't know but you need to get her dressed up as a hot girl not as a wife. Wish you luck.

Thank you very much bro

franchasng:
strip clubs don't move all men....it mostly move young boys and teenagers seeing a woman's nake*d body for the first time.

To someone like me, a strip club will irritate me....I keep wondering how guys find such irritating places exciting to visit....same way, I often wonder how guys manage to have sex with a known prostitute; so irritating and repulsive

In summary, strip club might do nothing to him....what he is experiencing is normal with majority of married men...the only difference is most married men pretend and hide this feelings from their wife in order not to make their wife feel hurt...but the truth remains, men get tired of sleeping with their wife with time, if u doubt me, get closer to married men and hear their sad tales

And you think the women don't know? Or because they don't whine about like you guys are fond of...everyone assumes only women deprive their husbands of sex. shior!

I actually went through same 2 years ago but was able get out of it. Are you 40 and above? My own case started when i turned 40 and many of my friends have experienced same after 40 but never worry it's solvable. I don't know how your wife is able to manage the situation as i read others said you should be open to your wife and discuss but mine wasn't so convincing in managing the situation and i think most women will have that attitude of leaving you to solve your problem or unnecessaryly anger cos of sex.

3 things you need to do, you need to change your pre-intimacy and do some other wild pre-intimacy to get in the mood, stop using missionary if you are not hard enough, i hope she will be ready with you on that because they are mainly beneficiary of wild pre-intimacy, BJ will help you.

2ndly, try and work on your anxiety and state of mind of thinking you will disappoint her once you starts or getting scared of having sex with her, it's hard to do but try and occupy your mind with some other thing before pre-intimacy and during penetration, once you enter her with good hardon you will be fine and your 2nd round will be better than 1st.

3rdly, you need to get some herbal roots to always get your horney. Best of luck pal.

mikejj:
MAN u are trying to bring problems into your home...

guy u no try at all

mikejj:
MAN u are trying to bring problems into your home...

guy u no try at all

you had enough of it when you was in your youthful days and as time passes things changes everyday and you loss desire for sex cause of your long involvement in it when you was unmarried... Our women often don't do things they did before they got in our home ,they now consider themselves being a mom and won't try work on themselves...in America ,you'll see a 50 years old woman rocking Jordan and look like she in her 20's these things attracts men younger to those women. our women needs to be aware and more counselling will help them improve...I hope this help

Techsupport:

I get u hombre. Nice point

I salute u bro

evilspirit:
I THINK YOU ARE GAY. do you find men attractive? guru03

I pray the evil in you does not dominant you for the rest of your life, repent.

nomsreal:
a Nigerian who apologises, that is rare in Nigeria these days. We are all usually right

hahaha just a Nigerian by birth

pocohantas:


And you think the women don't know? Or because they don't whine about like you guys are fond of...everyone assumes only women deprive their husbands of sex. shior!

lol

ImaIma1:


You think it is only the man stuck with one person for the rest of his life. You don't think the woman too is in the same situation.

That is why they need to constantly spice things up and not let the marriage run on auto pilot.

you are right, sadly

Eberex:


Are you sure on the bolded?

Tested Trusted & Reliable.. That's when u want to boost ur sex urge.. U also take more of banana, un-ripped plantain porridge (that helps in increasing manHood) .. I would quote u once I get my jotter with all the sex goodies

Eberex:


True. I married few months ago and suddenly, the poo is happening to me. I used to be crazy about sex but the knowledge alone that she would be there whenever i need it is also part of the problem. The mind also is a VERY powerful thing. If the mind has conceived something, one had better work out on way to control and reset it back to default.

I am not married yet but I have married friends who complain of this effect and it usually gets me worried because its not as if they are cheating on their wives, but sexual urge generally is dying in them after they got married, life sha

God will strengthen you married guys, stay strong

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franchasng:
I am not married yet but I have married friends who complain of this effect and it usually gets me worried because its not as if they are cheating on their wives, but sexual urge generally is dying in them after they got married, life sha

God will strengthen you, married guys, stay strong

Guy, it is not a joking matter at all at all.

