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I Needs Help In My Marriage by infortech(m): 2:13pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
I needs your advice, please I got married in 2017, before my Marriage everything was going on well, in my business and my Contacts work. but my problems started immediately after my traditional marriage, my car catch fire, I used all the money I got from my traditional marriage to fix the car, dat one was not enough, the day of my white wedding my car spoiled Dat morning of my wedding, is like dat one was not enough again, I was kidnapped 7days after my wedding, all the money I got from my wedding was collected in process of kidnapping me. on the process of this things that happened to me my business went to zero. My big problem is that is like my wife married me because of what she saw initial time, now things is very difficult for me she talks to me any how, comparing me wit other men out side dia, complain too much, I don't give her upkeep money, she can't allow it to happen, insulting me any how even when she no all the things we passed through. we can't stay up to 4days without having some problems, pls what should I do because am not happy with what is going on in my family. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by ayenika1: 2:35pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
infortech: Sorry for all your predicaments. God will replenish your losses in many folds. Amen. As per your wife,let her understand that's what life has brought before you and it will surely pass if only she can endure and have more patience. You can only keep doing this with prayers and hardwork. If she decides to stay,which I think she would, if you find elderly people to talk to her but pls, don't push her out. If she decides to leave, let it be her option and her words for future purposes. It will surely end in praise bro. Keep hope alive..! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Chuksyno(m): 2:42pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
You need nothing but prayers and counseling. I'm in same shoe with you but mine is obviously spiritual but thank God who gave me a good wife that understand and always stand by me in prayers.. Talk to your wife, make her understand that your plight is temporary while you keep praying harder and possibly consult a good man of God for prayers and counseling. 2 Likes |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by lilmax(m): 2:44pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
DIVORCE ![]() |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Oblongata: 2:48pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
I am not saying there are no spiritual problems, but not all problems are spiritual. .. You need to sit up and act like a man you are. .. Get things working again, look for ways to stand up instead of looking for who to blame Many African ladies would nag you if you refuse to move forward The blame should be destroyed and you need to start looking for areas to improve on... Welcome to being a real man 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Nobody: 4:05pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
No money no honey, I never really understood these very words till I got to understand the hypergamous nature of women.. The very moment money flies out of the window so does your respect. I still can't phantom the core idealization of "love" , everything is transactional, and I'm okay with that. May God shine his light on your path man! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by LadySarah: 4:22pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
Are You a driver,Why the car spoiling affect ur bizness. What does your wife do? Talk to her.We women expect something from our man occassionally even if we are working, :Pwhixh i know was also your intention. I have been there and have seen how painful it is when You cant afford some basic ethings.Thats Why it is a union and the bible saying two heads are better than one.She too can help You rise again through her prayers,enxouragement and support even financially. Work hard and dont let what happened Or what She is saying affect you. Gods blessing on ur endeavours. 1 Like |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by ifyalways(f): 5:56pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
Sell the car. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by mrblessed(m): 10:51pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
ifyalways:And sheepily fearfully hand the proceed to the woman, who in your view can do no wrong. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Rosarie(f): 11:15pm On Feb 22, 2019 |
My dear my hubby and I saw same ooooooo.jesus. Thank you!I worship u.my bro first ur wife needs to pick up her spiritual life see it's a woman who backs her man with prayers.cos d man is busy with so many thoughts and responsibilities. 2.on ur own start studying d word and keep saying it. words are seeds .I am an evidence of that.my family too.and know the enemy is not far.tell God to reveal whom so u know how to handle thing. U really need ur wife now more than ever.when one is down the other does d uplifting.know it will seem like God is slow.BE PATIENT. 2 Likes |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Nobody: 1:58am On Feb 23, 2019 |
