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| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Nobody: 12:19pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
^^^^ lol someone plz translate. i dont speak reta.rdia |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 12:30pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
[b]This is the most uselsess and pointless post I have read this year. [/b]Why do some of you become so civilised (so to say) that you now talk rubbish? When you were asked to prostrate to the bride's family why did you do it? you should have refused! Its only in this country that people dont appreciate who they are and what they stand for, go to Japan, China and some other highly developed countries, they dont allow anything, I say anything to tamper with what they stand for despite the gact that they manufacture cars, other sophisticated needs and are highly ranked in technology but Nigerians will always challenge their culture simply because of a first degree that most of them cant defend. You are supposed to be feeding AFRICA but you still import matches and you can boast, I wonder why some trash still make home page.   |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by mutter(f): 12:38pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
It was when I started living in Europe that I even appreciated my culture and tradition more than when I was in Nigeria. I love tradition and every tradition has something wonderful about it. I remember once where I worked visitors came over from Japan. By the second day I found myself without realizing it bowing down to greet them in return. That just improved my relationship with them and made everything so much easier. Body language sometimes says more than tons of words. Our culture is our heritage and no one should throw his heritage away. I feel sorry that someone thinks the white man opened our eyes. Did civilization not start from Africa |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
^^^ ZING!!!! wrong, civilization started in europe. Greece to be percise before Egypt |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 12:49pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
@poster WHY DIDNT YOU STOP YOUR SO CALLED HUSBAND FRM PROSTRATING? Didnt he show respect to your parents or did he just hijack you on the street and took you home? This is how some of you destroy your homes b4 building it, something that wouldnt take more than 2seconds will end up denying you your peace/life, this kind of thing should not be an issue like you tend to present it. I pity your husband cos he doesnt know who he is living with yet. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 12:50pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
slyfoxxjoe:NO! go and do a thorough research, mutter is right. Infact, I have books on it. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by omofat: 12:56pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Mountain out of a molehill |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Chiddysville(m): 1:08pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
urfather. izit your bizness if i choose not to belittle myself infront of mere mortals. if u dont know all these your so called "traditions" have fetish and primitive origins. that white man has come to our land to open our eyes but some fo.ols like u choose to remain blind. as for me, only God can bring me to my knees or to postrate. no man and i repeat NO MAN can do that.not my father or least of all my wifes family. respect can be shown in more civilized manners. A child lacks wisdom, and some say that what is important is that the child does not die; what kills more surely than lack of wisdom? continue in your foolery. You are given some stew and you add water; you must be really wiser than the cook. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Nobody: 1:16pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
ok, dont accept western civilization na! u can also like to go back to worshiping sango and other sill gods like ur traditionist and rot in hell fire for eternity. u can also like to stop speaking the white mans language (english) and never get a good job and die in poverty. u can also go back to eating kola nut all ur life and stop driving the cars, flying the planes and using all other technologies they invented. kmt see who is calling me foolish |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Chiddysville(m): 1:24pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
ok, dont accept western civilization na! u can also like to go back to worshiping sango and other sill gods like your traditionist and rot in hell fire for eternity. u can also like to stop speaking the white mans language (english) and never get a good job and die in poverty. u can also go back to eating kola nut all your life and stop driving the cars, flying the planes and using all other technologies they invented. kmt see who is calling me foolish The wrong-headed fool, who refuses counsel, will come to grief and by the time the fool has learned the game, the players have dispersed. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Ikwikwikwi(m): 1:29pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
  all women who desire their spouse to kneel down during intercourse always kneel down to feed them, else, if you chose to stand and feed the man, well, the choice is yours. That is the tradition. Stand or kneel, which is your take |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by omofat: 1:44pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
urfather. izit your bizness if i choose not to belittle myself infront of mere mortals. if u dont know all these your so called "traditions" have fetish and primitive origins. that white man has come to our land to open our eyes but some fo.ols like u choose to remain blind. as for me, only God can bring me to my knees or to postrate. no man and i repeat NO MAN can do that.not my father or least of all my wifes family. respect can be shown in more civilized manners. Statements like these are dangerous o. You better pray you dont meet with situation that will force you to kneel or prostrate. hmm |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 2:05pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
