^^Leave the poster alone, at least he does not HATE girls.


I bet he ends up with a really cool chic.

@poster, All your bla bla bla bla is quite understood but you have to always remind yourself of the fact that women are meant to be loved, appreciated, valued and respected but not to be taken 100% as a course of study else you will run mad. I had a similar experince years ago in my yr 1 which almost cause my entire life and derailed me academically for four good years, at the end, i manage to graduate with 2.2 You have to understand that feelings are emotional attachment created by closeness bore out of friendship, if she said NO! who told u can never love another person, besides your academics should be ur priority and engage less in any emotional thing. The girl in question may like you and really want to give u hard time to get through but patient is the key. I will not ask you to give up if u know that u really love her but make sure it doesn't affect ur studies besides campus love sometimes can be dangrous and regretful because most love are infantuation, fake and conditional to money, power, academic influence, material things etc

Just be careful, cos she might be engaged to some notorious guys and wouldn't want you to cross the line. My candid advice to you is to face your studies first and make your parents proud because there are many angels out there you have never seen or heard of.

collinsfbi:

@poster, All your bla bla bla bla is quite understood but you have to always remind yourself of the fact that women are meant to be loved, appreciated, valued and respected but not to be taken 100% as a course of study else you will run mad. I had a similar experince years ago in my yr 1 which almost cause my entire life and derailed me academically for four good years, at the end, i manage to graduate with 2.2 You have to understand that feelings are emotional attachment created by closeness bore out of friendship, if she said NO! who told u can never love another person, besides your academics should be your priority and engage less in any emotional thing. The girl in question may like you and really want to give u hard time to get through but patient is the key. I will not ask you to give up if u know that u really love her but make sure it doesn't affect your studies besides campus love sometimes can be dangrous and regretful because most love are infantuation, fake and conditional to money, power, academic influence, material things etc

Just be careful, cos she might be engaged to some notorious guys and wouldn't want you to cross the line. My candid advice to you is to face your studies first and make your parents proud because there are many angels out there you have never seen or heard of.

I hope the poster reads this.

read ur books!

dear poster,
from 3.86 i ended with 3.42 cos i couldnt concentrate in my final exams. you know why? it was a SHE!
i can tell you that you are not necessarily in love, you probably think you do but that is because you have allowed your subconscious to takeover your thoughts.
try and mingle up with people. guys especially, go out and have nice times. i was unable to read your all of your post but i believe what was said of u been a cool guy. with that attribute, the sky is your limit with girls.

you really might need to work on your own branding and approaches. its not just about making your feelings known, its about doing it at the right time and with style too. read, walk with the experienced and learn.

[s]by branding and style i dont mean necessarily extravagant oooo. no go spend ur monthly 3k finish on top girl wey dey collect 50k ooo [/s]

Dear Poster,
You are not finished!
Tuffiakwa!

May I advise you to read the following:

[size=18pt]1. T F I had high expectations of my significant other and the person did not live up to my ideals.

2. T F I felt blindsighted by him/her leaving me.

3. T F I felt that I was in love until we became married, and then he/she was not the same person.

4. T F I feel the pain of being rejected by not only her/him and am re-living every rejection in my life.

5. T F I keep asking myself , what if……. and I seem to obsess about being dumped.

6. T F I will never allow myself to be hurt again and refuse to have another relationship.

7. T F I can’t stand to be alone and will quickly establish a new intimate relationship.

8. T F I don’t want to talk to anybody about this break up and I can handle it all myself.

9. T F Sometimes professional counseling and group work can help me map a strategy to heal my emotional wounds after this breakup.

10. T F I am basically a good person and will use this break-up to reflect on how I can make changes in my next relationship.

From Psychotherapy Perspectives
http://www.davismintun.com/2007/12/how-to-heal-your-broken-heart.html[/size]

From the numerous discussions I have been reading on the Romance board, I can see that many people in relationships in Nigeria need psychotherapy, but unfortunately most of them are ignorant of the need and go on with their excess baggage with festering thorns in their hearts and end up more bruised and wounded than ever before. There are no counselling centres for those with these cases and those who claim to be counsellors and psychotherapists in Nigeria are not good enough to deal with the Facts of Life faced by our young girls and boys who do not know how to go through the vicissitudes of their infatuations and assumptions of romance.

