Can someone be in love with 2 men?

I'm in a relationship which I value so much, but there is this male friend of mine that I really like and recently he starting saying he's in love with me. I'm really attracted to him but I don't think I love him. Please what should I do.

Of-course its possible to be in love with two at the same time

but its impossible to love two people the same way, because being in love is different from loving. you might be in love with someone and not love the person

and since no two people are the same, you love different things about each, but at the end of the day one of them holds a bigger portion of your heart

But you said you're not even sure you're in love with this person, so it might just be a "fading infatuation"??

and if you really are in love with your boyfriend and you value your relationship, please please and please dearie don't risk what you guys have

If you're happy where you are, i advice you to stay put ooh, because you might run into the arms of this other guy only to find out you were dreaming and darling when you wake up from the dream, it might be too late

we say in igbo: ônye nôdu ebe ônô, ebe ô na-anôghi a na-agu ya (when you are somewhere, and at the same time longing for somewhere you're not)
the english man would say: a bird at hand is worth much much more than 10 in the bush


it might seem tempting,yea
but remember, not all that glitters is gold , the unknown is always tempting but not always worth the ride, why take that risk??

I advice you to remain friends with him, make him understand you're just fine where you are and unfortunately he's a bit late to the market, i believe everything on earth happens for a reason and if you guys are meant to be, the right time will come, but till then where you are is your gold

damn cute-ass u got here before i did , now i got nothing to write for the girl, yo stop thinking like me

Omo Eko:

damn cute-ass u got here before i did , now i got nothing to write for the girl, yo stop thinking like me

don't worry dearie. you're me and i'm you

To the originator of this;

It's not possible for you to love two men. No matter what you say or what you think, it's either you love one and lust after the other. Love is a special feeling you have for only one person.

my dear otuwe dont b deceive, its not real 2 b in luv as in love wit 2 diff pple if u no wat it means 2 really b in love.

It's possible to be in love with the two men, but,
haven't you already said that you don't think you are in love with the second one?

lol at the ridiculousness (if dats even a word).
imagine your boyfrend telling you he was in lov wit u and one of his female frends, how wud u feel ?
d ansa is simple, pick 1, u cant have eat your cake and have it

Ferlix:

what do u need from the two men, is it not their prick? what is love - shio - love ko love ni.

I guess som pple are trying to be Ferlie Be ur self

otuwe:

Can someone be in love with 2 men?

I'm in a relationship which I value so much, but there is this male friend of mine that I really like and recently he starting saying he's in love with me. I'm really attracted to him but I don't think I love him. Please what should I do.

I guess you are infatuating my dear, you're begining to compare him with your Lover. I bet you have been having the other guy (Your friend) around you to much and alone most times. I would advice if you can keep away from him. The better for your relationship.

Nothing rankles like a hypocrite. You would be hitting the roof by now if ur boyfriend said exactly the same thing you said.

You don't know that for sure. Those that would 'hit the roof' would probably not ask this question.

what brought you into the relationship youre presently in? was it a genuine love or you were pressured into it by other reasons?

obviously, if you value the relationship you're in like you said, you wont really be considering someone else.

on the other hand, if you've liked the other guy all along, and didnt know he'd like you back and you are now just discovering, then youre revealing something more.

eventually, it boils down to what the true state of your heart is. you cant truly love both of them, so you have to be where your heart is.
best wishes.

otuwe:

but there is this male friend of mine that I really like and recently he starting saying he's in love with me. I'm really attracted to him but I don't think I love him

Why start this topic in the first place?

He said he's in love with you. Why twist it now?

You told us you're attracted to him!!! That's basically the situation and not love my dear.

davidylan:

Nothing rankles like a hypocrite. You would be hitting the roof by now if your boyfriend said exactly the same thing you said.

lol i totally agree

@ EVERYBODY

the girl wouldn't be here if she was not confused

so please just make her see it, instead of critisizing her as if no one else have been in that situation.

No one knows it all and no one is perfect, and when it comes to love, everybody can be misled once in a while

isn't that why she's a human being?

yes her boyfriend is "the one", just tell her that and for once forget the critics

we all need advice from people we think we can confide in and trust, otherwise she wouldn't be here, the discouragement of sharing your problem with others is uncalled for, which is what some of us here are doing

two heads are better than one remember

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cute-ass, has already convince me girl, you have nothing to be confused about, whatt i guss is that, you are only confuse because you are starting to have feelings for this so called your male friend, please if you value your relasionship always avoid him as from the moment, because if you continue your usual way with him, you would not no when he will get you, and if you don't want a situation whereby you will be the one to quit your present relationship because of this new friend and which might be dangerous, just take my ideal.

olagoke1:

cute-ass, has already convince me girl, you have nothing to be confused about, whatt i guss is that, you are only confuse because you are starting to have feelings for this so called your male friend, please if you value your relasionship always avoid him as from the moment, because if you continue your usual way with him, you would not no when he will get you, and if you don't want a situation whereby you will be the one to quit your present relationship because of this new friend and which might be dangerous, just take my ideal.

thanks for that.

whether we say it in a mild and caring manner, or in a harsh and unfriendly manner, we're trying to pass on the same message
so why not go for the first method??

my simple advice to you is just 2 secretly marry him without ur husband's concept. so dat u can be gaining 2 things @ d same time.gaining from ur husband en him

oh gal is true o cut-ass as said it all o.cos u know say she get all da brain for dis kind topic stick to ya man if u care a nd truly loves him o no problem gal.

That is the most dangerous mistake you will ever make in a valued relationship , pleeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaassssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeee run away from that guy . I'm sorry  to say but he may be the wolf to devour you sheep . I guess your real guy must be neglecting somethings thereby causing you this distraction , call him and tell him what you feel you need in him that you are not seeing at the moment , but Mr Wolf has, sincerely ,never be proverbial about it  tell him straight. I beleive he values you as well, he'll keep you tight in his cage.

It does not pay to donate love to men to reap a broken heart. Pls, do not compare love rather appreciate it. I advice you to stay with ur man than risking ur intergrity.

are you sure it's love and not lust?

if you are really in love with your boyfriend the thought of being in love with someone else shouldn't even occur to you.

@ everyone
You can be in love with more than two boys.
The only thing u do is to make it a secret to both boys.

Cute Ass has said it all. Stick to your relationship. You will always find one cute guy or the other you find yourself attracted to, you dont have to pursue the attraction if you dont want the destruction of what you have. How do you think married couples survive? do you honestly feel they dont get attracted to other people once in a while? The feelings will soon pass. Take charge and all the best!

cute ass i like the way you think if it could be anybetter i might say i wrote it, lol

rexmaliik:

my simple advice to you is just 2 secretly marry him without your husband's concept. so that u can be gaining 2 things @ d same time.gaining from your husband en him

OMG do you mean that?

Chineke me dis world don spoil finish. Look dis small gal wey dey tok about two men instead of dey go school. Wait first a go tell ya papa and then come tell ya boyfriend, e go beat you you go nearly die. Look make a tell you small pikin. go school first then come marry me only. You hear. If a hia dis kain nonsense again, you go see

plz don't be distracted by those decievers abeg! na beg i beg u. guys can make u do what is wrong wen it comes 2 there feelings so my dear,face ur boyfriend and stop looking backing back except(ur boyfriend is not treating u right)

but plz endurance na d best ooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with you funmeme. Gal close ur eyes and ur heart o and concentrate on ur bf.