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Jackal:

What else can a guy suffer after the initial graggs u women give?
Excuses like: Don't talk to me, i am not interested, don't call me after 10pm, don't call me on a sunday and reh reh reh.
It's ridiculous the kind of graggs n defensive schemes women use to cover their blushes.
I can understand when a woman does not like the geezer asking her out. . . . .but why feign lack of interest when u really really like someone?
Must women suffer in silence to test a guy's honesty?

Better to be sure of him then regretting later.

seconded

@ jackal

so if u were to ask a girl out, are u saying you wouldn't hold anything back. If you really like her you'd tell her exactly how you feel even if your not sure she feels the same way. You'll spend time and money on her and wouldn't mind if it didn't work out?

*just curious*

merge:

Better to be sure of him then regretting later.

You can never be sure with men. . . . . . .Playing hard to get is just complicating issues.
If u don't want a guy. . . . You can play hard to get from here to Honolulu.
However, if u like a guy. . . .  .You could be mean but u have to keep him keen.

genius33:

@ jackal

so if u were to ask a girl out, are u saying you wouldn't hold anything back. If you really like her you'd tell her exactly how you feel even if your not sure she feels the same way. You'll spend time and money on her and wouldn't mind if it didn't work out?

*just curious*

Relationship is all about taking RISKS. . . . . Life itself is a risk.
I ask ladies out not sure of whatever. . . . . Letz see how it goes is ma motto.
You can never know with any woman until u are close to her.
Blimey. . . . . .married couples will even tell u they did not know their spouses until they got married so what can u possibly know in the wooing stage?

Jackal:

You can never be sure with men. . . . . . .Playing hard to get is just complicating issues.
If u don't want a guy. . . . You can play hard to get from here to Honolulu.
However, if u like a guy. . . . .You could be mean but u have to keep him keen.

Yes I will take him to Honolulu.

@ topic

It's necessary as a teenager- We all know at that stage there are a lot of randy and whorish boys just wanting to get into your pants, so a girl has to guide her heart by playing hard to get  . But as you grow older, you are likely to take the bull by the horns .

stillwater:

@ topic

It's necessary as a teenager- We all know at that stage there are a lot of randy and whorish boys just wanting to get into your pants, so a girl has to guide her heart by playing hard to get . But as you grow older, you are likely to take the bull by the horns .

I don't think it is a teenager thing.

there are young adults and old men that are whorish too.

stillwater:

@ topic

It's necessary as a teenager- We all know at that stage there are a lot of randy and whorish boys just wanting to get into your pants, so a girl has to guide her heart by playing hard to get  . But as you grow older, you are likely to take the bull by the horns .

That's certainly true didn't think of that

stillwater:

@ topic

It's necessary as a teenager- We all know at that stage there are a lot of randy and whorish boys just wanting to get into your pants, so a girl has to guide her heart by playing hard to get  . But as you grow older, you are likely to take the bull by the horns .

God bless you.

What is so shameless in a woman throwing her cards on the table at 1st sight?
In this day n age of the internet, no guy sees such girls as being cheap unless the guy is village billy goat. . . .
What makes a woman cheap is the number of men she allows to pinch her HOLY GRAIL not saying YES on the 1st date.

Jackal:

God bless you.

What is so shameless in a woman throwing her cards on the table at 1st sight?
In this day n age of the internet, no guy sees such girls as being cheap unless the guy is village billy goat. . . .
What makes a woman cheap is the number of men she allows to pinch her HOLY GRAIL not saying YES on the 1st date.

Whatever float your boat.

God has blessed me too ooo.

Are we talking about love or just sex?

It is only guys in Naija that are spending their money on chicks, hoping for sex. Sex is a relatively cheap commodity here in the UK and guys do not need to be spending money chasing chicks.

If it is for love, I can chase a chick forever. A guy should know from the first meeting whether a chick likes him or not. If she likes you, you can tell from her smile, her gaze etc. If she doesn't like you, you will tell immediately and you will stop chasing her. If I chase a chick for a long period, she must have given me some encouragement. An encouragement could be just a kiss, a holding of hands, flirting etc. Infact, if she only wants to hold hands after say two weeks of chasing her, I can chase her indefinitely because that tells me she is a woman of principle who likes me but is not willing to put out too early. Sometimes a chick may like you but will not be willing to show because you are in a social gathering etc or because of social pressure. Maybe she knows your sister etc. In such a case, it is better to use guerrilla tactics. Just befriend the chick and keep your options open. Something will come of it, guaranteed. Naija guys need to stop chasing chicks indefinitely without encouragement. Maybe the chick no like you sef.

Jackal:

What makes a woman cheap is the number of men she allows to pinch her HOLY GRAIL not saying YES on the 1st date.

Please tell me your only trying to make a point because saying yes on the first date isn't a good thing either.

IF you like a guy and you're sure he likes you, give in if not easily because i see no point in playing the hard to get game when eventually you know you're still going to end up with him besides you could use the hard to get time to study him more, it doesnt mean you have to start sleeping with him immediately and even when you play the hard to get game for a year, it still doesnt reveal the real him

genius33:

Please tell me your only trying to make a point because saying yes on the first date isn't a good thing either.

What is wrong in saying YES on the 1st date IF u like the guy a lot?
Tell me, what does that take away from u?
Mention one disadvantage or harm to a relationship by saying YES??

