What is the definition of dating/relationship to Nigerians.

give your own definition 1st

U first poster(??

If am going into relationship with any woman am inviting her to share my excitin world not seeing me as her father n thinks d only thing she can offer me is what's between her legs.

henryhemon:

If am going into relationship with any woman am inviting her to share my excitin world not seeing me as her father n thinks d only thing she can offer me is what's between her legs.

word, i agree with u

Ask google for the best answer.

A relationship is what you make it to be

A relationship is what you make it to be

i agree, am new here. pls send me ur mail address

why?

So you can make him feel welcome

hehehe, which kyn welcome be that?

Getting to know each other well. Its doesnt matter how long.

Inked_Nerd:

From what I have noticed, some people on NL don't see dating in the western sense. Some Nigerians think its ok to be with someone and still have s.ex with other people while still being with one person. I've noticed though that no one has referred to it as an open relationship. I'll see people starting topics about being with a girl and having s.ex others on the side but not wanting to consider it cheating since their not married to the person. Personally that is a load of crap to me. For example in the thread where the girl said she found condoms in her boyfriends car, I noticed a lot of guys said that is they guy in question had in deed cheated on her that it was ok because he's "technically" single because he wasn't married to the girl. S**t like that don't fly with me. If I'm in a relationship with someone and it is not an open relationship, whether we're married or not, if the personal steps outside of that relationship then its cheating.

Real Talk Inked !!! I do not get this if I am not married I am still single thing even if I have a girlfriend!?? What is that !! Now if it was us the women saying such a thing we would be called all kinds of sluts!!!!

Inked_Nerd:


It just baffles me, then people wanna get on my case when I say its cheating. With all honesty, how do they expect to find a serious relationship/wife/ husband when they keep using excuses like this to sew their oats. I swear, the more I hear stuff like that the more it makes me think twice about some Nigerian men. I try so hard not to let one man ruin it fro the bunch but its just ridiculous. Freakin' hypocrite, they'll sit around screwing everything that comes their way but when a woman does the same thing then she's pelted with names. Smmfh!!! I know in my heart that there are still good men out there. . . Its just a matter of finding them before the bad ones corrupt them.

We are on the same page with this one!! I just had the same argument with two Naija guys earlier today. It really hit a nerve! The sad thing is not any one of them would come out and tell the main "girlfriend"( who is of course being faithful) that they are still screwing other women!! Cowards!!

Love Inked Nerd and Ladyjide comments!!! I 100% agree!!!!!

ladies ladies ladies
cheating men in 9ja is as RAMPANT as ladies in happy relationships but with multiple sugar daddies. who are we kidding here?!

Omolola1:

A relationship is what you make it to be

OK

harde307:

i agree, am new here. pls send me your mail address

lwkmd

Omolola1:

why?

lol

rokiatu:

So you can make him feel welcome

Choi

Omolola1:

hehehe, which kyn welcome be that?

hehehehehe I can't remember the last time I laugh this hard

MRbrownJAY:

ladies ladies ladies
cheating men in 9ja is as RAMPANT as ladies in happy relationships but with multiple sugar daddies. who are we kidding here?!

Oh come on, let them vent. They are only speaking the truth. Plenty of women bashing here, time for some men bashing, hehehe!!! Honestly the first time i heard anyone say 'they can sleep around on a gf cos they arent married' was on here. I have never heard a guy say that down here. Never heard it, not once til NL. So NL has taught me something, lol!!!!! Its an unspoken rule here that if you are in any relationship, sleeping with someone else is not acceptable. Doesnt mean it doesnt happen of course but whoever cheats knows what the deal is when the other finds out.

Inked_Nerd:

I know in my heart that there are still good men out there. . . Its just a matter of finding them before the bad ones corrupt them.[/font][/size]

You found me, what else are u seeking?

