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| Where Did I Go Wrong: by Drfinn: 2:46am On Oct 16, 2010 |
i met a lady about 2 months ago in a club,her exceptional dance skills attracted me actually, we exchanged numbers,with d hope she will get to teach me some new dance skills. one tin led to anoda n we started seeing ourselves,before now she told me about her ex,n how to get over him,she was 'patching up' with some other guy. yesterday,we went to the club,lo n behold she ran into dis her 'patch up' bf-actually dats how she talks about d guy. she excused herself to hav a word with d guy,n lata introduced d guy 2 me, bin a smart guy,i sensed betrayal written all over d guy's face-actually i felt pity 4 him cos he loved some1 dat didnt luv him in return. wen i figured their 'arguement' was taken longer dan necessary,i excused them n told her i want to go n dat she should come pick up her bag from my car,she obliged n followed me 2 d car. she tried begging n explaining,but i told her not to border,dat i understand n drove off,while she took a cab n went back 2 school.she called my line n tried apologising again,this time i told her i understand,n pahaps over reacted also promised to see her so we culd resolve d issue. i do intend to see her on sunday,n talk about d whole stuff, did i do wrong the way i acted. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by InkedNerd(f): 2:53am On Oct 16, 2010 |
Nope, it was understandable. You gave yourself some space from her which is a good thing. Other guys might have gotten upset about the whole thing and instead you kept your cool. When you see her just be honest about how you felt about the situation and your feelings towards her. Good luck  |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Nobody: 2:58am On Oct 16, 2010 |
WHY APOLOGISE (abi shey na "gize?" i don dey old oh!). oKay back to the topic, you did the right thing. avoid totally regretting your actions. Also be very careful so she doesn't describe you to a 4th guy as a "patch up" dude as well. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Odunnu: 7:20am On Oct 16, 2010 |
Hey black brother,you acted maturely. I commend u for that. You dont have to apologise anymore |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by MOBO444(f): 8:08am On Oct 16, 2010 |
Yeh Black brother you have to ditch the Black witch of a lady very fast,ok. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Drfinn: 10:53am On Oct 16, 2010 |
i really apreciate ur comments. Inked_Nerd:i will do just that, |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by denony(m): 10:57am On Oct 16, 2010 |
u did what i could actually do |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by iice(f): 3:45pm On Oct 16, 2010 |
I have no idea how people can know everything happening in their relationships but still acting like they know nothing. Please if you know the woman/man has another partner before time. . .you have no right to be angry or possessive. What are you still doing with the person, if you're going to act all like you're the only one? It's like bleeding lost in translation. . .from ears/eyes to brain, the message gets scrambled. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Nobody: 4:02pm On Oct 16, 2010 |
@poster pls clarify a few things: - when you say" we started seeing each other", does that mean you were dating (a couple/bf-gf) or just hanging out together?! - when she said she was "patching up" with some other guy, does that mean FUKCING some other guy, DATING some other guy or SEEING some other guy as she "sees you" (whatever that means)?! - you said you "sensed betrayal all over the guy's face", but did YOU felt betrayed as well? - you said you felt sorry for this guy loving someone that didnt love him BUT she cared for him more than she cared for you. . . . . . . . so much that she ignored you as soon as she saw him and spent all her time "arguing"with him. dont you see how he would equally feel sorry for you?! - when she called you later and try begging, you told her that you "understand", care to share with us what you understood exactly?! - you then said you "overreacted", do you call "leaving a gal that ignored you in the club for some other fella" OVERREACTING?! i guess you think you should have waited patiently until that guy sent you off because she was gonna go home with him?! - finally,when you're going to meet her on sunday, what do you hope to "talk about" or resolve? didnt she make it clear to you that night that you were second class in her life behind "rebound guy"?! 1 Like |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by swiftycool(m): 4:23pm On Oct 16, 2010 |
MRbrownJAY: Love your reply bro, @ poster, that girl is a user, she probably went home with rebound guy that night to shut him up the best way she knows, and wants to shut u up too on Sunday! well, it depends on what u want, u could be wax on wax off. but trust me if u think she is 4 keeps, you are on a loooong thing Do ur bit en step off  |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Odunnu: 4:50pm On Oct 16, 2010 |
Are u alone? |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Drfinn: 9:23pm On Oct 17, 2010 |
MRbrownJAY: |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Drfinn: 9:48pm On Oct 17, 2010 |
i appreciate your comments,Mr brownjay,ur analysis was great. i finally saw her on saturday as against sunday cos was gona be busy on sunday. basically there wasnt anytin new i was hopin 2 hear her say other than her apology. i accepted it,but told her to be wary of going into relationships out of pity and for the wrong reasons. i will be changing location this month end,but i have learnt a lesson in a way. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Drfinn: 9:55pm On Oct 17, 2010 |
Odunnu:am alone but not lonely,ow i get,you need company,am online as well, lol!! |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Odunnu: 8:19am On Oct 18, 2010 |
Dr finn:Lol. That wasnt for you,wasnt even meant for ths thread. Lol |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Madukaele(m): 2:04pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
Odunnu what did i do wrong?  |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Dsense(m): 2:14pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
Op, I THINK U ACTED TOO JEALOUS A LIL BIT ,U SHOULD HAVE ATLEAST TRIED WAITING FOR OUTSIDE DA PREMISES NOT TO DRIVE OFF THAT WAY U DID. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by queeneve: 2:18pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
Nigerian men are FAMOUS FOR BEING JEALOUS HEARTED, Yall need to take it easy o! |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by byns: 2:20pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
she is yours for the chopping not for keeps - chop and clean mouth |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by luap: 5:32pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
DR Finn, ---- Finally I have seen a post of invalidation during social interaction!!! You did good. The lady had her problems, and you put up you boundaries and sent a clear message. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Drfinn: 5:43pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
D-sense:i suppose you didnot read my post carefully,i spoke with her before i drove off, i dont think that was an act of jeolousy,have got self respect which i cudnt afford to loose. luap:thanks bro,u got the picture clearly. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Omolola1(f): 5:45pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
Poster, you did the right thing! |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Dsense(m): 6:56pm On Oct 18, 2010 |
Omolola1:How is that right?  |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by negga4al(m): 1:07am On Oct 19, 2010 |
Personally for me I don't think you did wrong. This lady in question should be sure if she's ready to date you and leave the so called 'ex-' or 'patch-up guy'. Else, I think she is trying to double date and play you and the other. Talk about this, and until you are convinced do nothing serious. Big ups man. For me, I don't do the club girls. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by pewekac: 9:30am On Oct 19, 2010 |
you both didn't do wrong, i cant fault her for wanting to talk with "an ex" and it was matured that she still respected you by apologizing. it's also natural for you to feel jealous and excuse yourself. and very mature to take everything cool and get over the incident. This is what makes relationships work. when both parties respect each other and are humble and quick enough to sincerely apologize or adapt. and also don't see it as a game of having the last laugh or one over the other. |
| Re: Where Did I Go Wrong: by Nobody: 9:41am On Oct 19, 2010 |
^^^^although the poster and this gal were not dating, she did wrong by dropping the poster and spending all her time with this guy when poster and her had come there together. here is a clue of what she should have done: tell the other guy to call her the next day and then simply get on with the night of festivities at hand. its called RESPECT! one question you should ask yourself is what is her priorities?! the poster could clearly understand that this other guy's "affair" was more important than him in that gal's mind thus, because of self-respect, he bounced! @poster thanks for your replies, we can all see more clearly into this now. |
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