slyfoxxjoe:What a fool!! What has kneeling got to do with gods or idols and surprisingly you believe in hell fire while you forget that even Jesus never disobeyed the law of any land during his ministry. Oh! I have measured your mentality, speak english, get a white collar job and be sacked then come back home with nothing to fall back on and start crying,  Eating kolanut has nothing to do with education, people still eat it till tomorrow cos its natural herbs. Havent you been told how people used to trade their stocks, leave a couple of stones or sticks to signify the cost of the product and the seller goes else where but whne he comes back, his products would have been sold and money completely there without a police until the white men came to take our uncherished cultural heritages and left us with what we cant manage. All the same, civilization is not bad but it shouldnt derive you of your culture cos the white men who brought civilization actually defends their culture!! There is no land without a culture or tradition, it is the culture of the white men to shake and that is what they do. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by omofat: 2:11pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
oludashmi: uhm *cough* *cough* errrm, i think slyfoxxjoe was being err errr sarcastic. You guys are on the same side of this debate. Kai, this one na real  |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 2:20pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
@poster and her likes Back in the days when women used to respect their husbands whether kneel or not, there was nothing like divorce but nowadays that we claim to be civilized, even a pastor wants to divorce his wife not to talk of ordinary church members who wished they never married and want to quit the relationship after 2 WEEKS of marriage, Abah!  NOTE! Your so called civilization is incomplete until 1. You start calling your dad and mum by their first names 2. You (compulsorily) instruct your children to call you and your husband by their your first names 3. Call your father and mother in-laws by their first names 4. Call even elders to your spouses by their first names 5. Call other members of your spouses family and extended families (even those older than your parent in-laws) by their first names 6. PERMIT your children to talk to you and say dad or mum "ARE YOU silly OR ARE YOU GOING CRAZY THIS DAYS?", then you simply answer the child "NO SON, I AM NOT silly" 7. Your children replies you whenever you abuse them like (you are not serious and your child replies something must be wrong with you mum) 8. Your children reports you to the police for not buying them bikes (which policeman in naija will wait to slap to slap the child?) 9. You slap your husband and he rubs his cheeks and say thanks then walk away 10. Divorce your husband and get a 50/50 share of his properties in Africa or Naija The points are endless. Until you do all of these, you have no say at all (and you are a hypocrite) cos you cant do some parts of your culture and do some parts of the whites'. You will rather belong to one. Or have you seen a white man who want to behave like you and still maintain his culture? No! White men are no hypocrites  |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by virgo(f): 2:28pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
In as much as tradition should be preserved because it is an integral part of our identity. I think the African society is patriarchal enough and no matter how we look at the topic, the fact remains that kneeling may reiterate the unspoken sacred belief that a man "owns" his wife. It should be a personal decision and if a woman is comfortable to go on her knees to feed her husband, it is entirely up to her and no one should condemn her for it. Such a woman cannot be estimated, perhaps she knows how to handle her business with her husband. Personally, I just hope that men don't think kneeling down during a marriage or reception ceremony means a woman will submit to her husband in marriage, as a woman I know this is far from the truth. A woman who will love, respect and honour you does not need to kneel down in the full glare of the world to be able to do that. Also a woman can put up appearances for the benefit of your culture worshiping relatives on your wedding day and make your life a living hell. We should not live our lives to please others, kneel if you want to kneel. Don't kneel if you think it is unnecessary. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by omofat: 2:37pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
oludashmi: GBAM GBAM GBAM I can feel your passion girl. You're so on fire you just dey scatter bullet wey dey hit friends and foes alike. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by fesse(f): 2:55pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
One day some ladies will complain about being banged while they lie down. As a sign of equality, you have to stand up and 'do' with him. Why must you subject yourself to being ridden for 30 minutes while you can get pregnant in 2 minutes standing up? Its unfair and men should learn to do it while standing up. Lol. [sup][/sup] so you neva hear say, if a man stand up pregnant a woman, she will deliver a mad-person. So no matter how a woman is, she must be submissive to a man. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Beync(f): 3:03pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
neelin or no neeling down, respect is of the mind, not a showy display of wat one cannot do at home after wedding. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 3:45pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Beync: Does the husband prostrate like this to his in-laws after the wedding or has he ever prostrated to his parents like this before or is this a show display of what he too cannot do after marriage? Abah!! this is just tradition and means nothing, you do it, you go with your spouse, THATS ALL. Will this Igbo girl also kneel to her husband after thisday or has she ever knelt to her parents b4? A 5-sec kneel shouldnt bring nervousness and 2 years planning like the poster said she has been preparing not to as if it is a big deal whether or not she kneels. She is even so annoyed that she brought it here.