***Smiles and exposes mouth full of 24 carat gold teeth***

Tink_sh:

Oh come on, let them vent. They are only speaking the truth. Plenty of women bashing here, time for some men bashing, hehehe!!! Honestly the first time i heard anyone say 'they can sleep around on a gf cos they arent married' was on here. I have never heard a guy say that down here. Never heard it, not once til NL. So NL has taught me something, lol!!!!! Its an unspoken rule here that if you are in any relationship, sleeping with someone else is not acceptable. Doesnt mean it doesnt happen of course but whoever cheats knows what the deal is when the other finds out.

dont get me wrong, i know that there are a lot of fukced up bush mentality around here (NL) but the sad truth is that men can only act this way because most women out there are willing to go down the same path.

if a woman is willing to throw away her dignity because of a BB or recharge cards then why do you think some "wolves" out there are not going to take advantages of that?

- how do you expect married people to respect one another when they got married for the wrong reasons?
- how do you expect women to respect themselves when MONEY has more value than anything in their lives?

but hey, if this thread is just a "male bashing fest" then go ahead. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . lol!

Hi MRbrownJAY, was just nice to see some man bashing due to the overwhelming women bashing lately, hehe!! But thanks for the approval to go ahead with it, hehehe!!

But i strongly believe its the individual and not the relationship or partners fault. Those that cheat make a choice to do it. No one has forced them or caused it. No matter how bad things are or reasons to do it, no one has to allow themselves into that pit. Its a personal choice and guys and girls need to take responsibility for their choices. I know guys and girls that have cheated with no reason but that they could and got their ego stroked. Their partners gave them more than they could want. Them they wonder why the begging and tears doesnt stop their partners from walking away. Some cheats have never got over the one they lost, all their own fault. Just my opinion of course, lol!!!

I think i somehow agree with Inked_Nerd and Ladyjide but not totally, cheating is rampant among guys, but come to think of it, ladies have a hand in it. They get too carried away with material things.

@ladies,
yes its d truth dat men do that but its a better truth dat most Nigerian women think the best ting they can do 4 a man is sex which is vry absurd.
I ve frens dat even tink am abnormal 4refusing sex,also they tink d way 2 a man's hart is sex or 2 your pocket.when u help one without sex,they see u as a fool. Am nt makin excuses 4men though but it beats me wen a girl tinks d best n only thing she cn offer u is sex.

MRbrownJAY:

dont get me wrong, i know that there are a lot of fukced up bush mentality around here (NL) but the sad truth is that men can only act this way because most women out there are willing to go down the same path.

if a woman is willing to throw away her dignity because of a BB or recharge cards then why do you think some "wolves" out there are not going to take advantages of that?

- how do you expect married people to respect one another when they got married for the wrong reasons?
- how do you expect women to respect themselves when MONEY has more value than anything in their lives?

but hey, if this thread is just a "male bashing fest" then go ahead. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . lol!

In this I guess I can only speak for myself. I was raised to be an independent woman, and work hard for the things I want and not expect anyone to give anything to me. I also understand how there are some girls that were not raised the same, What you saying is true about the BB and recharge cards--- but the problem I have is that when you guys have a woman that does not need any financial support from a man, no to talk of something as basic as BB and -is Ms Independent, educated etc, you guys cant handle it and still cheat, lie etc, or think she is automatically a B*tch!! Some of you guys get off with the fact that a girl relys on you for things! Why??

henryhemon:

@ladies,
yes its d truth dat men do that but its a better truth dat most Nigerian women think the best ting they can do 4 a man is sex which is vry absurd.
I ve frens dat even tink am abnormal 4refusing sex,also they tink d way 2 a man's hart is sex or 2 your pocket.when u help one without sex,they see u as a fool. Am nt makin excuses 4men though but it beats me wen a girl tinks d best n only thing she cn offer u is sex.

True, True!

Tink_sh:

Hi MRbrownJAY, was just nice to see some man bashing due to the overwhelming women bashing lately, hehe!! But thanks for the approval to go ahead with it, hehehe!!

