What God has join together let not even a job put apart.I want to ask all the married couples and yet to be married how would they feel if your spouse should get up by 4.am to dress up for work while the atmoshpere suppose to be conjugal.as a woman or a man how do you or would you do.I'm asking since i know a lot of couples are dying on the inside,since they don't know how to solve this kind of asunder.
A man must work,but at who's risk.Please help solve a problem

pastore1:

What God has join together let not even a job put apart.I want to ask all the married couples and yet to be married how would they feel if your spouse should get up by 4.am to dress up for work while the atmoshpere suppose to be conjugal.as a woman or a man how do you or would you do.I'm asking since i know a lot of couples are dying on the inside,since they don't know how to solve this kind of asunder.
A man must work,but at who's risk.Please help solve a problem

only a wiseman would know how to deal with it

Y not,

everytin in life is about sacrifice.
Getting up by 4am to work to keep the family 2gether is not bad atall

Y not,

everytin in life is about sacrifice.
Getting up by 4am to work to keep the family 2gether is not bad atall

Well, I am soon to be married in a few months.

I work long, long hours and we talked about this because he (Nigerian) is on a "set schedule" and sleeps at the same time, wakes at the same time.

My hours could start at 6a and end at 1a the next day - I work for myself - self-employed

Or I might be really slow and unoccupied for 1-2 days per week depending on project demand by clients

He and I were a bit concerned that he would want me in the bedroom when it is time for him to retire as I am sure that I will need to continue to work an additional 4-5 hours after he goes to bed on some nights (possibly at least 2-3 nights per week).

So we have already agreed to engage in our "conjugal time" together at the time of his retiring and if I need to continue working I would return to work via our "home office space" versus my leaving to return to the "offsite business office" that late in the evening

Also, for any early morning "conjugal time" such as 4am since he is a very early riser and many times I am the same, we would just satisfy each other.  If there would be times that because of late night work, I would be exhausted - we would have to communicate with each other for harmony sake.

I realize that alot of couples struggle with that area of "early morning conjugal time - trying to find it because of schedules."  A big priority has to be the relationship and making "couple time."  Should be very important even when the years start to go by, finding that newness again and being resourceful and creative in the bedroom encourages youth, joy and satisfaction.

I am glad you started this thread - as he and I have been in discussion many times in this regard as "conjugal time" is very important to him and to myself as well.