We have been together for almost two years now. In the course of our relationship she has proven to be very virtuous, faithful and true to the relationship. Though i met her while she was in her final year in school and i was working, she encouraged me not to sit in my comfort zone.

With her prompting and sheer grit, i sought for and got a study leave to proceed for my masters at the University which was quite expensive. Though i sponsored myself with my savings and goodwill, she supported me through and through in her own way. Not only this, she never wavered all through this time and practically committed all of her to me and my cause., my dreams and aspirations.

In the course of all of this, i introduced her to my mom who welcomed her at first. It however became another issue when i told my mom i intend marrying her immediately after my programme. Few days after informing her, she called me and told me i should forget it that the lady is not my wife. She based her decision on some "prayers" she had and spiritual inquiries she made which she has refused to give me details. I have tried all i could including pleading with her all to no avail.

Personally, i am a christian and i believe in the efficacy of prayers so i told her whatever she was told could be taken care of with prayers but she was and still is resolute!

At a point owing to some misdemeanors on my lady's path ( not infidelity) and the constant pressure from home to look elsewhere,i almost got involved with a colleague but i soon called it off since i want to remain true to my promises to my fiancee. I in fact told this my colleague my reasons.

Now, i am done with my programme and i really want to settle down. I have come to love this lady in spite of our mutual failings and misunderstandings. I am convinced she is a great lady (okay, she has her little woman's attitude) and seriously complement me.

I have made this known to my mom and she once again has bluntly refused. I love my mom and i really would want her to love this young lady like her own daughter. She even went to the extent of sending the lady a text to leave me alone and never look forward to her as a mother in law,

My fiancee  to the best of my knowledge wants my family and said she will do all in her capacity to make peace, i really don't want to lose her,

Please help here,

Whether we like it or not, our parents have important roles to play in our marriage, atimes they might be unreasonable but its not for us to decide. i'm sure your mum told you the exact reason she doesn't think you two are compartible but maybe you dont wanna share here, tis alright. Rememeber the adage that says, "what the elders see while lying down, the young ones would not see even if they climb to the top of a mountain". Have a family meeting with your mother and an elder in your family and if she insists, bro, dont make your mother your enemy,

My brother, the Bible says obey your mother and your father so that your days may be long on eath which Him (God) has giving unto you, this is the only commandment with  promise, fine and good, but not when your parents ask u to do what is not right, Bible says, He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtainet favour from the Lord, what i will advice u to is this, talk to your heavenly father whos everything is in His hand, the heart kings and the heart of man is in His hand, tell Him to change the heart of your mother He is able to do more than what we ask for, as for going to T.B Joshua or C.B David, is not the issue u have more than what they have, tell your self i can pray my way out, u are a prophet, a choosen nation, a peculiar one, challenge your God for He said put me to test and see if i will not open the windows of heaven and pour out my blessing, He said again, cast your burden upon me for i care for it. what more do u want, He is intrested in this your situation, try it and see that our Lord is able to do all things.

not that after eating the Jomi-Jomi, u will come and tell her, my dear i'm very sorry, we cannot marry each other b/c my mother said, said, she will disown me if i marry you, nonsens, where where your mother since two yrs u people where together, think about it if your where on her shoe, can u wear this painful shoe?.

jp philips:

how my "Org*asmic" stupor turn "glorious"? moderator na born again?

jp philips:





frankly your mum has proved to be smarter than you. truth is, she doesn't like the girl. she just gave it a nod abinitio thinking its one of those guys things but when she saw things were different she re strategized.
she knows you are religious and she is scoping you with what you believe in. she already has a candidate in the waiting that she wants you to marry.

try this, tell her you have broken up with the girl and don't mention any word of her to your Mom, then tell her you cant find any other person that she should help i can bet that in less than a week she must call you to meet someone.

this religious cage is really setting us back.
what a lot of people don't know is that our mothers are still human beings and they feel whatever every human being feels. I have a friend back in the days that his Mom tells him she loves him more than their Dad being an only child, yes, seriously. there is no place her mom doesn't take him to, salon,women fellowship just name it.
Everybody likes him because he is very funny and generous. so on his 18th birthday the Mum bought him a car, so the car became his biggest treasure, then in college, only a few people have ride so the guy no dey take the ride play.
conversely, he stays less at home and has many friends the mum became worried and gave all of us visiting time table. her only fear was loosing her baby handbag that makes her happy.
She knew she cant sway him with food or anything so what she does is just to comeback in the afternoon and tell my man that armed robbers snatched someone's car in town. My man will just park for a month and so the lies continued and the Mum became happy. funny enough the woman will tell him it is a blue cressida to match his spec.lol
The guy is married twice now and still single. the last i saw him i didn't want to ask what happened cos i already know that no reasonable woman will condone his mum's excesses.

Do you ever wonder why pastors like chris okotie still have church members after seeing vision where he is sleeping in Aso rock as painted by his God? is it not the same Kwashiokor eye he is using to see vision for his church members? Is he now saying that as a professional man of God, he cant even interpret visions.
Your fiance has built a world around you so in all fairness go ahead and marry her. i am not saying you owe anybody but even the bible you believe in tells you that she has sown in your life so do not let your Mum's paranoia take away her Harvest.
your Mum simply didn't go into detail because there is none, whatever she says eventually is a fabricated fallacy. Guy woman

FOUR THINGS THAT WILL DESTROY NIGERIA

Religion
Tribalism
culture
corruption.



They don't see shi*t.

A Good mother will bring you up to make good choices and once you make those choices,they embrace it and remain proud of you. She doesn't need to see your end of semester result because she ensures that you study hard at home, she doesn't need to babysit you rather she brings you up to do things for yourself.
I guess you forgot the adage that says that a person that tours knows more than the person with gray hair.

If your mother has spent 72yrs of her life in the village, go and ask her for investment advise make she tell you to plant plantain,cultivate coco yam harvest in the Rainy season from a professional point of view.

BTW, the women our men address as bad wives, don't they turn out to be mothers?