But i strongly believe its the individual and not the relationship or partners fault. Those that cheat make a choice to do it. No one has forced them or caused it. No matter how bad things are or reasons to do it, no one has to allow themselves into that pit. Its a personal choice and guys and girls need to take responsibility for their choices. I know guys and girls that have cheated with no reason but that they could and got their ego stroked. Their partners gave them more than they could want. Them they wonder why the begging and tears doesnt stop their partners from walking away. Some cheats have never got over the one they lost, all their own fault. Just my opinion of course, lol!!!

most of the female bashers are underage insecure kids who come to NL thinking that its a dating site and thus turn on women when  they A) dont get any date from NL or B) get insulted by the feisty women on NL or C) read threads such as 9JA MEN AINT SHIIT or 9JA MEN ARE STINGY. lol

as for the reason for cheating, to a certain degree i understand what you mean but some of these Neanderthal woman who marry freaky men but yet are not ready to do all the freakish stuff that their men require have only themselves to blame, when that said man goes to get his freak on with some hood rat who will gladly take it up the a$$, the ears, the nose and any orifice required.

you gotta know what kind of freak you got before you can dream of taming it!

Ladyjide:

In this I guess I can only speak for myself. I was raised to be an independent woman, and work hard for the things I want and not expect anyone to give anything to me.  I also understand how there are some girls that were not raised the same, What you saying is true about the BB and recharge cards--- but the problem I have is that when you guys have a woman that does not need any financial support from a man, no to talk of something as basic as BB and -is Ms Independent, educated etc, you guys cant handle it and still cheat, lie etc, or think she is automatically a B*tch!!  Some of you guys get off with the fact that a girl relys on you for things! Why??

yes some men are insecure like that so they expect their women to be dependent on THEM. . . . .  subsequently that man will be the "head" of that union and lead which is what most insecure men desire.
here is a clue that i am trying to make you understand: as much as a man WANT TO CHEAT, we can dwell on the reasons for years, if there was no women willing to go down that route then cheating wouldnt exist and that man would simply turn back to his "old" partner and turn her into a new experience.

also, i am not going to say that its the woman's fault but these people are seriously lacking in their union and probably SHOULDNT have gotten married. . . . . . . . . but hey, some are so desperate that they would even marry a donkey if they can get that sought after title: WIFE.

as for independent women, what man in his right mind would turn down a gal that can pay her own share of the meal, holidays etc, lol!

MRbrownJAY:

most of the female bashers are underage insecure kids who come to NL thinking that its a dating site and thus turn on women when they A) dont get any date from NL or B) get insulted by the feisty women on NL or C) read threads such as 9JA MEN AINT SHIIT or 9JA MEN ARE STINGY. lol

as for the reason for cheating, to a certain degree i understand what you mean but some of these Neanderthal woman who marry freaky men but yet are not ready to do all the freakish stuff that their men require have only themselves to blame, when that said man goes to get his freak on with some hood rat who will gladly take it up the a$$, the ears, the nose and any orifice required.

you gotta know what kind of freak you got before you can dream of taming it!

yes some men are insecure like that so they expect their women to be dependent on THEM. . . . . subsequently that man will be the "head" of that union and lead which is what most insecure men desire.
here is a clue that i am trying to make you understand: as much as a man WANT TO CHEAT, we can dwell on the reasons for years, if there was no women willing to go down that route then cheating wouldnt exist and that man would simply turn back to his "old" partner and turn her into a new experience.

also, i am not going to say that its the woman's fault but these people are seriously lacking in their union and probably SHOULDNT have gotten married. . . . . . . . . but hey, some are so desperate that they would even marry a donkey if they can get that sought after title: WIFE.

as for independent women, what man in his right mind would turn down a gal that can pay her own share of the meal, holidays etc, lol!

You make a good point. I understand and agree with what your saying.

Like mr.brownie said it'll take a vry sily man to turn down ms.independent bt i guess there are no ms.independent or they're just 1percent of the total women population.
We need re-branding of Nigerian women cuz they've the most bizare mentality u can tink of just a few are different.