You can not control Nigeria women but you are bringing another Nigeria woman that you will force to respect you even if you fail to respect yourself. Na wa for WAEC OH. Did you check your kitchen or friend's kitchen whether there was food on that faithful day? Or your friends wife does not want to see your face in her home because of gossip. What does your friend do for a living and why was his wife looking down on him. There must be something you are not telling us.

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

Op, do they have kids?

[quote author=SageMK post=79287416]Love is never enough. You can't demand respect when you don't give that out. It's evident he didn't respect and appreciate her doings. [/What kind of respect should he have for her? He should start prostrating for her or what]

kevin25:
Wat u said now means that u didnt read my write up very well coz i said dat d man is working now nd provides for the family just dat no matter any amount he has d wife has it times two d wife is stil richer than him

my brother, there is a popular saying "first impression matters alot"
I have a friend passing tru dat same problem right now,i wouldnt be surprised if the lady is even older than the man,
2ndly the man should have gone with his level,,my advice to every young man out there, marrying an older lady who is older than u, doesn't end well, in public u will see smiles but inside d bed room na civil war day take place,

when it comes to marring a highly stable lady in money, please choose wisely, becus some or even many don't have respect d moment day start touching money, ,they are easily toxicated,

lastly if the man has kids already with d said lady, he should just don't be too far from d kids else they might grow up with so much hate for the father /man for not catering for them in accordance to what the said wife will tell them even though d man is trying his best to cater for them, ,,that man is in big messs for real

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I say again...

A woman that shares bills with you will share respect with you. Whether you like it or not .

Don't go in to find out. Let other people's experience teach you...

A woman that thinks she has can handle being the bread winner.... Sisterly think again. Your predecessor have done it and didn't find it funny.

There's nothing like old time religion... Man main provider, woman helper

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The man is working now not broke he provides but stil the woman dnt respect him coz no matter any amount the man has she has it times two. Providing as In KULI KULI and GARRI?

kevin25:
the man is a very quiet man the wife dnt see him as anybody but she respect men who are rich or literate yes she does it... It is bcoz she knows the genesis of the man? Had it been she met the man financially ok i dnt think she wil insult him

Exactly why my cuz broke up with his previous gf because she knew him when he had nothing (though there were other reasons), this his new gf respect him so much she met him when he already built his house.

The long and short of it all, when the man is richer the wife respects him. Money brings respect, forget those love story. Have you seen a wealthy man serving his food by himself let alone his wife calling him by his name, she can't do it.

What time do you have to serve your own food or join your wife in the kitchen when you have a company to run, with a staff strength of 100.

2019news:
You can not control Nigeria women but you are bringing another Nigeria woman that you will force to respect you even if you fail to respect yourself. Na wa for WAEC OH. Did you check your kitchen or friend's kitchen whether there was food on that faithful day? Or your friends wife does not want to see your face in her home because of gossip. What does your friend do for a living and why was his wife looking down on him. There must be something you are not telling us.

my friend many9ja ladies are easily intoxicated wen day are financially stable, forget all dis ur was there food in d table stuff,,,na just few still day humble,,,men dat fall into dis type of problems with d mentality of I want us to be rich, are d ones dat were in money while d lady too was also in money b4 marriage but conditions changed for d man after marriage then u go see d woman try character, let them deal with their cheet, ,,marriage no b force if u don tire move, /forge ahead who cares to kw why u left should come ask u in ur hux,

[quote author=runwaymodel post=79288898]What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate? [/There is nothing bad in that and there is also nothing bad in the woman dishing out her husband's plate but if she wont do that, she should say it in a polite way and not rudely]

Kolping:
Men should focus on their goals and not build their life around a woman. Let her come into your life on your terms and for your ends.

You said it all, and don't pamper them too much. They get spoilt easily.

BiggyB242:


Exactly why my cuz broke up with his previous gf because she knew him when he had nothing (though there were other reasons), this his new gf respect him so much she met him when he already built his house.

The long and short story, when the man is richer the wife respect him. Money brings respect, forget those love story. Have you seen a wealthy man serving his food by himself let alone his wife calling him by his name, she can't do it.

at all,but some foolish boys will not still learn any lesson from this story, ,,

XavierD:
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I say again...

A woman that shares bills with you will share respect with you. Whether you like it or not .

Don't go in to find out. Let other people's experience teach you...

A woman that thinks she has can handle being the bread winner.... Sisterly think again. Your predecessor have done it and didn't find it funny.

There's nothing like old time religion... Man main provider, woman helper

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U first lines really got me thinking to all angles, I need to save that as a reminder for every month

kevin25:
not matter of marry my girlfrd wont try such talkles of my own wife i dnt enter kitchen talkes Of dishing out food wen my gf is around my dear some women lack respect no matter what a man is a man

Don't mind all these idiotic ladies making noise on this forum. My girlfriend will not try that nonsense let alone my wife. Who born you? To hell with your money....
That's why I hustle my money and keep my self-respect. Most women are demonic and I won't fail to beat that demon out of her.