Try and record it so it will be more easier to play as reading it will take a day

some of thz responses is really giving me relief, that I should have patience is it that I shouldn't raise the topic again, a kind of I should just continue being her ordinary friend

some of thz responses are really giving me relief, that I should have patience is it that I shouldn't raise the topic again, a kind of I should just continue being her ordinary friend

@POSTER.
My man what u are in is called LOVE. But am sorry that u fell 4 the wrong lady. No sensible lady plays with a man's emotion. So i will advice u to start (now) to look 4 a suitable replacement cos thats the only way out. There are many nice ladys out there dying 4 u for example: MADLADY
**runs out before madlady reads this **

_{pulls him back and calls} MADLADYYYYYYYYYY!!!

Vic2k3:

@POSTER.
My man what u are in is called LOVE. But am sorry that u fell 4 the wrong lady. No sensible lady plays with a man's emotion. So i will advice u to start (now) to look 4 a suitable replacement cos thats the only way out. There are many nice ladys out there dying 4 u for example: MADLADY
**runs out before madlady reads this **

this is a good response.

i really dont understand why some people are condemning this guy for falling in love and pouring out his mind. I'm very sure most of u must have felt or did wat he's doing while in school and i dont understand how being in love wit someone or having a relationship is going to affect his studies negatively. It will rather affect him positively cos he will be emotionally balanced. All he needs is the ability to manage his emotional and academic life very well and i think he's doing a good job at it going by wat he said.

@poster, i want u to keep up the faith that this girl can still be yours irrespective of HENRY. I think she's got some feelings for u that she's trying to hide and i understand how frustrated it is to love someone and not getting anything in return. But like some people said, if she aint forthcoming, i will advise u move and u will definately find someone else who would appreciate and love u more.

Bottomline is no lady or man is worth DYING for, no matter wat. best of luck.

tosyne007:

this is a good response.

i really dont understand why some people are condemning this guy for falling in love and pouring out his mind. I'm very sure most of u must have felt or did wat he's doing while in school and i dont understand how being in love wit someone or having a relationship is going to affect his studies negatively. It will rather affect him positively cos he will be emotionally balanced. All he needs is the ability to manage his emotional and academic life very well and i think he's doing a good job at it going by wat he said.

@poster, i want u to keep up the faith that this girl can still be yours irrespective of HENRY. I think she's got some feelings for u that she's trying to hide and i understand how frustrated it is to love someone and not getting anything in return. But like some people said, if she aint forthcoming, i will advise u move and u will definately find someone else who would appreciate and love u more.

Bottomline is no lady or man is worth DYING for, no matter wat. best of luck.

I BEG YOUR PARDON

@poster free the girl, If she has something for you, she will come begin you

Vic2k3:

@POSTER.
My man what u are in is called LOVE. But am sorry that u fell 4 the wrong lady. No sensible lady plays with a man's emotion. So i will advice u to start (now) to look 4 a suitable replacement cos thats the only way out. There are many nice ladys out there dying 4 u for example: MADLADY
**runs out before madlady reads this **

Who's calling my name  

Dunddy:

_{pulls him back and calls} MADLADYYYYYYYYYY!!!

Leave my name .

MADLADY NO be true i talk?

^^No it's a lie.

The @poster seems like a cool guy that's all.

Hmmmmmm . It usually starts 4rm somewhere anyway so goodluck.

@poster, ,  You were never in charge, you let charge take over you, probably this is your first time trying to date a girl,  The sad truth, 98% of Nigerian girls do not have a single boyfriend. The moment a girls sees that you are weak, they put you in a state of metal discombobulation. .  u needed not to ask her to be your girlfriend, judging from your story, you belittled her the moment you asked her to be yours, what were u expecting?? a YES?? c'mon, gone at the days when you do that kind of dumb things to a lady, as humanity changes with time, so also all issues associated with life , romance and relationship changes. . .

You're getting too emotionally involved, this is any man's biggest mistake.

You have communicated your intent to the girl. Give am space, and LIVE YOUR LIFE. It might take a while for her to process it.
It is most important at this point to LIVE YOUR LIFE, because if she feels you don kolo finish, her head will get big, and that makes things even harder.
The "chase my yansh" game can drag much longer than it really should.

Always remember that you are also important. You need to communicate to her that you took a major step in bringing this up with her as it's something you see going very far AND that she has a deadline to process her feelings for you. Be firm, polite and very clear. WHILE she is doing so, don't be there waiting on her hand and foot.

