Breaststroke:


The first person to refer to the OP as insecure on this thread is male and not female, subsequent comments about insecurity were also made by men not only women.

Cousin and friend, are adults who know right from wrong, good from evil. I generally don't go about giving people unsolicited advice, they hardly receive it well and I like to maintain respectful boundaries in my relationships.

I asked my friend about the rumour, she denied it. I told her if I heard it, hubby may hear it too, can you pls put a stop to it, if it's true.


Honestly sis, read your comment response to this issue, I must say you're one intelligent lady, I love when people reason well. If I were the complainer to this topic will beg for your advice I believe you have already in ur mind. #respect sis.

fergieboy:
Bro make we exchange wife o
Chai.. My wife don turn old woman na so so wrapper from morning till night
Not sexy atall

Samolaogun:
Mid life crisis at 34? When I met her she was already driving, she was working, she knew herself well. She is just stubborn and she is tired of being a wife and mother, and I will grant her her wishes.

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

dairykidd:


You supposed to know from that mugu post say him na dunce.. There are women who look good but are very disciplined, they don't create room for nonsense or entertain bs that would eventually lead to what can be avoided.. That mugu guy probably still stays under his parents or has not yet woken up to reality. Let him be enjoy his lala land for now

mysticgal:
I need to escape you bro

mysticgal:
I need to escape you bro

corpershun:


For a man you talk to much.

Do well to grant her, her wishes...you will be the one to lose in the long run. Many ladies nowadays especially slay queens want to be like Tiwa and Tonto. You think she cares about you, her friends will even give her a surprise divorce shower.

So many people have given you advice on how to tame her and bring her back to her senses but you keep talking about putting her away.

How sure are you that the next wife won’t be worse cos I know you will still make same mistake. Go take a look at majority that divorce, their second marriages also crash.

I think you are the one suffering from midlife crises...Be a Man, talk less and Act More.

At the age you married you had explored and seen it all but she married really young and maybe has the mindset that once she’s done with childbirth she will go back to slaying.

It’s your duty as the BrideGroom to groom your Bride into a Wife. But you failed! You left her as a Bride.

Grow some balls, you are 43!!!

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a woman parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

HIGHESTPOPORI:
Lol,don't allow the count to be more than 5 though before I come finally.

mysticgal:

Oh my God

Omega30:
Baba, now u are talking as a man. It starts from dating self, once she can't fear and respect you in dating. It ain't happening in marriage. While others are calling u a weak man, I call u a strong man. In her mind, she is young and already has two kids that even though u leave, she is already a mother. Though I don't support divorce, tell her in Stern terms, if she doesn't change, you file a divorce or take those children that make her a mother and rent a new house. Get a maid to take care of the kids or someone else and be watching. Once security & comfort is taking away from her, her wings will be curtailed. When she knows she no longer has a home, husband and children. And that she is now the same with probably her single girlfriends , sense will fall on her. Then if you still like her, set the RULES.
Peace!!!

baby124:
OP,
You are almost 10yrs older than your wife. At the age she is now, you were just getting married. You married someone that had not gotten all her youthful exuberance out of her system. This is what you now have to deal with.

This is why some women marry in their 30’s because they really need to live that life. It’s not about a certificate, job and car. It’s about life’s experiences, good and bad. It also seems like you are the very reserved type and mostly stuck on how much more mature or older you are.

The thing with men married to women who they are much older than, is that they have to act younger. Dress and look as young as their wives. Go clubbing with them and be able to relate to vain things . To catch a monkey you have to act like a monkey. When a woman is looking for attention all over the place, it means she is not getting attention from the husband. Are you the type that works too much or thinks some of her interests are beneath you? Please adjust.

Though for everyone, we all feel nice when we are wanted. Even unsolicited advances sometimes give an ego boost . As you say, you are older, all of 43. Use wisdom to manage your home. Try to get her to plan some time for you both to spend together. Slowly you would start spending time together and more frequently.

No matter how stupid her requests to spend time with you is, just do it. It may be club, your children’s activities, owambe, or even baby shower. Just go and make those memories. I don’t think she’s cheating or she’s a bad person. Women who wear hijab also cheat on their husbands. So, it’s not by dressing. You can also go shopping for her and pick out dresses you like or think look nice on her.

Take it easy and please do not cheat or divorce your wife. Simple communication and compromise is needed here. You married a woman that is your type. This one is annoying you now, when you divorce her you will subconsciously seek out her type again. You are quiet so you married someone more outgoing than you! With a quiet person like you, Na dead zone and such relationships will not last for you. Don’t threaten anyone with divorce as you may just find out that you are not an angel either.

corpershun:


For a man you talk to much.

Do well to grant her, her wishes...you will be the one to lose in the long run. Many ladies nowadays especially slay queens want to be like Tiwa and Tonto. You think she cares about you, her friends will even give her a surprise divorce shower.

So many people have given you advice on how to tame her and bring her back to her senses but you keep talking about putting her away.

How sure are you that the next wife won’t be worse cos I know you will still make same mistake. Go take a look at majority that divorce, their second marriages also crash.

I think you are the one suffering from midlife crises...Be a Man, talk less and Act More.

At the age you married you had explored and seen it all but she married really young and maybe has the mindset that once she’s done with childbirth she will go back to slaying.

