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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MizMyColi(f): 2:53am On Jul 21, 2018 |
pocohantas: Is it not what I said in my first post earlier on this thread? Asking to transfer to his name is so he can oppress and subjugate her. My dear, trust me, if this man is kind to her...like really kind and compassionate, nothing stops her from putting both their names. @emboldened kwakwakwakwakwakwa 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by therapistmrs: 2:54am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Truely no marriage is perfect and every couple will have issues from time to time but the beauty of a successful marriage is the ability to forgive each other. Yes, you are hurt but remember that in the heat of the moment you both might have said painful things to each other but in all of this remember SHE STATED YOU ARE A GOOD MAN. I do pray you find it in your a place in your heart to forgive and live together in harmony because any drastic action taken in anger will eventually have drastic consequences. Please ask yourself this valid questions: Do i still love her? Did she make mistakes? Has she learnt from her mistakes? Did you make some mistakes too? Do you love your children? Do you want work on fixing your marriage? Please communication is the key to every successful marriage, you both need to have a heart to heart conversation. In this you will understand why she took such an action and you both will find a place in your heart to forgive each other. All the best in making the right decision. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by LordsApostle: 2:55am On Jul 21, 2018 |
appsdope:do u have brain at all? Or u have difficulty reading and understanding, u should be ashamed of yourself writing such nonsense, from no understanding of what the man wrote. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MarieSucre(f): 2:57am On Jul 21, 2018 |
declaro: Uncle leave all this your shouting talk. We would say the same thing if it was a woman who came to tell us her husband is suspecting her of cheating. The man needs to check himself and cut off all those things that are making him look suspicious. He should humble himself and do the needful for his marriage. 15 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Sarang(f): 2:58am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Caris77: Ikwuru hooha! 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by declaro(m): 3:05am On Jul 21, 2018 |
MarieSucre: EVERY MAN MUST HUMBLE HIMSELF FOR PEACE TO RAIN IN HIS FAMILY. THAT IS SO TRUE... I HAVE TOLD O.P TO GO BACK HOME AND MAKE IT WORK AGAIN. PEOPLE SHOULD STOP DIGESTING WHAT THEY HEAR OR SEE ONLINE BECAUSE THAT DOES NOT REFLECT WHO YOU ARE OR DESCRIBE YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 3:12am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I'm super happy that our women are getting smarter day by day. They must have learnt a lot from most of our mothers mistakes. Some mothers will tell their female daughters not to make the mistakes they made and to fight for their rights. I read a lot of hidden meaning in that woman's story but didn't want to dwell on them as we didn't hear from the said husband. It's only the wife that can describe her husband well. She already knew and envisage what will happen and that made her did what she did. Cos a day like this will eventually come. She didn't want to expose her husband more than saying he is a proud man. At a point she said he is a good man. A competent lawyer will see that this woman want to salvage her marriage and loves her husband except that he has issue with pride and pride and anger are mutually related. If that woman should open her mouth and tell us what caused that said quarrel we will be shocked. A married man that doesn't have regard for his wife and children's welfare, is that one a man? Mr husband, let me ask u, I'm sure u have a car, in whose name did u buy the car? Did u add her name in it? I will not condemn u but I will advise u. Ur children are looking up to u 2 as their role models and the things they witnessed at young age makes or Mar them. Some of the doctrines our parents passed down to us may look normal but they are not healthy and it was because they don't know. Also our children will try to change some of the teachings we passed down to them. The world has evolved much and if u don't evolve with it, u will be left behind. Sorry my religious brothers and sisters but the holy books dont define happy marriage anymore cos it cage the woman and most women arent happy. When u raise some issues up, instead of the man to look for solutions, he will want to massage his ego by quoting those famous lines from the holy books added with the archaic training received while growing up. Had u been doing the right thing, this woman would have carried u along. It's no longer the man's world. Women allowed it to be for peace to reign and mostly because of the kids but they shouldnt always be cowed into submission because of that cos they are humans too. Swallow ur pride and make your kids proud by going back to their mama and apologise. Also apologise to us kids. Yes, no matter how small u think they are, they know what is going on. U want the best from ur wife, treat her like a mistress and queen and she will worship the ground u walk on. How u handles anger when it comes is what makes u a man. Ur wife can learn from u. We all are imperfect and should be giving that chance for redemption. Ur wife suggested joint ownership. Let it go for now and seek her out, on her own, she will insist on doing that and will even tell u the reason she did it in the first place. Divorce is not healthy nor separation especially to the kids. U might go and marry another but are U sure it won't be worst than the first? And the fight among children. Once u have kids involved, u learn how to be selfless cos they deserve the best from u both. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 3:16am On Jul 21, 2018 |
oshe11:Who is this one, is that the best you can do? Can't you pretend and be a peace maker instead of adding fuel the fire? Please next time try to offer solution for the sake of the kids. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Vicyace: 3:16am On Jul 21, 2018 |