Go socialize. From the sounds of it, you need to get out more.
Seems you are the neighbourhood funny guy. women love funny. If you use that element properlly, It'll be easy to make her see that she has some competition so nobody will need to tell her to process her sh1t quickly, be it a final yes or no.

And whichever one she gives now, my guy, live your life, control yourself and don't hesitate to give your love to someone else more deserving.
If it was meant to be, it will be. Even if una jam later in life.



One step forward two steps back, all the time.

I was planning on going to see her 2nit in her hostel, but from the look of things I might not go again, let me just try and free her while I handle other things

@poster, try the following technics, u could have a bright chance of landing the girl

the situation from your narration:
+ your girl thinks you are probably not a bad choice for her, that's why she hesistated to tell you the big NO
+ she is weighing the idea of been your girlfriend as you may be too popular(funnily) among your classmate
+ too much care for her from you could hamper her feeling for you( I dont know why but it's usually the case)

What to DO:
1. Be a man and take charge
2. Stop killing yourself over henry. Dont talk about him if she doesnt
3. Slow down, dont preach and push your love too far. It is usually boring to keep talking about love.
4. Get her to spend time with you away from your class environs.
5.When you guys are alone, look straight into her eyes and tell her how much you care about her.
6. Be serious

If she say no, keep being her friend but give her a little distance.

If she doesnt come to you, it means she doesnt give a hoot about you  . Sorry, you have to move ahead. All the grat guys got rejected at one time or the other. There so many out there dying for you that you dont know about even in your dam.n class! Look beyond your nose.

Guy i'll really give it to you for coming out about this, see the thing is there's no guy in nl that as not feel like this b4 ( that includes me) so don't mind any response that seems discouraging. I've not really dated much girls but from my lilttle experience

1.  Guy don't let yourself get beaten over this such that it will affect your studies
2.  She might like you but just trying to play hard to get
3.  Girls nowadays don't really say yes or no so don't be too expectant on that (just remember my own experience 3 different girls actually.lemme share one with you ) 
a. Met in the school library
b. Fell for her on sight, asked her out but didn't get a yes
c. Waited for a yes never knew i've already been given a green light
d. She started dating a friend who happened to be in final year
f.  I was crying like a baby cos it really hurt (and i thought life was going to end, i avoided the library and it affected my studies)
g. Alas life didn't end my guy my in my final year i met the best thing ever to happen to me  (guy i can't describe the feeling)
4.  Wish  you will get something out of this cos there are a lot of nice ladies out there and when you meet the one for you believe me it will be as easy as abc

OMG, I feel alot better now, thank you very much NL. as of yesterday night I didn't know I was gonna survive thz but look at me now quite okay, thanz again.

You're welcome.
Never let nyansh be the determinant of your life's joy.

Most people have more going on for them than they think.

Movingcoil:

I was planning on going to see her 2nit in her hostel, but from the look of things I might not go again, let me just try and free her while I handle other things

Movingcoil:

I was planning on going to see her 2nit in her hostel, but from the look of things I might not go again, let me just try and free her while I handle other things

Good for you. Having cancelled visitation plans will help her understand that you don already dey tire.
It'll burst her bubble and then she'll realize that if she really wants what you proposed to happen, she'll need to start putting some positive effort on her part into it too before someone/something else steals you away.

Remember, 1 step forward, 2 steps back.

^^^^ Actually it's 2 steps forward, one step back.

You're right,

was listening to that "1 step forward 2 steps back" western country music this morning and I think that just stuck.
But I'm sure every guy knows what I meant.

lustified
lotta gals out there bro

now wot u 1st nid 2 do is 2 erase d fact dat u cant live wifout her! nobody is indispensable bro!!!now u reali ve 2 understand dat she's vry lucky 2 ve a brilliant, charming friend lyk u and not d inverse!u reali dnt kno ur wot, !!if u do, u wouldnt evn fink of keepin a crush on a gal(frend) 4 as long as 2 yrs!!she obviously cares but she's seen in ur eyes dat u - "Mr. lover boy" - is obviously lost in love & blif me,she's gonna take u on a ryde 4 dat silly mistake if u dnt stand on ur grounds!
b d man here boy, !take charge of ur emotions, walk up 2 her 4 d "last tym" & if she makes fun of ur fylyns or somfyn, kiss her lips & sign out!!!!

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guys, nice comments, u are too gbasky, keep the fire burning.