AreaFada2:
OP ensure your wife has no mood disorder. It appears you both had a better sex life previously. Try figure out why it changed.
You said she's not stressed aside "looking after the children". That's a big job she does alone 5 days a week. Stressful.

How old are you both, how many kids and their ages? The last two questions may be relevant to her developing mood disorder or not.

If she has also become very emotionally detached, like not minding if you come for the weekend or not, not excited or happy too see you, there might be more to it. Time apart might have affected it.

And hopefully she's not seen someone else.

Bluffly:

Who said so. Truth is he is making his coming home all about sex. Must be have sex anytime he comes.

2mch:

Don’t cheat. Try to make her open up about her sexual preferences. I don’t think you are doing it how she likes it. Communicate with your wife and you will get your answer.

tiwiex:


I am thinking monogamy is overrated here. Why start begging an individual for something as available as sex. I think he should have had a girl friend in Abeokuta. I think guys who stay faithful and are deprived are being tortured deliberately. She believes that guy can never cheat and is having fun with the torture. He also needs to stop coming home every weekend. And he really should get a weekly companion. It would relax him and take the tension away. Let him see this as therapy. Getting sex from his wife now will look like a dog getting a treat for good behaviour. Social conditioning. Me too dey proud for that sha. Maybe that's me I guess.

Ishilove:
For those saying the man should get a girlfriend, are women allowed the same option if their husbands are not meeting up?

kennydotkom:

Thank bro. Just that I don't like cheating on my wife because she is not the cheating type too, maybe because she was circumcised that is why she has low sex drive.

2mch:

In marriage and life especially when there are kids you don’t make such emotional decisions

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow me, but this has become frequent with her. Note that I work in another state but I come home every weekend in which I have all the privileges to have girls because I live alone.

I can decide not to come home on a weekend just to attend to other girls but I didn't. Many people often call me a pastor because my neighbor where I work has not seen me with girlfriend with all the freedom I have.

Sometimes she jokingly says that I so much like sex that she doesn't want to grow old fast because of sex. With just 2 or 3rounds am OK till next weekend oo.

HOW TRUE IS This? as for me I get satisfy whenever we have fun togeda such that I can wait till next weekend when I will return home from work.

She is not a working class type, so she does her business at home, no stress except to take care of kids. at time she complained of headache, tiredness, or even if I wake her up at around 4am when kids have slept, she will complain that why did I wake her up when she was dreaming. And if am forcing her, she will being to make noise that can wake the kids up.

Here in my place of work in abeokuta I have all the reason to sleep with other girls, in which I have told my wife herself that my conscience cannot judge me if I do, because with little time I spend with you, u often turn me down and mostly she never initiate sex with me except she is extremely happy but very rear.

I don't know who to report her to .i just don't want to flirt around because of fear of God and love I have for my kids. We can go a month without sex, she is very OK with that, I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

kennydotkom:
My wife has always denied me sex with her, though I know that whenever she is not in good mood, she won't allow ....[. ]
....I told her that she had turn herself to just roommate.

kennydotkom:

Thank bro. Just that I don't like cheating on my wife because she is not the cheating type too, maybe because she was circumcised that is why she has low sex drive.

HITdemUP:
This is a sensitive issue. This is the actual reason my boss opted for a second wife as he couldn't bear the emotional torture his wife subjected him to with her incessant attitude of denying him sex as at when due. I'm not advising you to marry another wife though, but let her know the likely consequences of her actions. I don't think she is cheating on you either, hope she hasn't been masturbating in your absence ?, masturbation makes one lose sight of emotional and spiritual connection you should have with someone during sex. When the emotional connection doesn't exist, sex becomes un-enjoyable . Considering the weeks you spend outside before reuniting with your family it's safe to say she got used to self servicing herself to the point she no longer enjoy sex with you. Finally, learn to be more romantic with her., let her know how beautiful she is and how you easily get turned on by merely looking at her.. Talks like this will bring the emotional connection that existed between you guys.
Take the good parts of my advice that you consider meaningful and deter the ones you find not helpful. Good luck

Davash222:
So, you still need Ezemmuo to come and tel you your wife is getting the dicck somewhere else

After the weeks toil and you return home to your beloved wife, a faithful wife would ‘scatter’ you with sexx!!!! She’s getting the D somewhere!!! And I think that D is performing better than you. Sorry about that.

Davash222:

All these are not necessary, just tell him the truth!! We’re adults here .

sassysure:
So sorry @op.

This seem genuine.
If your wife is circumcised, it will take a lot, I mean a lot to get her to have sex.
She was initially into it cos u guys must give birth. Once the children came, case closed.

Circumcision comes with emotional and psychological trauma, make no mistake about that. U fuel it also by reminding her how frigid she will be when she reaches 40.

I have met only one circumcised lady and boy, it wasn't fun for the boyfriend. They cohabitated in school for 2 yrs plus and the guy left her a virgin. Was very hard for this guy and he was planning on long term relationship. The babe said she has never for once had sexual feeling. A man coming near her irritates her a lot.

With this scenario, u can go back to the drawing table and try to pull the emotional plug she needed from you instead of trying to remind her u have needs.
And believe u me, a normal woman who is emotionally put off by you can stay with you for yrs and still won't be moved.
But in your case, it woman isn't normal.
Reach out and start afresh with her. If u make her feel worthy and sexy inside, she will show it.
U can stop demanding for sex when you are around. U won't die. It's all in the head and baseless assumptions.
Do your bits together when u are around by enjoying each other's company and do always assure her she is perfect for you just the way she is.
Her groove will come back with time.
All the best man.

I read somewhere that u have to really stimulate a circumcised woman real good for her to feel. So enough licking and stretching. She will be watching your facial countenance the way men watch woman's face when on the act.

And those ediots still practicing this useless tradition all in the name of caging women, shame on them. Real shame.
The man is a gentleman else he would have raped his wife and society will support him.

Why is the world cruel to women?
From our useless religions to cultural practices.

cococandy:
Your mind is already on other women.
I can’t count the number of times you’ve said the phrase about getting a side piece.

You’ll reap what you sow the moment you start sleeping outside. (If you haven’t already).

Work on your marriage. Can you guys move in together?instead of weekly visits. Maybe the spontaneity of not having a weekend sex timetable might help you guys. Timetables are boring.


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Davash222:
So, you still need Ezemmuo to come and tel you your wife is getting the dicck somewhere else

After the weeks toil and you return home to your beloved wife, a faithful wife would ‘scatter’ you with sexx!!!! She’s getting the D somewhere!!! And I think that D is performing better than you. Sorry about that.

cococandy:
Look at how easily the suggestions for infidelity are being handed out left right and center.
Lmao.

daddytime:
Hmmm

Very rigid situation.

There's nothing you can do to reignite the spark In some women when they have decided to turn off the switch trust me.

I'd advise you just cable your line and find a fuckmate around you for relief.

By the time she sees you no longer ask her for sex, her body go phone her.