It doesn't matter once there is love n understanding. Meanwhile I need a nurse for serious relationship from anywhere in Nigeria. Fair in complexion, tall or average in height. Whatapp me on 07034302700

eni4real:
Only fools pay Bride price..
What is the essence of paying the bride price when I have to be negotiating who should be the head of the family with my wife..
Being a wife is not slavery but responsibilities to her roles in which the husband assist if it becomes overwhelming..

I have my roles as the husband too which I will never complain about..
No matter what pseudo education or Westernization teaches, I will continue to be the head of the family while she will continue to be 'neck'.
Never negotiate the leadership of your family. You are the head act like it..
I am not asking you to rule her but lead her. Every woman desires that...

If you jam correct "anybody can be the head of the family" lady, you will understand how null and void your point about submission is!!!

I de your side bro.
And I repeat myself, No woman can try that nonsense with me. It will end that very day. I don't care if you are a sister to Jesus.

When they were dating the man was actually concentrating more on the love aspect without looking wats hold for him in future.. D love homos in him was Epping him photo shopping the bad areas of the girl's life. Here comes the marriage e done clear for e eye. HAPPY MARRIED LIFE MY BROTHER

My own is simple

I have seen and experienced it. Being more academically and especially financially bouyant than some men makes you a threat and the complex makes them to resort to weird and extreme ways of trying to prove they are still in charge. Men we are no longer in the 70s and 80s. This is the millennium age. Respect, yes! But rubber stamp, No!

AmazonTopaz:
I said something like this in my topic.
Insecure men with low self esteem.

Lmaooooo...
I guess ur blind to the behaviour of the woman too...

Una can sabi be selective in judgement sha

There is nothing wrong in marrying such woman.

chinchonglee:
If u hear marriage, run!!!

I dnt see myself tied down wit anybody in d name of being married.


Meanwhile my kid sister is here playing love. Love is shacking her. I jst dey laff

Shud i tell her?

please give me ur kid sister's contact, let me tell her for you.

runwaymodel:
What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate?

na them

Dishing out food for the man isn't the issue. If she likes, she should not dish out, na she sabi.ققققففتتنلرررييييووىليصغعنمتوتنزاغت

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

So he isnt tired of women yet. He like trouble o. Can't he be without any at all.. E dey find respect.. Let him go an make money

searchlight:
the boy you call your husband is your house boy period.

u have spoken the truth, she thinks by coming out here to publicly demonstrate how disgusting she acts in her matrimony will earn her applaud from everyone, ehn ehn..chai this woman for sure don use T0T0 water cook food for her husband chop, shuu oghene some women are worst than Jezebel.

NdiaraIGBO:


I support everything you have said here BUT you African ladies also have to stop the mumu multiple birth (more than 2 children) that you are having all over the place knowing fully well that most those children will grow up into poor adults because our tiny national economy cannot sustain our ever ballooning population! Bringing a man doing well down financially!

you are talking arrant nonsense, you only making an unreasonable assumption from the post you quoted.

sassysure:

Thank you.
I pray to grow very old with him if we are alive.
When I was in the market for husband, my target is liberal minded, humane and flexible man who is hard working.

Believe you me, he came from a patriarchal background. My FIL don't know how to boil water.
When he finally agreed to visit us, he came with his P.A.
He once told me that the end point for women is kitchen and I shouldn't work. My husband should be paying me monthly. He was actually giving me very generous monthly allowance so I can stay at home. I just dey collect money dey put for pocket
I made a mistake one day and he deducted I have started work, he was ready to call the police for me had not my husband told him to back off and allow him to build his family his own way.

Marriage is very good if we can put pride and ego aside to make it work.
It's a very foolish woman or man that will take advantage of their spouses who are trying their bests to make their home peaceful by being ingrates and trouble shooters.

tell us wetin u do wey make your husband papa wan arrest u with police.

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

read you post and try to uncover how very evil and wicked you sound, the spell you cast on that man would be broken one day, just tell us how you sit down and command your husband to go and wash the dishes after you finished eating, better ammend your ways.

U are judging that marriage from an observer's point of view. Live with them day to day, and u might not be so quick to judge the woman wrongly.

Nah this kind topic go make some girls believe their place is in the kitchen. The only person that thrives in the kitchen is a chef. Dont expect a woman wired to grow businesses successfully and make money on her own to stay at home and serve u 24hrs.

Find her strength and grow it and that relationship will forever thrive.

Women can be mean just because she is ahead of the husband in all aspect that makes her to be calling her husband by his name even when the man has warn her about dat...she goes around telling her female friends everytn she has done for the man... Refusing to serve his husband food? My dear dat woman na feminist thank God d man has gone back school and he is working na even do d wife was against him goin bck to school

I remember my cuz mate in my university days a married man we ask him why coming to school wen u hav a wife and kids the man told us dat the wife is taking advantage of him based on is educational Level ...the man was serious more, imagin wat he has passing tru in the has of his educated wife that made him to come back to school..d man na business man but he do shop to attend lectures... It takes a God fearing woman to respect her husband wen she is ahead of the man but academically nd financially

Insecure man, with low self esteem, with many monikers to ask and answer their own questions. That is all I can see here. 2019 Reporting.

I just want to understand why she can't call her husband by name. This is a genuine question