So my girlfriend happens to be in the same department with me. She was assigned to our department HOD as her project supervisor. Our HOD is an old man probably in his late 60s.

The man has failed to approve my girl's projects. Keeps making corrections upon corrections just to frustrate my girl. My girl doesn't shy from disclosing to me the sexual innuendos the man makes each time she goes to submit her corrected copy. He overtly asked my girl to come see him in a hotel or his house. My girl is just tired and at this point, we're clueless on what to do. She's scared of reporting the HOD to our school student affairs division as doing that might affect her academic wise.

Please nairalanders, what can we do especially considering the fact that the lecturer in question is a HOD? Something that wouldn't put my girl in a precarious state.

Let her record all their conversation to gather enough evidence against him

Let her record all their conversations

try spy cam
then take the case up.
very simple.

try spy cam
then take the case up.
very simple.

schoolboymatt:

try spy cam

then take the case up.

very simple.

where can I get the spy cam?

henrybomb:
Let her record all their conversations

nice one

U and ur girlfriend should set up a plan that would disgrace the perverted H.O.D, I don't know why a man of 60+ would be disturbing his granddaughter age mate, some men are really shameless. First try calm ur girlfriend, tell her not to disrespect the H.O.D because if she does that it could backfire, anytime the man calls ur girlfriend to his office to discuss his nonsense to your girlfriend, I suggest she records it to blackmail him, if after that he doesn't stop the flirting then pull an O.A.U incident on him.

Jayslicky:
U and ur girlfriend should set up a plan that would disgrace the perverted H.O.D, I don't know why a man of 60+ would be disturbing his granddaughter age mate, some men are really shameless. First try calm ur girlfriend, tell her not to disrespect the H.O.D because if she does that it could backfire, anytime the man calls ur girlfriend to his office to discuss his nonsense to your girlfriend, I suggest she records it to blackmail him, if after that he doesn't stop the flirting then pull an O.A.U incident on him.

that's it bro. We just hope it's a plan we can pull through. The way the OAU issue got traction on social media was the driving force for the university to take action on the accused lecturer. The case would have been swept under the carpet. This is Nigeria bro

In this age and time when sexual harassment is seriously frowned at, culprits are being prosecuted for it in tertiary institutions and victims are speaking out...

Your girlfriend should know better and be smart enough to record every convo in her supervisors office. ..if things keeps getting messier for her she can report with the evidence... If I were her, I will tell him if he tries further shit I will blow up his useless self to the public /media with our recorded convo.

Whatever you do, don't put your own education in jeopardy while trying to fight her battles. For all we know, they may have slept together before & she's only coming to you now because grandpa wants a rematch.

XhosaNostra:
Whatever you do, don't put your own education in jeopardy while trying to fight her battles. For all we know, they may have slept together before & she's only coming to you now because grandpa wants a rematch.

l have seen similar situation play out like this.The guy put his education on hold to fight for his girlfriend who told him that she was harassed sexually in school.

Try to get a recording of their conversations (video recording)

After getting the recording, don't publicize it, but threaten the man with it and give him conditions.

He will most likely bend to your requests to save his career.

Once you and your GF graduate, release the videos and end the man's career.


Note: for every video you get, have duplicate copies, back it up to Google drive, Dropbox, Yahoo drive and has many cloud storage as possible.

You can also have a special drive(memory card, flash HDD) that will be well hidden and will contain only video recordings of the man.


Always logout of your Google drive, Dropbox or Yahoo drive account to prevent things you back up there getting wiped out (in case your phone get stolen or the lecturer send your friends that are enemies to you).


You can involve a 3rd party, preferably a street guy that will act as the girl's brother to threaten the lecturer. I will suggest you employ someone who is not a student to do the threat job.



This path is a dangerous path. But you can decide to take the easier way by reporting to the school authorities and praying/hoping that justice prevails.

virgoquin:


l have seen similar situation play out like this.The guy put his education on hold to fight for his girlfriend who told him that she was harassed sexually in school.

