LordKO:
Such pronouncement is inevitable when a sane person is dealing with a typical small-minded person. . . to a small-minded person the world revolves around him/her. She can only be happy when she succeeds in subjugating you, so it's either your dominion, dignity or sanity. But as an unconquerable person, when you've indulged enough of her bullshit after exhausting diplomatic and volitional slavery mechanisms in your arsenal to maintain peace with her, without her being satiable as expected, you let out the blunt statement.

Meanwhile, staying put in the relationship or not will depend on many personal factors. OP if you're the one in this situation, let go of either your possessive or domineering attitude and see how harmony and happiness will automatically locate you and yours.

Truly, he doesn't owe you happiness, but surely he owes you goodness. If he can't offer you goodness, it means he's insane, and a sane person shouldn't be caught putting up with an insane person.

Pointguardusa:
Story of naija

Husband: do this so that you can become a more responsible wife.



Wife: no, who are you to advise me? You are a wicked husband, you always do evil, you are a snake, you want to dominate me, I can never trust you, bla bla bla........................................



Husband: okay if you feel this way about me there is no point remaining in this marriage. We should separate.



Wife: never, we are married and our marriage is not negotiable. Rather than us separating I will rather poison both of us and we will both die.



Husband: this marriage is not working so why are you being unreasonable?



Wife: I don't care. Rather than see you enjoying a better marriage it's better we both die.

Guest007:


Maybe it's just the language used that I'm finding uncomfortable, I don't think I owe anyone happiness because that's not my job as a human being. I can control the conditions and the environment, be sure not to cause drama etc...

I might give you love and attention but you just need space... I've been bought gifts and told jokes and I just couldn't appreciate it, because I needed to work through my feelings.

Knowing all this why would I expect happiness from others... haven't you been in a crowd and felt lonely, or in the most beautiful surroundings, but you were sad. Other times you're sat down doing absolutely nothing special yet, you feel overwhelming happiness.

People can try to make you happy but it's your choice to be happy.

ImaIma1:
No point staying. Happiness comes from within and you don't need anyone to make you happy. But a spouse should contribute to your happiness. If he or she cannot, that person aint worth it

eyinjuege:
yes...
your happiness lies with you my dear.
I like a straight talking man/woman and its good you all know the scores early on in the union.
it helps to prepare you mentally for any upheaval or what not.

yvelchstores:
But in all honesty no one is responsible for your happiness but you. Your spouse is not responsible for making you happy. Happiness is sole your responsibility! This is solid truth whether we women like it or not

Ecne:
Okay, just imagine your 'real' happiness when you become single again.
So, DIVORCE him NOW!

pandv:
If your partners says he doesn't owe you happiness after you demand for improvement in some areas in the relationship, will you still remain in the marriage or relationship?

Guest007:
I am happy by nature so don't make me sad!

No one owes anyone happiness, we owe each other the conditions in which we can be happy. You are the one in control of your happiness, don't let anyone tell you otherwise

zeb04:
I will remain in the marriage but I won’t owe him happiness too so he can learn that it doesn’t work that way especially if it is something that requires compromise.

Guest007:
Women's most unhealthy mindset is this prince charming ideology, and we have to stop it! Look for a teacher in a man, a disciplined man... forget this "make me happy" bs, and go figure out your life, you have to deal with the problem rather than reverting to feelings. It's not easy being a woman, and society won't allow us to change and grow but we can't give our powers away and then cry victims!

#GIrlPoWer

Ablechukwu:

My dear Research more.

Fhemmmy:


No one can be without a reason . . . .Dont let your hatred for women cloud your reasoning, whatever you give a woman is what she will incubate and give it back to you double, give her happiness and she will give you joy but give her miserable life and she will give you 7 feet

golddeejay:
That statement means the person is not committed to you.

Most people go into relationship or marriage thinking it is only for sex and bearing children.

Been in a relationship means you have to sacrifice or inconvenient yourself every now and then to make him/her happy.

So that's a very wrong thing for anyone in a relationship to say.

With that said, no one should depend on another for his/her happiness. You create you own happiness... anything from anyone should be 'added' happiness.

Omudia11:
Too many dumb advices. Listen, anyone who can tell you to your face that he doesn't owe you happiness is a monster and is not worth your time. That dude don't care about you so good luck wasting more of your life with him.

A person who truly cares about you will guard their utterances towards you and will know that his happiness is your happiness

LordKO:
Such pronouncement is inevitable when a sane person is dealing with a typical small-minded person. . . to a small-minded person the world revolves around him/her. She can only be happy when she succeeds in subjugating you, so it's either your dominion, dignity or sanity. But as an unconquerable person, when you've indulged enough of her bullshit after exhausting diplomatic and volitional slavery mechanisms in your arsenal to maintain peace with her, without her being satiable as expected, you let out the blunt statement.

Meanwhile, staying put in the relationship or not will depend on many personal factors. OP if you're the one in this situation, let go of either your possessive or domineering attitude and see how harmony and happiness will automatically locate you and yours.

Truly, he doesn't owe you happiness, but surely he owes you goodness. If he can't offer you goodness, it means he's insane, and a sane person shouldn't be caught putting up with an insane person.

Daeylar:

Now like I said. I don't know the background story on why your partner told you that, but if the story is like what I described above. I would leave.

pandv:
If your partners says he doesn't owe you happiness after you demand for improvement in some areas in the relationship, will you still remain in the marriage or relationship?

bukatyne:
I am of the opinion that it is the husband's duty to make the wife happy ditto the wife. If I wanted to make myself happy, I would remain single.

@OP: Very unfortunate as you would have a hard marriage however not a basis for divorce or separation.

PaulAris:

I think you misunderstanding this
In as much as no one should be/is responsible for our happiness is true
We still owe our partner(s) a sense of responsibilty for that.
Its just to improve in a particular aspect right?
Ok lets take for example, your sex life.
If you had an husband who doesn't satisfy you sexually and you ask him for an improvement and he tells you he doesn't owe you one bit of happiness(like you claim is the truth).
What do you then, do you say to yourself "Oh yh he's right, I'm solely responsible for my happiness." You then go to use a Love Machine or a preferably find someone who can satisfy you??
Is that it?
Or you acknowledge the fact that you guys owe eachother benefits and responsibilities.
Imperfect people working towards...

Guest007:


Sounds like a misunderstanding somewhere. Why not call it what it is *unsatisfactory sex life* it's not happiness, it's something that can be worked on...

Haven't you seen people who just don't make each other happy. They could have everything but they are not happy what can you do for such a person? Is it your fault they're not happy?

Now if she said your D size doesn't make her happy. What do you do? He says after all these years, and this family, he isn't happy.

I think people are using the wrong word here! Instead of using the word happiness, state what is the issues and deal with the issue.

Cheating*
Lying *
Hygiene*
Finances*

Deal with the issue