After reading the husband's part of the story, I could sense pride, dishonesty and no transparency on the part o f both parties. Mr husband, no one should take sides. You are both wrong and the problem didn't start recently. It started the day you used your part of the money to cater for your parents(justified though) but not carefully thrashing it out with her. She must have felt ambushed and arm twisted by your decision which you likely carried out MANLY of course. For her to be suspicious of your dealings means something was actually wrong and all you had to do was give her some reassurance. You telling her to pack out just sent shit right to the ceiling. Bros. You need to rebuild that home. Would you like to have your children grow up in a broken home and exhibit a worse display of character when they are grown ups? Her family will never support her.( no sane parents would) they want their daughter to remain married so they will oonly castigate her and beg you to reason beyond anger. See this as a collective fault and tackle it as the head of the house. Carefully sort this out and live your life away from social media. She's your wife. You guys allowed the dark spot to grow so big because you fuelled with lack of love and c communication. Bros do well by talking to your wife and settling thius matter like adults and partners. Don't make her feel she's inferior to you because she's a lady. You wanna take kids away from her? You both own them. The moment you do that, you create a bad platform for your kiuds and they will suffer most not your wife. Think smarter and better bros. Put anger under your foot where it should be Throw pride into the sewage. It should be there forever Rise up and filled your home with sweet smelling love and watch her apologise and behave like the lady you married. 8 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by addicted268(f): 3:24am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Hotfreeze: I think this is the most sensible thing I ve read on page 2. I also think the middle ground would be changing the name on the property to Mr and Mrs. It will be hard initially but trust can still be built. Some marriages have seen worse but still come out stronger. I'm not an advocate of divorce except when marriage is life threatening. I think it's unfair to ask the woman to change the name to his only. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by lighternote: 3:27am On Jul 21, 2018 |
This ExtraExtra is a pure narcissist. He even chose to break his marriage over his ego. His story corroborated his wife's version. He obviously needs psychological support but just like most NPD patients he won't believe he needs help. My ten kobo, calm down and fix your marriage. There is no big issue here. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by alfchye(m): 3:27am On Jul 21, 2018 |
in my own word...everybody is saying why joke with the word "leave my house" after recieving so many insult and even insulting his wife, I am sure if the lady in question came here to tell us how the husband battered her after she insulted his parent. That means you people would have killed the man. The get out of my house is an involuntary action because he himself was confused. OP next time, take a walk out of the house and go drink some bottles, Take clothes with you and sleep in a hotel for some days too.I hear alot of people saying they sense pride, of what use is a man if there is no pride. You do not want a dummy as a husband do you?. Too many single, divorce n embittered women in Nairaland. All of them are forming strong lady... If the OP's wife is reading, plz do not listen to them, I repeat do not listen to them. Majority of them bragging out here are slaves to their husband, they get the beating of their lives daily and come out here to point what they can't do in their home.But Oga OP u over trusted sha, I can't imgaine not going through papers before she proceed depositing document with the bank. Try to make things work again for the sake of your kids.Cool off for a while, If the love is still there, go back home the kids misses you. They need you around this holiday season. When you go home, give her so space for now. Do not eat her food and always do your laundry yourself. 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by lonelydora: 3:33am On Jul 21, 2018 |
DukeNija: Same with me. I doubt those people are married 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by decode55(m): 3:36am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Marriage is pointless and useless |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 3:37am On Jul 21, 2018 |
For the man to be willing to push her out of "his house" is absurd & wicked.. Just because u both had a misunderstanding. Truth is she owns the property & u can't blackmail her in anyway into changing the name to urs na.. For what its her money that was invested there & not urs. Try to resolve ur differences but u can't expect her to just give u the house she suffered for. I wish u guys the best.. Make i find sleep joor 12 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 3:40am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Oga you guys problem is just ego clashes that maturity should sort out...you guys are just two spoiled brat, your wife want to stick with her affluence advantage, while you want to show her that you have arrived. Families with protracted illness, years of infertility, poverty etc. are living in peace but you guys have it all and want to throw it into garbage. Take the lead, heal your home this is just a phase. A real leader must be willing to serve and take a lot of shit...The house you two want to separate on top will be in want of occupants soon as those kids find there bearings. It is going to be just two of you and a lot of empty, stuffy rooms. A devil you know is better than an unknown angel...bottled grievances can be released and forgiven. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TonyeBarcanista(m): 3:40am On Jul 21, 2018 |
MarieSucre:Sister, NOTHING will ever justify the irresponsible act of the wife. SIMPLE! Meanwhile, he never meant to chase her out, it's like someone saying "get out, I don't want to see you again"... 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MarieSucre(f): 3:45am On Jul 21, 2018 |
[quote author=TonyeBarcanista post=69567649]Brother, NOTHING will ever justify the irresponsible act of the husband. SIMPLE! Please miss me with the "he never meant to" tripe. He never meant to! He never meant to! Many women don die. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by dejol88: 3:48am On Jul 21, 2018 |