Let me try and explain. You know when you are maybe in a club or party and you see pretty girls in seducing wears, your dick responds immediately and if one doesn't take time, you might start feeling Hot there. Now if these ladies are to go completely naked, your dick would definitely get more excited. Shey, you get?

But when i am at home, my wife walks naked around the house, yet junior doesn't respond. Explain that! I asked her to do me a favour just a few days ago, that she should reduce the "walking naked" thing in the house. That the mind is very crazy at times, and that seeing something every now and then tends to diminish its interest. I tried to paint it in a picture that she also would understand. Luckily for me, she did.

Personally, i have a complex mind. Things tend to get into it and its hard to get it back to default. I love sex a lot, but suddenly its no longer like that, even when you know you can have it with your wife.

But i have resolved to deal with it and find a solution, starting with my mindset. All i would see, eat and touch would be my wife. All my thoughts would go to her, be it a naked lady, i would put her face on hers. I need to start finding her super attractive even without being naked. I need to touch, cuddle, caress her more. The moment a man takes his eyes off his wife, things starts to fall.

Love is not the same thing as sexual attraction, that is what i have found out. You can love your wife but you dont feel sexually attracted to them, and this should not be the case. IT IS ALL IN THE MIND. MINDSET IS A BITCH. Anyone who has a control of his MIND,can do ANYTHING.

SO YOU THINK ONLY MARRIED PEOPLE KNOW BETTER? IT WILL SURPRAISE YOU TO KNOW SO MANY SO CALL COUPLE'S KNOWS NOTHING. GO AND TREAT INFECTION FAST.

Diet plays a huge part in libido... most marriages turn to solid regular foods and coupled with little exercise, madam grows fat and Oga becomes lazy

Take fruits or smoothies as breakfast... especially watermelon (the skin is the power), pineapples, cucumbers, avocado pears .... but ALL fruits help... and cut down on pasta etc

get some exercise too

Some of us can easily "damage" in our late 40s/50s and have to regularly, because we live right

goodies4life:
SO YOU THINK ONLY MARRIED PEOPLE KNOW BETTER? IT WILL SURPRAISE YOU TO KNOW SO MANY SO CALL COUPLE'S KNOWS NOTHING. GO AND TREAT INFECTION FAST.

What a married person has seen even if you that is single even if you climb the highest mountain is still blinded, wait for you time.

nuclearboy:
Diet plays a huge part in libido... most marriages turn to solid regular foods and coupled with little exercise, madam grows fat and Oga becomes lazy

Take fruits or smoothies as breakfast... especially watermelon (the skin is the power), pineapples, cucumbers, avocado pears .... but ALL fruits help... and cut down on pasta etc

get some exercise too

Some of us can easily "damage" in our late 40s/50s and have to regularly, because we live right

Noted, Nice one.

start taking tramadol...as simple as that

Take her on a holiday, i mean away from home for a day or two, u two alone, without the kids, sometimes change of environment sparks up things, u will find out the urge for good lovemaking will heat up and remember u two should wear something very hot.

thank me later

guru03:
Am happily married with a kid, but of recent I have lost interest in having sex and I know its affecting my wife, and have not cheated on my wife, please I need advice from married couples, no insults please, sincere opinion.

Many factors could caused lost of sexual appetite a little tips that can be of help is alcohol and watching porn movie. These two element are good to arouse sex urge.

Eberex:


Guy, it is not a joking matter at all at all.

Let me try and explain. You know when you are maybe in a club or party and you see pretty girls in seducing wears, your dick responds immediately and if one doesn't take time, you might start feeling Hot there. Now if these ladies are to go completely naked, your dick would definitely get more excited. Shey, you get?