@ topic--What can i say!
playin hard to get is necessary bt takin it to d xtrem s nt a gud ideal.sayin yes on  first date doesn't go down well wit me tho.

merge:

I don't think it is a teenager thing.

there are young adults and old men that are whorish too.

Playing hard to get means you're contemplating the issue. You don't play hard to get with people you know you wouldn't have anything to do with. A good old plain No would do. But sometimes men misinterpret your No for playing hard to get.

Jackal:

What is wrong in saying YES on the 1st date IF u like the guy a lot?
Tell me, what does that take away from u?
Mention one disadvantage or harm to a relationship by saying YES??

I guess we just have a clash of morals I think it's out of the question and you don't.

beauteous:

@ topic--What can i say!
playin hard to get is necessary bt takin it to d xtrem s nt a good ideal.sayin yes on  first date doesn't go down well wit me tho.

This is where i think most women get it wrong.

If a gurl likes a guy on her 1st date, there's nuthing wrong in her saying a resounding YES. . . . .It's a different issue if she ain't totally convinced and she needs time to sort her head out. The thang is, men can read through most women and if i know a gurl likes me but she just wanna be a silly hilly billy then i get pissed/bored.

Guys that are busy-minded won't waste time on a gurl playing pentagrams with their time n heart. . . . . they tend to move on!!!

Jackal:

What is wrong in saying YES on the 1st date IF u like the guy a lot?
Tell me, what does that take away from u?
Mention one disadvantage or harm to a relationship by saying YES??

Sometimes we like to see a man confused.
"Would she say yes?
Would she say No?"

Lmao

Jackal:

This is where i think most women get it wrong.

If a girl likes a guy on her 1st date, there's nuthing wrong in her saying a resounding YES. . . . .It's a different issue if she ain't totally convinced and she needs time to sort her head out. The thang is, men can read through most women and if i know a girl likes me but she just want to be a silly hilly billy then i get pissed/bored.

Guys that are busy-minded won't waste time on a girl playing pentagrams with their time n heart. . . . . they tend to move on!!!

You're tryna point smtin here bt need you knw dat its better u speak 4 urself considerin d fact dat everyone wit diff mentality.sm guys wil see it has nu'n or wud careless while odas wil rate yhu cheap.Yhu're a nigerian naw,u shud knw wat naija guys re capable of sayin

uhm . . .

I also feel it's irresponsible if you've only just met the person, you need to atleast know their history, they could have sumthing! If your already friends, then there is a little more trust i suppose.

beauteous:

You're trying to point smtin here bt need you knw that its better u speak 4 yourself considerin d fact that everyone wit diff mentality.sm guys wil see it has nu'n or would careless while odas wil rate yhu cheap.Yhu're a nigerian naw,u should knw what naija guys re capable of sayin

genius33:

I also feel it's irresponsible if you've only just met the person, you need to atleast know their history, they could have something! If your already friends, then there is a little more trust i suppose.

True.

uhm

what if the hard to get gets too hard?

stillwater:

Sometimes we like to see a man confused.
"Would she say yes?
Would she say No?"

Lmao

Every man loves the chase, don't get me wrong.
However, there are ways to keep him interested throughout the chase without being rude.
Some women play hard to get in a depraved way. . . It's annoying!!!

beauteous:

You're trying to point smtin here bt need you knw that its better u speak 4 yourself considerin d fact that everyone wit diff mentality.sm guys wil see it has nu'n or would careless while odas wil rate yhu cheap.Yhu're a nigerian naw,u should knw what naija guys re capable of sayin

Of course, everything i have said is ma own opinion on the matter.
Loads of Naija boys are jobless so the more u say NO. . . .the better it gets for them.
An idle mind will pray the chase lasts for a year(anything to keep him busy is well appreciated).
However, for me. . . . . The chase stops after 72 hours. She can ferk off after 72 hours.

genius33:

I also feel it's irresponsible if you've only just met the person, you need to atleast know their history, they could have something! If your already friends, then there is a little more trust i suppose.

U can learn such history while the relationship is on, can't u?

uhm

Jackal:

You can learn such history while the relationship is on, can't u?

Sure you can, on your way to the STD clinic  

Jackal:



Of course, everything i have said is ma own opinion on the matter.
Loads of Naija boys are jobless so the more u say NO. . . .the better it gets for them.
An idle mind will pray the chase lasts for a year(anything to keep him busy is well appreciated).
However, for me. . . . . The chase stops after 72 hours. She can ferk off after 72 hours. :

Gud synz that is your opinion bt its not a matter of being jobless that mks u keep chasin.After 72 hrs?  .its al good.

dreeldee:

what if the hard to get gets too hard?

Dats y its not advisable to tk it to d xtrem bt playin hard to get is necessary

genius33:

Sure you can, on your way to the STD clinic

Seems we are not patching on the same wavelength here.
How does saying YES on your 1st date equates to SEX??

Besides, the guy asking u out musta known u for some time before he even thinks of asking u out.
Don't tell me Naija boys see a gurl for the 1st time and start telling her how he loves her and reh reh reh?
I don't wanna believe the state of their lunacy has reached such heights.

On the history note, i dunno how a guy would tell u he has got STD/STI while getting to know his history.
Stuffs like that are kept under lock and key even if u play hard to get for a millennium.