It’s your duty as the BrideGroom to groom your Bride into a Wife. But you failed! You left her as a Bride.

Grow some balls, you are 43!!!

Acidosis:



You married a slay queen na.

A[b] slay queen can never be satisfied with the attention, care, love and money of ONE man.[/b]

A virtuous woman cannot turn slutty overnight. At 24, she was a slay queen, and a slay queen she would forever be.

OLAJADON:

Exactly, I don't want to jump to conclusions but women that usually loves seeking attention outside are usually not faithful, my opinion though.

Samolaogun:
Mid life crisis at 34? When I met her she was already driving, she was working, she knew herself well. She is just stubborn and she is tired of being a wife and mother, and I will grant her her wishes.

lilbest4:
log in her Instagram and Facebook on your phone it is very easy, I can teach you if you want and if you have iPhone, login her WhatsApp on your safari browser

LordKO:
@OP

It's obvious that you married another man's wife/the wrong woman. A true wife's invaluableness (to her husband, a sane husband of course) lies in the attributes of selflessness, meekness and sweetness - unfortunately she possesses only sweetness which isn't enough to guarantee you peace of mind. And a virtuous woman knows the difference between dressing classy and dressing slutty. So, I support your decision.

Ignore anyone who'll tell you that insecurity is worrying you.

humblemikel:
There's no more respect for the solemnity of marriage anymore,
Yet you see canopies pitched every other weekends.
From the day I read a male friends message sent by a married woman who he is actually having affairs with, I weep for marriages.
That incident can never escape my memory in a lifetime
Question I ask myself that day
Who is the father of those innocent children in that man's house

daddytime:
If it smells like shiit bro, trust me it can't be burger, its a 100% shiit

Been there seen all...

Never under-estimate your gut instincts. Thats how nature and God speaks to you.

Was blessed with a slut for a wife once upon a time, i simply took it in my stride and pretended God was probably dealing with me for my past deeds by omission and commission. God was so merciful not to have allowed any kids between us, that would have been my undoing.

In hindsight, i actually saw the handwritings but my senses were blocked to teach me a lesson. Woman wey her mama born 6 children all for different men. Na oyibo i dey talk about o. Man don see things...

But when i do her shege...till date I know she will never recover from how I served her back. Na TV and newspapers she from dey see me now... Praise the Lord...

These days i use every bit of my life lessons to teach and educate people with zero inhibitions.

If you want, i can give you a recipe for a good dosage on her with no physical harm whatsoever. Na just the kids wey dey between una go be the only stress.

Fish wey don dry no dey let bend again.
Rubbish...

Samolaogun

lilbest4:
if you can hold her phone for just few minutes it will be enough. Open Facebook on your browser, click "forgotten password " and type her number to recover password, a code will be sent to her number copy it and delete it. Use it to change the password and select "keep logged in on other devices" so that hers won't be logged out. Repeat the same for Instagram, Instagram is actually easier and quicker.
Why you need safari browser for the WhatsApp is because if you use any other browser she will be notified anytime you open the WhatsApp on your phone but if you use safari (iPhone browser) she won't receive notifications.
To log in her WhatsApp, open Web.whatsapp.com, set your browser to desktop version ( it's easily located on the option button on the browser), a QR code will appear on your screen, open her WhatsApp, go to the option and select WhatsApp Web, the camera will open, scan the code and it will be logged in. Whenever her data is on you will have full access to her chat while she is sending it

lilbest4:
if you can hold her phone for just few minutes it will be enough. Open Facebook on your browser, click "forgotten password " and type her number to recover password, a code will be sent to her number copy it and delete it. Use it to change the password and select "keep logged in on other devices" so that hers won't be logged out. Repeat the same for Instagram, Instagram is actually easier and quicker.
Why you need safari browser for the WhatsApp is because if you use any other browser she will be notified anytime you open the WhatsApp on your phone but if you use safari (iPhone browser) she won't receive notifications.
To log in her WhatsApp, open Web.whatsapp.com, set your browser to desktop version ( it's easily located on the option button on the browser), a QR code will appear on your screen, open her WhatsApp, go to the option and select WhatsApp Web, the camera will open, scan the code and it will be logged in. Whenever hoer data is on you will have full access to her chat while she is sending it

tabithababy:
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Really??

Davidasi:
My brother abeg track her phone or kindly install some phone call recorder on her phone, free her during this seasons and you will shock . I have done it several olosho trying to reap me because of love. She is cheating and you need evidence so as to free your mind. A cheating wife or girlfriend can kill. ........abeg track her or install phone call recorder,, you will thank me later ... may I go carry my pikin from school

Samolaogun:
Like I said she has always been self centred. Always been about her looks. My wife is beautiful and when you marry beautiful girls I thought that was the package that came with it, nobody is perfect. It was manageable at first, but after the kids arrived it’s like she felt tied down and she wanted to just live her life. It’s not today this problem has started, it’s been happening for years. I’ve tried everything to tame her but you cannot tame a wild beast. Only thing left is to report her to her mother, but her mother is a replica of my wife. That is how her father died before his time, I cannot allow that to be my case. When you are too understanding or calm with women, they take advantage and misbehave. For my own peace of mind I have decided to let go, I no longer want to be involved. I cannot have a woman parading as an ashewo in my house making a mockery of me. I’ve reached my boiling point.

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.