But when i am at home, my wife walks naked around the house, yet junior doesn't respond. Explain that! I asked her to do me a favour just a few days ago, that she should reduce the "walking naked" thing in the house. That the mind is very crazy at times, and that seeing something every now and then tends to diminish its interest. I tried to paint it in a picture that she also would understand. Luckily for me, she did.

Personally, i have a complex mind. Things tend to get into it and its hard to get it back to default. I love sex a lot, but suddenly its no longer like that, even when you know you can have it with your wife.

But i have resolved to deal with it and find a solution, starting with my mindset. All i would see, eat and touch would be my wife. All my thoughts would go to her, be it a naked lady, i would put her face on hers. I need to start finding her super attractive even without being naked. I need to touch, cuddle, caress her more. The moment a man takes his eyes off his wife, things starts to fall.

Love is not the same thing as sexual attraction, that is what i have found out. You can love your wife but you don't feel sexually attracted to her, and this should not be the case. IT IS ALL IN THE MIND. MINDSET IS A BITCH. Anyone who has a control of his MIND,can do ANYTHING.

I totally agree with the part in bold. I think at that point, you now see her like your own sister and the love is now blood, platonic and commitment instead of sexual.

This loss-of-sexual-attraction for wife syndrome I hear many married men confess secretly to their closest male friends always get me scared because I can imagine it....and in most cases, the woman may not understand what the husband is going through and she may start to accuse him of cheating when he may not be cheating with any woman.

Just like me...even though I am single...my brother for the past 4 months or more, I have lost interest in sex. I rarely find any lady sexually appealing like I do see some pretty ladies in the past and feel this instant sex appeal for them...now I feel nothing....the thought of sex now even make me wondering why people disturb their life because of sex....I can then imagine if I am married and facing this situation, that may cause marital issues if the lady is not understanding enough, life sha, hmmmm

goodies4life:
SO YOU THINK ONLY MARRIED PEOPLE KNOW BETTER? IT WILL SURPRAISE YOU TO KNOW SO MANY SO CALL COUPLE'S KNOWS NOTHING. GO AND TREAT INFECTION FAST.

This has nothing to do with infection my sister...its about mindset, and another reason I can think of is financial stress, career pressure, business failure, etc

onwuakpachris:
start taking tramadol...as simple as that

Tramadol will soon kii you dia!

guru03:
Am happily married with a kid, but of recent I have lost interest in having sex and I know its affecting my wife, and have not cheated on my wife, please I need advice from married couples, no insults please, sincere opinion.

Give me your wife's number, I have an opinion for her.

please start taking aya(tiger nut) juice, coconut and dates, it will help a long way. Also talk dirty with her to be in the mood.

Hello fellow, I am sorry for your situation, but please you need to start working on yourself with knowledge of your wife. Since I started reading the comments of people here I hardly found anyone who has addressed what might likely be the challenge that you are facing. Although of them said something about psychological issue, which I agree with, but if I may be direct in declaring to you what the main issue is, I will say that you are likely suffering from Erectile Dysfunction (ED), which Yoruba people usually call "idakole".

I do not want to talk much, but my suggestion to you is that you should quickly find a urologist to check you up. For example, you may try a firm called Men's Clinic International (MCI). They have an office around Anthony Lagos. This issue may adversely affect your marital home if you don't start making moves to counteract this problems.

In case you need more helpful information, feel free to communicate with me.

talk2max:


Oga the man needs advice not ENGLISH GRAMMAR!

abi?

oya advice am na, or what are you waiting for?

guru03:
Am happily married with a kid, but of recent I have lost interest in having sex and I know its affecting my wife, and have not cheated on my wife, please I need advice from married couples, no insults please, sincere opinion.

The only reason you've lost interest in your wife is because you don't find her attractive anymore... but if you still find er attractive but not Sexually attractive,all you need is just like a month distance from her...that's all..Just a month without physical contact might spark tat fire... If not you need to see a therapist or check if you ave erectile dysfunction.

GAZZUZZ:


as you bring the mata come here, let me ask my own do you think you are coming out of the closet?

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