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| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by oludashmi(f): 3:51pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
omo~fat: Dont mind them, some people will always display their foolishness as if they are wise after any small degree they get but remember they dont come back to tell us the repercussion of their past attitude or they will come back and post on NL, My Mother in-law is bad what should I do or My husband is a cheat what should I do? |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by dayokanu(m): 3:55pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Slyfoxxjoe, What do you think about a man kneeling to propose? Isnt that demeaning and taking him below his fellow human being? |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by chibaby5(f): 4:03pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
Whether u kneel down or not what difference does it make Why do nigerians make a big fuss ova lil fingz geez! I thot we are at da age where all ds mini traditional rules and regulations shudnt be paramount as we hve Christianity, Islam, etc  If she wants 2 kneel down datz fine. . i wudnt mind if i feel lyk it But i dnt think it shud b a big deal or a MUST. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Chiddysville(m): 4:27pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
The point remains that if you are not ready to follow the laid down rules (tradition) then, why bother getting married in the 1st place? |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by odumchi: 4:48pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
What a miserable heap of nonsense. Thats the problem with Nigerians they always have the right ideas at bad times. Tradition is tradition and it cannot be changed PERIOD. If you people put these your ideas of modernization into the government or Nigerias infrastructure, it would have been a better place. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by youngies(m): 4:49pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
TRUCE People!!! 1. Women stop the symbolic kneeling down for 1 minute to feed your husbands during marriage celebrations - You are equals 2. Men stop laying on top of your wives, with her legs spread wide and raised high during s.ex few hours after the same marriage celebration - It is slavery 3. Women you must stop kneeling on all fours, while your husbands gives to you from behind - It is barbaric Guess everyone is happy now? Peace. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by mojounited(m): 4:51pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
The point remains that if you are not ready to follow the laid down rules (tradition) then, why bother getting married TRADITIONALLY in the 1st place? ^^^@ Chiddysville, permit me to modify your post above. I believe those objecting to simple traditional norms and cultures should forget about traditional marriage and stick to court marriage and/or white wedding/marriage blessing in churches, only. |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by youngies(m): 5:02pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
dayokanu: DK, are you really expecting an honest answer on this? Pigs fly |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by dayokanu(m): 5:15pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
youngies: I am just saying if they want to abolish some barbaric cultures, why not we just abolish everything, Women kneeling to give their husband cakes for 5 seconds is barbaric, so Also is a man kneeling down to propose. Also I have seen a man carrying his bride on their wedding date isnt that too barbaric? Is the man a donkey or a cart? Why should he be carrying another human being? |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by babylishus: 5:27pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
This is really not something worth arguing about as far as I'm concerned. If it doesn't bother the Bride or the Groom then I don't see as to how it's a problem. It is not a part of my culture or that of my husband so I didn't kneel to feed him cake neither do I kneel when I give him food. Not kneeling down when I feed him is not a sign of disrespect as far as I'm concerned. Submission and mutual respect and love in marriage are more in inward things than outward show. It is very easy to pretend. I'd rather serve my husband standing and smiling than kneel and curse him inwardly. However if it is a part of culture then I suppose it's okay since it's not demeaning or degrading as such. I don't believe in starting a precedence I will not follow. Don't start what you can't finish. I am rather surprised at the direction this post has taken from the downright vulgar to the bizarre. People, it's just a lady asking for an opinion!!! Why must some responses be so rude, disrespectful and crude? Let's all be mature adults here, 'kay? |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by bawomolo(m): 6:49pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
dayokanu: hmmmmmmm good points brought up here. do women only call for equality when it favors them |
| Re: Kneel Down And Feed Your Husband? by Outstrip(f): 8:12pm On Aug 19, 2010 |
I don't see any woman here saying that a man should do something that she should not have to do. As a matter of fact most women agree that we should do the things that men have "traditionally done". The Bible which they quote says "help mate" which basically means assist but nowadays with most marriages we find that the womans income is just as important as the mans if you want to maintain the lifestyle you have become accostomes to. You don't hear any woman shouting foul about that. I think this is more a human thing. I cannot for the life of me understand the need to show that one is superior to the other. The nature of a man and women automatically make us behave a certain way. Those things though should be respected and not belittled. What you find in a lot of thesemarriages is simply misreable women that would rather die than admit that they are misreable. How can you teach yoru children to be independent and have independent thoughts but then tell yoruself as a wife you should not have one. It does not make sense As for the whole who lies on top and who rides behind. I don't even want to get into that nonsense because if I had a pe, ni, s I am sure I will ride behind too if need be but since I don't have one I am fine with how God made me too. This has nothing to do with who is in charge or who is not. It has everything to do with respect. Mutual respect. If there is anything that you feel you have the right to do your spouse should have that same right too. |
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