it's good to change for good but not change to please someone. that sounds muguish. just b urself!

#1 rule of a relationship, do not try to hide who u are. Hidding who u are won't allow the relationship last. Let the guy or the girl know ur real attitude and behavior.

I am never going to hide my behavior just to please my bf, never.

Jungle Queen:

#1 rule of a relationship, do not try to hide who u are. Hidding who u are won't allow the relationship last. Let the guy or the girl know your real attitude and behavior.

I am never going to hide my behavior just to please my boyfriend, never.

Three cheers! Well spoken! Being yourself...if only we all were, this world would be such a different place!

Jungle Queen:

#1 rule of a relationship, do not try to hide who u are. Hidding who u are won't allow the relationship last. Let the guy or the girl know your real attitude and behavior.

I am never going to hide my behavior just to please my boyfriend, never.

*clap clap clap*........That is straight talk girl - I feel you! You tell 'em..............pretense pretense, one day wind go blow, then we go see fowl nyash......

Talk about a real reason why anyone would want to change the spouse; have u noticed that when at home spouses may ignore how they look and dress but as soon as they wish to go out, then they shape up for the kill as if to make the spouse jealous?

i won't him change me cause i think im alright th way i am,but i will agree with him to correct and guide me wherever that he finds fault in me!!!

He can change me and i can change him positively and not negatively.

the only permanent thing in life is Change. It can be for better or for worse. But any positive change for the better in a relationship I believe should be a welcome development.

viviansam:

the only permanent thing in life is Change. It can be for better or for worse. But any positive change for the better in a relationship I believe should be a welcome development.

That's true. I wouldn't have thought of it that way. However, humans are generally resistant to change. It's possible to change, but it's not as easy, depending on variables like the intensity of change intended, and the new expectaion. Some things are easier to change...e.g, teaching your spouse to use a fork and knife instead of digging in with their hands. Those are easy...but behavioral....men, I wish you luck. Some are not easy...e.g, guy throws socks anywhere but in the laundry basket, girl leaves blow drier next to bathroom sink instead of the hook on the wall. Those are bearable, but let's go to other things like drinking and smoking. Some genuinely stop. But others just inhibit the behaviors, then when things start getting thick, that's when even aspects of the behavior that didn't exist before come out in full force. However, people do actually and truly change from time to time and we see them among ourselves. At the same time there's those that change for their spouses and really go all out when things go thick....you'll actually wonder who they are. And there's those that keep the behaviours in check. We can never be too sure, we can never know real well, but as vivianscam says, change is a welcome development....if it's genuine.

Wat will make amn to cheat on his wife in as much the Bible does not permit it and i want to believe that a man loves his wife that was why they got married

Hello this ia a man's affair not for the ladies!! As for me i would not allow that to happen to me because women are flexible and weak in nature ! But a man will always be a man i mean adapt to any changes that comes his way, able to stand up to any challenges any day any time
THAT'S A MAN FOR U!!

Can my spouse really change me?,na ,I don't think so.For us to be 2gether it is the actions of our first contact that tells us how we are going to approach each other again,in that case u might want to correct ur first mistakes,maybe u were too forward,then u try not too be next time.
Then 4 u too be 2gether u will have too know what I like and what I don't like, then u correct each other.
So nobody as to change his or her character to be with the spouse,it just ain't right.

i cant just put on some fxxking personality just to please someone :oif i do this, then that person wouldnt know the real me he would only know the other [i]me[/i]which i think is very bad i am who i am and not what someone wants me to be i canm change my bad sides but obviously not who i am, my personality

maybe,

its not right when one partner tries so hard to change the other and this is so common with naija pple.
why not let the other ccouple change by themselve and if they really love u, then they'll compromise and
adjust to the other partner's lifestyle, likes and dislikes. Changing someone would always end at disaster.

i dont want anyone trying to change me cause i won't try changing anyone.i think you should know what you want and if you don't like certain characters in a person then no need dating someone with these characteristics and then try changing them to suit you.it just dosen't make sense.

we all in one way unconsciously change some of our habits that we know that are disgusting, once we find ourselves truly in love and not lust.
When we are truly in love, whatever we do is to put a smile across the face of the beloved one.So when this is done,both parties are doing it unconsciously,wheteher you we like it or not.
This is where nature takes control.

I wouldn't let my spouse change me, cos thats the way he found me. Besides thats why he came to me aint it? I wanna be with someone for who I am and for whom they are and don't wanna change anything for their sake, and also vice versa.

Why not. that is why we have courtship before marriage in order to work on each other. and probably change some habit which you both knew its not good. since there is no Mr or Mrs perfect. i can allow my spouse to change me if there is any habit in me that is not good enough.

it all depends on a lot of things

if it is 4 gud

is it possible for a guy who lived an extravagant life in his single days to change once he gets married?

he clubs and is a social drinker, keeps late nites and has tonnes of friends.

but he says that once he gets married, all dat will stop and if he feels a need to club, he'll be there with his wife.

how possible is this?

De King has said it all. To change a human being? hmm I dont think so. the person will only put up an act for sometime and before u know it, it's back to status quo and the problems begin to roll in.
As for me, I wont try to change anybody and no one should try to change me!

If the change is for good, why not. Love is sacrificial and no two persons have the same character. I will allow her to change me for good if she can. Infact, if she can overhaul me and make a far better man out of me, i will allow her, but this does not mean i will become her handbag. I will still be the head and she will be the neck.

it is not the change that is important. wat is important as why and how. the change should not be for the good of one but for the mutual benefit of the the two.we should remember tha change is constant.

it is not the change that is important. wat is important as why and how. the change should not be for the good of one but for the mutual benefit of the the two.we should remember tha change is constant.

Have a seen a situation a girl changed a guy from being a drunkard,smoker and street fighter to quit those bad habits,
Was able to change a gal to quit hot temper.
Bad habits can and shld be abandoned when necessary by the assistance of a spouse

It really is not a question of whether u allow him/her change u, u'll just b adapting 2 d person if u say u love him/her and I believe he/she wld b doin same if love is involved it's d only way d marriage wld last and d only way u'll b able to enjoy stayin married.

The issue of spouse changing the partner is an ego thing (I believe). I used to be of the impression that a woman would never change me but a relationship is at its best if both parties are open to change. Scratch my back i scratch yours. Nothing is better than a good wife. Who knows, the change might just be what is missing in your life. (Just my two cents)

D only change me I want now is from kobonaire to billionaire.

Actually, life is all about change.

If my spouse can turn me round for better, then what's wrong about it?

I once wore a bushy beards, but my baby said it doesnt fit me. At first I resisted the idea, but when I tried wearing a clean shave, the whole world arround me began pouring compliments on me

On her part, she  wears moderate make-ups when we met, but since I prefer a natural beauty to any artificial painting, she stoped it and we are happy.

It all depends on the approach addopted beacuse some styles of correction can be counter productive.

Summarily, being open and willingness to make ammends, enhances compartibility afterall what is Love without sacrifice?