Hi all...
So I've got this friend of mine who might be loving this pretty lady that works as a pharmacist in the southern part of Nigeria.
Apparently the girl is from a good family that has a good background.
Brand new car*probably bought by her parents) and works as a pharmacist here in the south and still live with her parents.
Maybe young,say 25 or so,schooled abroad,eloquent,she seems kind from the few times we all hung together and doesn't seem materialistic.
However my friend is a realist and he knows money always matter along 5he line.
He owns his own business,educated and seem to be doing Good too and financially stable(nice house,relatively new car,good business,some properties both inherited and personal effort etc...)
So what bothers him is;
He would like to know how much pharmacists make in Nigeria(the drugstore ones) and what are its growth potentials?
What a woman like that will want in a man,especially when it comes to finance.
He is also worried if a educated family like theirs will want a businessman(trader) for an inlaw or maybe might prefer corporate world people as it seem almost everyone in their family is one professional or the other.
My guy seem to want to settle down soon and wants to make a decision amongst some of the options at hand as he doesn't want to waste much time again.
First hand experiences will be appreciated,thanks...

Shouldn't the two of them discuss such things together?

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Seun Lalasticlala

But if you ask me, like the lady above me said, your guy should ask her how much is ok for her

Hathor5:
Shouldn't the two of them discuss such things together?

Well it might be rude of him to ask her some of these things directly and she can read an undertone to it or worse,pretend.
So he asked me as his guy and I couldn't answer him directly then I decided to ask here.

Fastestmanalive:
But if you ask me, like the lady above me said, your guy should ask her how much is ok for her

Like how much my guy makes so she can know if it's good for her or not?
Doesn't seem right sha and people can always pretend,so he wants to get some of these info by the side.
The lady acts contented and all but my guy is scared so that they won't come and stress him in marriage and things like that.
Simple guy,not superficial and things like that,so he doesn't wanna be put under pressure.
That's what I think.

Iogobenz:
Well it might be rude of him to ask her some of these things directly and she can read an undertone to it or worse,pretend.
So he asked me as his guy and I couldn't answer him directly then I decided to ask here.

I understand it but in a good relationship you should be able to open up to your partner and address such issues. Only she knows how her family thinks, no stranger on NL will.

What I think is that your friend feels insecure around her. That's his main problem because he doesn't need NL to figure out what standard of living his girlfriend is used to.

It's possible Nairalanders will increase his insecurity.

Hathor5:


I understand it but in a good relationship you should be able to open up to your partner and address such issues. Only she knows how her family thinks, no stranger on NL will.

What I think is that your friend feels insecure around her. That's his main problem because he doesn't need NL to figure out what standard of living his girlfriend is used to.

It's possible Nairalanders will increase his insecurity.

No I don't think he is insecure because I know him for long now.
He knows if it is by going by what the girl is used to,he won't be able to cope.
First the girl uses a brand new car bought by her parents,big house and all those rich kid things.My guy will really struggle to keep up with that.
But he thinks if the girl is doing good from her job(drugstore pharmacist),maybe she might not bother him much with unrealistic demands that need to be met.
They are both young,my guy is 28 and she 25.
So if he starts rooting large bills from an unrealistic woman now it might mar his dreams a lot.
So he wants to know what she earns possible so he can judge If she is self sufficient first or not.Shey you understand?

Iogobenz:
No I don't think he is insecure because I know him for long now.
He knows if it is by going by what the girl is used to,he won't be able to cope.
First the girl uses a brand new car bought by her parents,big house and all those rich kid things.My guy will really struggle to keep up with that.
But he thinks if the girl is doing good from her job(drugstore pharmacist),maybe she might not bother him much with unrealistic demands that need to be met.
They are both young,my guy is 28 and she 25.
So if he starts rooting large bills from an unrealistic woman now it might mar his dreams a lot.
So he wants to know what she earns possible so he can judge If she is self sufficient first or not.Shey you understand?

Ok.

Iogobenz:
Like how much my guy makes so she can know if it's good for her or not?
Doesn't seem right sha and people can always pretend,so he wants to get some of these info by the side.
The lady acts contented and all but my guy is scared so that they won't come and stress him in marriage and things like that.
Simple guy,not superficial and things like that,so he doesn't wanna be put under pressure.
That's what I think.

