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Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by MissRaine69(f): 4:14pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
Kokaine:As I said in the earlier post, you would not see it because it was not you looking in from the outside so of course I expect you to be defensive. I agree you did not place yourself in this position but there is decades of anger that have been brewing for a long time and family therapy helps (sometimes) However you will likely be blamed for everything that goes wrong in your siblings lives. |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by ZIMDRILL(m): 9:43pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
elRamani: someone from outside can have a better view than someone inside people dont always respond with direct solution based on my observation he boy more based on culture and upbringing he needs to love them equally as his kids and embrace the individuality in them without favour |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Nobody: 10:59pm On Jan 08, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Equally sounds good but not in human nature to b able to love equally, and animals do not either. Parents do feel more comfortable with some kids than others, but wise parents try not to make it obvious. Same way we love our parents but one is always the favourite. Just try ur best to maintain a reasonable balance, everyone will be happy. My 1 kobo 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Casemiro(m): 1:17pm On Jan 09, 2019 |
Headlesschicken: this is 10000000000% correct! I'm a living witness |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Nobody: 1:54pm On Jan 17, 2019 |
Melian: do you think any mother with brain will show you love? hehehe, never! |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by opejulie10: 2:23pm On Jan 17, 2019 |
my mum made it obvious she loved my younger brother than I,it was so obvious she never gave me a dime whilst in school but sold all her lappa to ensure my brother graduated,well my brother never graduated but I did,I am working and settled..her lack of adequate love for me made me strived harder... thank you daddy for always believing in me...I owe you everything I have become today. I have 2 kids now,I have learnt to love then equally. 1 Like |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by Theophinio(m): 8:45pm On Jan 17, 2019 |
Op I understand your predicament I know we are all humans, and there is a great chance as parents to love a particular kid more than the others But please try as much as possible never to show it, because it will definitely make the other kids to hate or jealous the chosen one I was the chosen one in my family by my dad, but i endured hatred from my siblings because of the special love my dad has for me. My Dad noticed the hatred from my siblings towards me and adjusted. He limited showing this special love to me, and my siblings started showing love and care to me tremendously |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by D1zion: 4:00pm On Jan 06, 2020 |
This can make them hate each other for life, it can probably separate them for life. Its like the story of Esua & Jacob if you're a Christian I believe you know about the story & how it ended. Esua killed his brother.is better you address the issue now before you regret tomorrow. |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by farady(m): 5:48pm On Jan 06, 2020 |
OP, it's not late to make amends. Start by talking to the one you least love, apologize to her, cause she knows as a child. Then call everyone to a family chat, admit your shortcomings and pledge to love everyone equally. In your private moment, pray God to give you the grace to love everyone equity. Praticalise it by ensuring you spend time with them, be friendly with them individually, do shopping together with everyone happy within your budget. |
Re: I Find It Hard To Pretend Loving My Kids Equally, Help! by PointZerom: 9:52pm On Jan 06, 2020 |
Davash222: It is not possible to love all your kids equally. You may not show it physically but inwardly there must be one or two you love more than others. Not that you won't train or take care of them equally. It is natural. |
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