You made a mistake in settling down with your wife. There are lots of women in Nigeria but I can tell you that 90% of them are walking corpses without them knowing. I was at Gemade Estate inside Gowon Estate, Egbeda on Tuesday. A very good friend of mine whom I've known since 2008 was having his birthday. Nothing elaborate, just little chops, beer & smokes. ![]() I looked at the time and it was already 10pm and so my friend convinced me to sleep over at his place but unfortunately his Power Generator was misbehaving, so we decided to go pass the night at the Havannah Hotel & Suites inside Gowon Estate. We got to Havannah and booked a room with double beds & went to the outdoor bar downstairs to take a bottle of beer (each) for the road to the dreamland. ![]() Unfortunately the outdoor bar was closed since it was already past 12:am but we were told we could use the indoor bar. We decided to walk across the street to buy some sticks of cigaret since we had exhausted the ones we had. There must have been more than 20 Oloshos hanging outside the Hotel & waiting for potential clients for the night. My friend sighted a lady standing among the Oloshos & told me that is Rasheeda. We bought our cigarettes & were walking back towards the hotel when Rasheeda called out on my friend. "Bros, how far naa? Long time. Come buy me drink & cigar naaa." My friend bought her some sticks of cigaret & discharged her. He said he used to know her way back around Ponle Bus-stop at Egbeda about 3years ago and that she was chubby & all creamy. Brethren, I swear to Nimrod, if I am offered 1 Billion Euros by "Dietrich Mateschitz" to sleep with her, I will kick him in his scrotum with my Stan Smith Addidas Sneakers because that would amount to suicide. She was looking all skinny, emaciated & spent - with her collar bones sticking out. To say I was irritated was an understatement. My friend told me he heard that it was due to her excessive abuse of codeine & tramadol but my Anunnaki Spirit immediately nudged me & showed me her dossier. She has been used by these Yahoo Boys for their money-making rituals & immediately I told my friend, he agreed. @OP - I do not mean to offend you but the ugly truth is that the woman you call your wife might have been ritualized by Yahoo Boys or Politicians. This is Nigeria and not Amerika, Europe or Asia. And once you sleep with any of them, your virtues are automatically transferred to the bastard that ritualized the lady, hence the reason you see kings turning to slaves & millionaires turning to paupers. The last time I attempted to fvck an Olosho was in 2014 at Igando. I entered the brothel after negotiation & pulled my Jean & boxer short. The Olosho commot her blouse & pant and I was surprised my preek no stand. It has never happened to me before - because once my koro-koro eyez see any Toto that is covered with black bush, my brain would immediately transmit an emergency encrypted data to my scrotum via my spinal cord to unleash the lamba - and the result would be a hard rigid erection - with my lamba swinging like a pendulum & ready for penetrative intercourse. ![]() But on that particular day, I visualized the n.aked bum-bum of Jennifer Lopez & Christiana Milian simultaneously - yet my preek no stand. I used my fingers to massage my scrotal sack yet lamba no receive signal. I come tell the Olosho to allow me rub the tip of my lamba anti-clockwisely over her black tropical forest - still, no show. ![]() Olosho self come vex use her hand to squeeze & massage my lamba - still, network failure. ![]() After about 20 minutes, I tell Olosho say I go come back tomorrow - na so the 4k wey I pay for 2 rounds take enter bush. ![]() I did not know until years later that it was the Anunnaki from Nibiru & my head that saved me from plunging into a pit without bottom. It's a cold cold world of predators out here in Naija with desperate red-eyed vampires looking for foolish & wayward girls to devour - and there are lots of them here on Nairaland - "The Nigerian Feminists" (Proclaim Feminism on Social Media in the day but turn to Olosho at Night like Toke Makinwa & Linda Ikeji) and we will keep telling them but unfortunately "The dog that will go astray will never listen to the hunter's whistle." ![]() @OP - That woman is an embodiment of badluck & misfortune to you. Only Enki knows how many politicians & yahoo boys must have deposited their "ritualized gametes" into her vulva - which in turn, is working against you. My sincere advice to you is to divorce her & look for a secondary school pupil - fresh from the oven to impregnate if you do not want your "Evening Newspaper of a wife" to magnetize the Dangote Trailer that will jam you & eventually send you to your early grave. ![]() My 20kobo! 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by ogawisdom(m): 12:24pm On Feb 23, 2019 |