Just imagine! And was she really being harassed?

XhosaNostra:

Just imagine! And was she really being harassed?

She was not harassed, he found out that the guy was her side boo.
She wanted to end the relationship but the side boo wouldn't want to hear of it.

virgoquin:


She was not harassed, he found out that the guy was her side boo.

She wanted to end the relationship but the side boo wouldn't want to hear of it.

Wow. I bet he felt like a tool. Smh.

Another option apart from what I posted above is to ask her to start dressing like an SU to the man's office (No makeup, Long skirt, covered hair etc.).

From the testimony of some people with similar incidents that I have had, the lecturer immediately loses interest once the lady starts dressing like this.

She can even make things sweeter by preaching to the man and add some players to it.



But the implications of this is that she might have to start dressing that way to she graduates because the man can meet her anywhere on or off campus.

virgoquin:


l have seen similar situation play out like this.The guy put his education on hold to fight for his girlfriend who told him that she was harassed sexually in school.

....and he foolishly believed. I remember this former colleague of mine. She told me about how one oga was always pestering her for sex. At first I was feeling sorry for her till I noticed that she was always liking his pictures on facebook. Any pictures of his that didnt show his wife or children she will like. I just maintain my lane

XhosaNostra:


Wow. I bet he felt like a tool. Smh.

True. A lot of guys have fallen for such and done some crazy shít or ended up dead.

Jaqenhghar:

True. A lot of guys have fallen for such and done some crazy shít or ended up dead.

Very sad. Some girls are really manipulative & some guys are just muppets.

XhosaNostra:


Very sad. Some girls are really manipulative & some guys are just muppets.

LOL. Do you see the irony here? A girl who has been raped and should be sympathized with wont get any sympathy. You hear comments like " we need to hear both sides before we conclude". A girl claims someone wants to sleep with her and you should investigate , you instead conclude and go apeshit crazy.

Let him sleep with her, is it your vagina?

Jaqenhghar:

LOL. Do you see the irony here? A girl who has been raped and should be sympathized with wont get any sympathy. You hear comments like " we need to hear both sides before we conclude". A girl claims someone wants to sleep with her and you should investigate , you instead conclude and go apeshit crazy.

IKR!

Your girl might have given the HOD green light or flirted with him sometime in the past.
So dont do anything rash first run a thorough investigation with your cartels before concluding on anything. Before what you have no idea of eats your head together with your Gf.

Get evidence and then report him

Baba, your fears are justified, but again these daughter's of eve aren't to be trusted.

I remember my gf coming up with such tales, about how this young lecturer has been pestering and disturbing her, I wanted to take the case up but she refused, telling me she knows how to handle it. If only I knew she meant 'handling the dìck'

My advise? Don't implicate yourself fighting for a course that may cause you wasted years in school, ladies have their way. But you? My brother OYO oo..unless she is your wife, treat the said issue with a degree of levity. Your gf should be the one seeking for advice not you.

Take it to God. Nothing He can't do

After what happened to that lecturer in Obafemi Awolowo University I'm surprised reading this.

These lecturers will never learn

XhosaNostra:
Whatever you do, don't put your own education in jeopardy while trying to fight her battles. For all we know, they may have slept together before & she's only coming to you now because grandpa wants a rematch.

Wow smart

MarianaTrench:
After what happened to that lecturer in Obafemi Awolowo University I'm surprised reading this.

These lecturers will never learn

The dïck controls their mind. Shameless men!

LieDetector:
Please nairalanders, what can we do especially considering the fact that the lecturer in question is a HOD? Something that wouldn't put my girl in a precarious state.

Take to Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc., and use the medium to expose the man - making known his face, status, etc., for all to know of his crimes against women - no need to show the faces of his female victims. Also notify his family, friends and colleagues via anonymous mail of his exploits. OR send this suggestion to your galfriend instead.