I understand you bro, trust me I really think your guy should ask her, because the one thing Nigerian girls don't lie about is money. If she feels that what your guy is making isn't enough I am sure she would say it out, because she herself doesn't want to be put under pressure either.

But if you really want the info on the DL then it depends on where she works as a pharmacist. Theres no one universal price for a pharmacist job. Some make a medium money and some make a lot.


Does she work in any reputable pharmaceutical company?

Fastestmanalive:


I understand you bro, trust me I really think your guy should ask her, because the one thing Nigerian girls don't lie about is money. If she feels that what your guy is making isn't enough I am sure she would say it out, because she herself doesn't want to be put under pressure either.

Under pressure like my guy demand from her?
If so then I don't think that'll happen.
He is good,trust me.
But his fear is maintaining that rich girl lifestyle with his money,You know na.
So that's why he is getting cold feet and want to be sure she makes enough first.
No be say later person go say I want brand new motor my friend go start look for where to carry 10m to buy woman motor.
But if its basic things of life and few luxury,he can do that very well.
Occasional outings,shopping,etc..no problem.

Iogobenz:
Under pressure like my guy demand from her?
If so then I don't think that'll happen.
He is good,trust me.
But his fear is maintaining that rich girl lifestyle with his money,You know na.
So that's why he is getting cold feet and want to be sure she makes enough first.
No be say later person go say I want brand new motor my friend go start look for where to carry 10m to buy woman motor.
But if its basic things of life and few luxury,he can do that very well.
Occasional outings,shopping,etc..no problem.

Read my edited post

Fastestmanalive:


I understand you bro, trust me I really think your guy should ask her, because the one thing Nigerian girls don't lie about is money. If she feels that what your guy is making isn't enough I am sure she would say it out, because she herself doesn't want to be put under pressure either.

But if you really want the info on the DL then it depends on where she works as a pharmacist. Theres no one universal price for a pharmacist job. Some make a medium money and some make a lot.


Does she work in any reputable pharmaceutical company?

She works in a drugstore,you know all these fancy and polished ones.
My guy say If she can make say 400k a month,then he thinks she can foot her current lifestyle effortlessly though.
Those were just some of his thoughts he shared with me not so long ago.

Fastestmanalive:


Read my edited post

I've done so,thanks a lot.

Iogobenz:
Under pressure like my guy demand from her?
If so then I don't think that'll happen.
He is good,trust me.
But his fear is maintaining that rich girl lifestyle with his money,You know na.
So that's why he is getting cold feet and want to be sure she makes enough first.
No be say later person go say I want brand new motor my friend go start look for where to carry 10m to buy woman motor.
But if its basic things of life and few luxury,he can do that very well.
Occasional outings,shopping,etc..no problem.

Does she know how much your guy is earning? If not then he should make it clear to her before any marriage that he can only afford few luxuries like occasional outing and so on like you mentioned. It would then be up to her to either accept it or leave.

Fastestmanalive:



Does she know how much your guy is earning? If not then he should make it clear to her before any marriage that he can only afford few luxuries like occasional outing and so on like you mentioned. It would then be up to her to either accept it or leave.

This is true.
I thought so too.

Iogobenz:
She works in a drugstore,you know all these fancy and polished ones.
My guy say If she can make say 400k a month,then he thinks she can foot her current lifestyle effortlessly though.
Those were just some of his thoughts he shared with me not so long ago.

Bro, since you said she works in a fancy drugstore. her salary is likely to be between 100-170k.

Would that be enough for her?

Iogobenz:
This is true.
I thought so too.

This is the easiest solution rather than coming to Nairaland trying to covertly find out how much she earns. Just tell your guy to do this and see how it works out.

He should continue trying to investigate till someone that is serious comes and makes the move.

You want to date someone, but you want to know how much she is paid, growth potential, her 2 year/5year career goal. Why not just invite her for an interview?

Fastestmanalive:


Bro, since you said she works in a fancy drugstore. her salary is likely to be between 100-170k.