Hmmm Work hard and provide for your family, that is the basic responsibility of a man. Sorry for those set backs n the liability u married as wife. When I tell men to marry productive n working class ladies that will help them they will be chasing girls with big ass n boobs whose are mostly liabilities. Better provide for her or another man do your job soon 1 Like |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by nwanneniressure: 12:42pm On Feb 23, 2019 |
Na una know wetin una see for marriage ![]() Baby boy for life! |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by monchazfarms: 8:47pm On Feb 23, 2019 |
Thinking she'll change will be your greatest disappointment. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Raalsalghul: 8:57pm On Feb 23, 2019 |
infortech:A good example of the scam called marriage. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Raalsalghul: 9:01pm On Feb 23, 2019 |
nwanneniressure:I tell you ma broda. I tell you. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Sundarita: 10:36pm On Feb 23, 2019 |
Zoharariel:You lot will always find a way to put everything on the woman. Thrash. 1 Like |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by infortech(m): 11:22am On Feb 25, 2019 |
thank you all for your good advice, God bless your homessssssssssss |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Eberechi24(f): 11:58am On Feb 25, 2019 |
infortech:make una no born pikin at this stage, that's my concern. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Nobody: 1:53pm On Feb 25, 2019 |
[My big problem is that is like my wife married me because of what she saw initial time,] This statement of your is a complete nonsense. is she not beautiful? Was it not what you married? Hence you flaunt what you have. Happiness in marriage lies on the first foundation of truth uttered by Jesus Christ, at Luke 11: 28 open the bible and read it. What can that scripture mean for you *** Finding real love-Ephesians 5:28,29 ***Enjoying genuine respect- Ephesians 5:33 ***Having true security-Mark 10:6-9. Open your bible and read these verses and mediate on them, invite your spouse as you do so Don't bother much about your wife nagging, most men encountered this attitude from their wives during their married live, wifes of poor men, rich men, kings, heads of states, directors and movers of business, sometimes come hard on their husbands. Don't mis interpret series of misfortunes the bible says "Time and unforeseen occurrence befalls mankind,"Ecclesiastes 9:11. My office was burgled the very day, i wedded, goods was carted away, then i was into sales of laptops, phones and recharged cards, did i allowed it to faze me out, NO! Though having suffered lose, i experienced tough trying times, but i remained focused, beat the odds of misfortune, so shall you. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by larryking540: 2:01pm On Feb 25, 2019 |
Make op just hold on for anything concerning child birth, till when things get better, so u don't bring in a child that will kast an insult on u, |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by nwaimoroseyaho: 6:31pm On Mar 02, 2019 |
My brother it is well with you. Challenges come in marriages in so many forms and shapes, it can come early in the marriage, it can come latter. Get your mother in law talk to your wife. Putting you under pressure will not solve any problem. Pray and ask God to help you through this phase, you will use this situation to encourage others. This is the time to be strong and courageous. This is why I keep saying this, beauty, shape height and make up are not enough to make someone your wife. It is times like this that men know who they should bring home as a wife. It is well. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Triniti(m): 8:41am On Mar 03, 2019 |
This marriage thing is getting scarier day by day. After undergoing such trials and tribulations within a short period of getting married, and your wife already giving you problems. This marriage thing is so complicated, some people here blaming this young man doesn’t know the psychological trauma,torment you go through after being kidnapped . Bro you need to go back to the drawing board to find ways you can get back on your feet, that should be your top priority now. |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Marinado: 12:10pm On Mar 03, 2019 |
I am very sorry that you have such problems. My family was also in a similar situation, everything was falling apart. Business did not work, there was no money. And the worst thing is that our relationship with my husband finally deteriorated. But the husband did not despair and made an attempt to fix everything. He made me a surprise and gave me a ticket to Barcelona. He booked apartments in advance in a beautiful area of Barcelona. By the way, booking from this site https://www.lugaris.com/en/lugaris-beach/ , you can get a free transfer from the airport, or a discount on apartments. In general, at this resort a new spark was lit between us, we realized that together we could overcome everything! Rest, we were not just satisfied, we were delighted! The workers of the complex where we lived created incredible comfort and coziness! I hope my story will inspire you. I wish you peace in the family and success in life! |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Katier00(f): 7:08pm On Mar 03, 2019 |
