hi Nairalanders, i am a newbie here oh. I need una advice. I have been dating this man for 2 years and ten months now. I am 27 while he is 29. the major problem is that he wants us to get married in 2 years time (when i would be 29 and he 31), and i dont think i can wait.

all my mates are married with one or two children, and they all keep telling me how fast the clock is ticking. i am the first child of my parents, and only female, so they are really anxious for a grandchild.

The thing now is, i am scared. What if i wait till 29 and by then he decides to find one small young sweet Babina to marry?

Whats your take nairalanders? IS 29 to old for a naija girl to marry? I really love him and we are compatible, but that time is too far away.

I don't think it's too old, what are his reasons however for wanting to wait 2 years?

Babina, lol

if you leave him, you still have to wait anoda 2yrs to marry somebody else anyway except if you have other agenda

why are you listening to you friends anyways

you the one that knws whats good for you

if your friends jump in the river are you going to do the same

its seems like you don't trust him dats why you think he will run off in 2yrs time

What are his reasons?is he worth d wait?i dont tink 29 is dat late.

ibkaye:

I don't think it's too old, what are his reasons however for wanting to wait 2 years?

Babina, lol

Well, basically mainly financial reasons. he wants the house ready for me and the baby (that should be coming immediately after the wedding), and his parents who wont be in Nigeria till that two years time.

^^^^and dats not good enough?

poster, i am just a blunt person and i do not mean to be rude, however i am wondering what is 2 years that you can't wait, do you have someone willing to marry you already.? and what is the big deal with getting married NOW? do you have your own life settle? as in your own money, own job and can go and come as you please and not rely on a ma?if not i would say work on yourself and not worry so much about what other people think your life should be like right now, if you marry this guy and he leaves you with 2 or more kids, are you able to take care of them on your own?

You are one of those that give Marriage a bad name.
Please don't wait, go and find someone who will marry you tomorrow
so you can be like your friends. SMH!

if his reason is for financial reasons because he wants to be secure and you don't think that is good enough, then there is something wrong with your outlook,

@ibkaye
Long time, Sis.
Remember me?

@OP
29 is not too old IMO.
if he truly loves you, he won't be looking for a new 'Bambina'. . .lol.
Except you don't trust him.

Well, at least cant he come and do traditional? or introduction? i have tol him that at least he should do something on my head first lets know that something is sealed. but he is saying its better we do everything together, that he wil do the introduction late next year, then wedding in march 2012!

wow, i am so glad i left africa at a young age, cuz my thoughts would be as messed up as yours.

you are not serious

you've only been dating the guy for 2yrs

i hv bn dating mine for 6yrs she is 31 and we just did intro last yr

ki ni big deal

chinwe11:

Well, basically mainly financial reasons. he wants the house ready for me and the baby (that should be coming immediately after the wedding), and his parents who wont be in Nigeria till that two years time.

o.o

@mykali
hey, i remember you

You better thank your God that he's proposed now, even though he wants the marriage in 2 years time. A lot of your other mates are out there too, praying fervently for the time to come, when their guy's going to start talking marriage. Even if you leave him today because 'you can't wait', how certain are you that you'll get married within the space of 2 years? Or you want to go around proposing to every male that crosses your path? Good relationships take time to build, my dear. I advice you take time to nurse this one oo. . .REMIX- Meanwhile, you can be looking outside small small. But na you sabi if you lose both ways sha. I no dey oo.

OP,
Put ur mind together nd work on waiting for 2 yrs.Mind u 2yrs is not much nd getting married at age of 29 yrs is not late at all.wat matters is ARE U READY TO FACE THE CONSEQUENCES OF MARRIAGE?
BE WISE!!!!

ibkaye:

@mykali
hey, i remember you

I was hoping so.

He who laughs last laughs best. Leave your friends alone, you wouldn't tell if they are enjoying their marriages or enduring it. Take your time to make a good pick, 29 isn't late.

aminalib:

wow, i am so glad i left africa at a young age, cuz my thoughts would be as messed up as yours.

says who?

Gamine:

You are one of those that give Marriage a bad name.
Please don't wait, go and find someone who will marry you tomorrow
so you can be like your friends. SMH!

thats too blunt.

Poster,

When all these PEOPLE finish telling you what you should do or shouldn't do, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT IS THAT YOU WANT OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND accept the fact that he wants to wait two years REGARDLESS of his reasons.  It doesn't matter what his REASONS are, he still does not want to get married until two years later.  

If he is not beating you, cheating on you, mistreating you, and disrespect you, Why not wait two years?  

On the health aspect, you are not too old to get married nor have children.  Women are having children at 60 years old!  If it meant for you to have children, you will have them regardless of the circumstances.  

Final thoughts, Do you want to wait two years and do you think he worth waiting TWO YEARS is the question you need to ask YOURSELF and ANSWER yourself.  We can't live it for you.

@OP if u can,wait but if som1 else comes along pls,pls,pls,do not hesitate.Take it frm som1 who's been there,done that

says me @specialist, got a problem with that, ? I can solve it

@poster.your man has good reason's to want to wait.are you sure this guy will marry you then?only you know him well.I will advise you be on the look out for the"the danger sign's"it usually is subtle at first.

@aminalib do u mean girls n africa have a messed up reasoning? I knw u ar d independent type, But try n give our sis a break. She has real reasons to be worried, I hav seen things!

bootleg dr phil

aminalib:

bootleg dr phil

who

Oh it was you she talking about !90 aka Furry azz? Hmmm, I knew I smelled something foul reading this post, You HEATHEN!

Omoloa pack your bags, you moving out of that cage! I got you a nice room!

(spitting at 190 feets)

The most important thing is to listen to your heart, but dont be desperate, 29 ain't that bad.

aminalib:

wow, i am so glad i left africa at a young age, cuz my thoughts would be as messed up as yours.

how can you insult black ladies like this, what were you thinking when you typed this? *no offence*

It is better you wait for him unless you have others suitors trpping for you.Husband is very scarce now.

It is better you wait for him unless you have others suitors trpping for you.Husband is very scarce now.

Boxcode,

He is a she,

queeneve:

Oh it was you she talking about !90 aka Furry azz?  Hmmm, I knew I smelled something foul reading this post, You HEATHEN!  

Omoloa pack your bags, you moving out of that cage!  I got you a nice room!  

(spitting at 190 feets)

i thought as much.

aminalib:

wow, i am so glad i left africa at a young age, cuz my thoughts would be as messed up as yours.

too lame!