Would that be enough for her?

Not bad if you ask me.
I think she can manage it since she seem well groomed.
She doesn't eat out and don't do all these expensive lunch all these girls do.
My guy asked me if say like 70-100k a month to give her will be okay for her womanly upkeep and taking care of the house,even though he might spoil her once in a while.I thought it might he okay in my opinion.
Do you think that can work?
Let's just assume for a regular young working class girl with good background.

Iogobenz:
Not bad if you ask me.
I think she can manage it since she seem well groomed.
She doesn't eat out and don't do all these expensive lunch all these girls do.
My guy asked me if say like 70-100k a month to give her will be okay for her womanly upkeep and taking care of the house,even though he might spoil her once in a while.I thought it might he okay in my opinion.
Do you think that can work?
Let's just assume for a regular young working class girl with good background.

Since you said she doesn't buy expensive lunch and other things then I think the amount you mentioned would be ok.

Best of luck

Hathor5:
Shouldn't the two of them discuss such things together?

it would seem

Good luck and happy married life in advance

Iogobenz:
No I don't think he is insecure because I know him for long now.
He knows if it is by going by what the girl is used to,he won't be able to cope.
First the girl uses a brand new car bought by her parents,big house and all those rich kid things.My guy will really struggle to keep up with that.
But he thinks if the girl is doing good from her job(drugstore pharmacist),maybe she might not bother him much with unrealistic demands that need to be met.
They are both young,my guy is 28 and she 25.
So if he starts rooting large bills from an unrealistic woman now it might mar his dreams a lot.
So he wants to know what she earns possible so he can judge If she is self sufficient first or not.Shey you understand?

cococandy:
Good luck and happy married life in advance

lol no be me ooo.
Just a good friend from wayback.
E don tay sha,I know you are good.

Iogobenz:
She works in a drugstore,you know all these fancy and polished ones.
My guy say If she can make say 400k a month,then he thinks she can foot her current lifestyle effortlessly though.
Those were just some of his thoughts he shared with me not so long ago.

What’s she supposed to be doing with her earnings?

You people better don’t start off on the wrong foot. Or you start a pattern you can’t continue if something small should go wrong in the future.

You’re supposed to be looking resources. Helping each other out. Planning for your kids together.

If you want to foot her lifestyle based on her income that she makes now, is there consideration in there for the best options for the kids as they come along? What about other expenses that don’t revolve around her or the future kids?
Is she going to contribute as well? Or ‘your friend’ wants to carry NL sole provider rhetoric into his real life thinking it works that way?

Be willing to help and accept help.

cococandy:


What’s she supposed to be doing with her earnings?

You people better don’t start off on the wrong foot. Or you start a pattern you can’t continue if something small should go wrong in the future.

You’re supposed to be looking resources. Helping each other out. Planning for your kids together.

If you want to foot her lifestyle based on her income that she makes now, is there consideration in there for the best options for the kids as they come along? What about other expenses that don’t revolve around her or the future kids?
Is she going to contribute as well? Or ‘your friend’ wants to carry NL sole provider rhetoric into his real life thinking it works that way?

Be willing to help and accept help.

Nne shey you know for here girls no dey gree say them get money na.
For kids I know women won't even wait for you before they do things for their kids,so definitely in that aspect I know it won't be a burden the moment she starts birthing for him.
He was just worried about unrealistic standards to be met especially in their early marriage times.
They can claim that they are good without your help but them moment you don't provide,some kind of attitude will start to come up.
He just wanted to know the basic standard for a woman like that so he can see if he can do it or not,assuming she is not someone that want to work together with the husband as regards to finance.
That's all.

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ImaIma1:
He should continue trying to investigate till someone that is serious comes and makes the move.

You want to date someone, but you want to know how much she is paid, growth potential, her 2 year/5year career goal. Why not just invite her for an interview?

Exactly my thoughts too.

Logobenz is just being insecure because the lady is educated, doing well career wise and also because she's from a wealthy family.

The more he keep contemplating these issues here on Nairaland or on any other forum instead of discussing these issues with her directly, the more likely that he's going to loose her.

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