Zoharariel:don't be offended o but how old are you 1 Like |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by crackhaus: 9:16pm On Mar 03, 2019 |
Zoharariel: ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by Jman06(m): 9:55pm On Mar 03, 2019 |
DeckXavier:That is why I laugh at small boys who say "marry a lady that loves you". When the money is gone that is when you realize that no woman really loves a man. 1 Like |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by 3babes: 1:14am On Mar 04, 2019 |
Before you Marry try to know the type of woman your wife is spiritually. There two forces in the spirit, one has to do with God and the other to the devil and it agent. If you end up marrying an agent of darkness then expect everything to turn upside down and frustration sets in. I almost ended up with one :cc infortech read my story here https://www.nairaland.com/4528839/blood-stains-floor-each-night That girl was someone I almost settled down with, she is homely, good, loving, caring and always tell me to invest, save up and do all washing b cooking. In fact till date I have not seen any woman like her. But a problem is that at night I noticed she screem and cry out of her sleep, next was sometime I will wake up to see blood stain on the floor in my room. Business went down, everything going upside down but to leave her was not easy but in all God exposed her after few places I went. With out telling the pastors what happened they already started warning me to leave a certain girl am with, she is from the water, a snake in spirit, that she will make sure I fall financially and filled with shame if I went in to marry her and I will see her true color when I eventually settle down with her. They said all manner of things that I had to call her and explain all this to her if she needs deliverence because I love her so much but she told me "goodbye stay away from me" from that day till today I have not seen that blood You see womem fear them... Hold ur ear very well fear them. If you marry from the other side they will frustrate you and still turn around to blame u. Let me tell you, nothing happen ordinarily, before it take place it must have happened in the spirit relm some months backwards. Most times if I had issues with her (argument about coming to see her people and doing the rites and marriage and I disagree like telling her to wait small or in the process we argue ) i will dream a strange dream where what am doing crumbling and after a month or two is either everything close or just little coming in. Before your car, business or any problems you facing now happened if u are watchful in ur dreams u might see them in ur dream. Bottom line is anything you lost in the spirit u lost physically anything u gets spiritually u get physically and most time this loses are engineered by the devil through their agent very close to us. The Bible says" The devil comes not but to steal, kill and destroy " Exodus 15:9 The enemy said, I will pursue, I will overtake, I will divide the spoil; my lust shall be satisfied upon them; I will draw my sword, my hand shall destroy them. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by victorian(f): 8:29am On Mar 04, 2019 |
Eeyah ,sorry op That's why most times , I don't advocate on traditional marriage . in some cases , immediately the dowry is paid , problems from all angles starts affecting the man and his business . Men, if any woman u want to marry is an orphan? Please for peace and prosperity sake don't go to her village and pay dowry . I know some people will say , I must be crazy thinking like that . but I'm saying the truth here . Just do white wedding or court wedding . and that's all. Forget travelling to village to pay dowry or else OYO ,will be your story . So sorry for the losses , u have to be very prayerful and patient . it's well with u and your family .amen |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by W3lord: 9:29am On Mar 04, 2019 |
victorian: Why won't u pay for a woman's bride price, it's not proper, you have to see the parents and kin let them know u are taking their daughter, what suppose to be done even self that is the real marriage not church white weeding . Or if someone comes to take your car with out telling u will u be happy? |
Re: I Needs Help In My Marriage by victorian(f): 11:09am On Mar 04, 2019 |
W3lord: I said if she's an orphan . but if the parents are alive ? Then pleasw pay her bride price but be prayerful about it . I have a neighbour, very pretty fair lady. She's married three times ,her dowry paid three times , divorced three times but single now . She told me herself . Her dad is late , while her mum still alive but her mum lives in the village . She said anytime she takes a suitor to go pay her dowry , after the trad. And they come back to Lagos , after few months the husband will become irritated with her , fight will start and he will throw her out . She has experienced it three awful times . She said next time , when she wants to !marry, she will quietly do it in Lagos and go for white wedding or court . that enough is enough . Just imagine three dowries paid on her head , three divorces she had to go through in life . |
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