We all have a red line , should my wife cross it I might act stupid. The wife was totally wrong in reminding him of his poor background. Infact a no no.... Oga the truth is that property itself was a product of marriage, so you can not lay exclusive claim to it, even it was built solely by you. As a fellow married man, I will suggest you drop your ego and allow the name change to your kids only. Please move back to the house and forget about going elsewhere. Mind you I am not supporting her rather am with you but go back to the house. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Analysiscorner: 3:48am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge:What stopped her from doing the paper work in both names? Or, tell him of her plans to do it in her name? |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MizMyColi(f): 3:51am On Jul 21, 2018 |
How u handles anger when it comes is what makes u a man. Sassysure, your head dey there. Some of us women na correct hot plate o. But the partner makes all the difference cos over time you realize that gra gra is unnecessary given how maturedly your partner handles your crazy moments. So you will just by yourself advise yourself to be cooler in your approach to things. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Analysiscorner: 3:56am On Jul 21, 2018 |
alfchye:If he does not eat her food, where is the reconciliation? 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 3:59am On Jul 21, 2018 |
MarieSucre:U don't die with anyone. Unmarried men live longer even. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by hope4nigeria(m): 4:09am On Jul 21, 2018 |
foyeks2001:na them! Slay Queen without brain, you no get husband, you're planing to destroy som1 home, must you insult the man before you comment? If you don't know what to say, Just shut up. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Analysiscorner: 4:12am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Oga, since you don't want to continue to live in that house but you still want her, kindly rent an apartment for all of you while she rents her house out. It is cool that you don't want her to change the property's name again. Why then the fuss? Please, go back to her and tell her that you still love her but that you desire to be the one who provides her with a home, hence the need to park out with you while she rents out her own house. Please, I don't support the transfer. For the people supporting her for building the property in her own name alone, aren't they a couple? Secondly, the contribution he made towards the completion of the property, was it not something? Why didn't she tell him of her plans to register the property in her name? Oga, you don't have much problems in your own home. It is just this property issue. And you are willing for her to have it, why seek for transfer again? All you have belongs to your wife and all that your wife has belongs to you, if both of you are christianans. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by saintade01(m): 4:15am On Jul 21, 2018 |
In all of this, no one is talking about the part where the wife in her thread talks about how she still loves and wants her husband back. And he also just mentioned here that he's not going for divorce just separation while things get sorted out. Which makes me think they still love each other. Please Oga / Madam, forgive each other, both should shift grounds, save this family of yours and enjoy your lives please. Don't let anyone here put asunder. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Daisythof: 4:16am On Jul 21, 2018 |
You are a thief. A very big one for that matter. So you want her to change the name on the property to your name only after you used your share to take care of your family. Thank God she refused. So if the house had been in your name, you would have chased her out? Hahahaha she saw through you and did the right thing to protect her future. If you like, move out. Las las, she will rent out the property and still make money. You are the loser in all this. 10 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 4:19am On Jul 21, 2018 |
pocohantas: MizMyColi:ndi anya mepere, see them |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Mujtahida: 4:19am On Jul 21, 2018 |
alfchye:You bear the Crown for most sensible comment here. I've read loads of horsesh1t from people with superficial understanding. Between couples there are usually a huge sea of undercurrents, multilayered and subtle nuances, a history of emotions and reactions, shared memories determining events. Dishing out advise in such a scenario is usually dangerous cos one understands so little. And so many do not just offer advise they lace it up with unnecessary insults and derogatory words. From the man's angle it's the issue of breach of trust but not many reason it so. All they see is 'property' and 'pride'. It's not about the property per se. From the onset there was an agreement, an understanding which the present reality of the wife putting the property in her name disregarded. Many of the advise here are absolutely idiotic. The man and his wife should shut their minds from the bovine advise and thrash nairalanders offer in the name of advise. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Mujtahida: 4:21am On Jul 21, 2018 |
hope4nigeria:It's the insults that I don't understand. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 4:24am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Daisythof:But she said she wants him back. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 4:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Analysiscorner:I don't think we have to blame the woman for using her name. It was their agreement which the husband consented to when she said she is going to use her own part of the money to buy the land, the problem here is never the woman rather it started from the begining of their marriage, how they define the marriage. How can husband and wife do business together and at the end they shared their profit. It means they are just business partners and everyone is entitled to use his/her money for whatever. What happened to having joint account from the begining, what happens to planning jointly and doing things together? 3 Likes |
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