EmekaBlue:
Ur husband sef....he went skin diving instead of using a condom.

Sorry madam...life is a bitch, shit happens. I think ur niece should mayb wash d pregnancy away since its still at d early stage

Omojudy:
As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.

Omojudy:

I am a woman so I say no. But does this same woman want to
1. Be an accomplice to murder or even probably a bad abortion leading to death of her niece,
2. Bring discord in her extended family forever
3. Want to divorce and leave her children or even take them
4. Live bitter all her life?
Forgiveness is a choice, so is love.
In my opinion, if she can’t do what I suggested, she had better sue him for divorce and all he is worth. It’s either all the way or no way at all!

Midas01:
Are you implying that you men are goats?

healthserve:




All of this would have been the man's consideration before carrying out his dastardly act

Beetee1:
to be sincere with you madam, your husband needs your support at this time, not forgetting that the deed has been done and you cannot undo that. More so, your sister is already taking the side of your niece irrespective of the fact that the allegation was true or not. the simple way of you getting to know the truth from your husband is by you making him to trust you, comport him and make him feel relax that it's no big deal though you worried in your mind. fight for him to and make your sister know that though she claim her daughter was a vergin before coming to you and you too trust your hubby that he can not engage in such. with this I'm sure if really he's guilty, he will be ashame of it and come out plain for you. Don't forget, he's the father of your four children. you still need him. This is your cross, you need to carry it.

Cocolatti:
Oga this is Nigeria!
Which one be lie detector
Na oyibo dey use dat one

alphaNomega:


Clearly this one is out of ideas.

Midas01:
Gosh. You Nigerian men are so senseless. I hope you'll accept the same if your wife gets pregnant for your nephew.

Omojudy:

If only men were this considerate, the world would have been a better place to live in!

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

healthserve:



He disrespected his wife


Scarred his children


Ruined his marriage


Scattered all he had built so far



Now, how can such a man be shielded from the consequences of his actions. There are lots of mature ladies that won't mind sexual relations. The rule of the game is to always carry the game far from.home. He broke the rule

Omojudy:

Don’t use your own hand to spoil your defense! The rule is be faithful Sir!

Omojudy:

If only men were this considerate, the world would have been a better place to live in!

calgaryFriend:


This does not sound like a wise thing to do, how will she call the whole village on her husband based on an accusation that has not been verified.
And even if she eventually verifies it she does not have to expose her dirty laundry in the open, she has a marriage to keep nonetheless.

When tree falls on tree you remove the uppermost one first.

The first thing she needs to do is to use wisdom to establish if her husband is the one responsible or not.

Have you though about the damage your suggestion would make if her husband is been wrongly accused ?
Or do you think it is not possible that the husband may be wrongly accused ?

This is not the time to betray emotions , this is the time to use wisdom.

Bigcowhorn:


Not necessarily, but what do you suggest?

teefaht:
I was 16 in 2009 when my Aunt's husband almost try this shit with me. Had to lie to my sis and leave the place. That was the last time I stepped my foot in their house.

Women needs to be careful, infact don't allow your sister to live with you if you are married.

The temptation might come from the sister or your husband.

I was scared to stay in my aunt's house because I was scared that he might later rape me. My sis is a banker, she comes back late at night coupled with Lagos traffic. Anything could have happened within that time without her knowledge.

I think women should be careful be it sis or no sister.

crixtech:
Nowadays you can't leave a young girl in the care of a man without the possibility of rape or molestation, not to talk of when the girl is an adolescent, even those who may not consider having anything to do with under age children, the same may not be able to withstand the temptation in the case of a teen/adolescent. Sex is one of the main devices the devil is using to destroy lives and homes nowadays.

That being said, my advice to you (OP) is to calm down about it, speak with you husband and reason together. Give the girl every necessary support she needs before and after child birth and once the child is born, take him/her as your own child, provide for the needs of the child as well as her mother and God will bless you abundantly.

Omojudy:

Lol. Only forgiveness DIVORCE can make her happy

mrsfavour:
honestly sister,mine happened last month , my house girl was about removing her panties while my hubby was on erection waiting for her I just caught them. I sent the girl away that same minute. And I faced my husband , called his mother and elder sister. They came ,all ashamed, pleading. Some men are he goats I swear

Omojudy:

Lol. Only forgiveness can make her happy

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

ctleurocollege:




Hope you won't rape your daughter one day. Maybe your wife should consider sending her away for safety too

mrsfavour:
honestly sister,mine happened last month , my house girl was about removing her panties while my hubby was on erection waiting for her I just caught them. I sent the girl away that same minute. And I faced my husband , called his mother and elder sister. They came ,all ashamed, pleading. Some men are he goats I swear

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

Omojudy:
As painful as this will sound, I will ask the girl what she wants to do, clearly giving her the right over her own body. She is my relative not his and I will support her while watching my husband prayerfully without a quarrel.
If she does keep the pregnancy, I will request her to give us custody of the child and voila we have another child.
Whatever she decides, I will stand by it. Anything other than him and her continuing their affair.
Yes, I will also have the baby’s DNA tested when born if we have to accept the liability.
Life is not that hard, it’s betraying and hurtful but we will always take the right decisions putting emotions aside.

Chiefochiefo:

Is ur brain paining u?

MrBrownJay1:




In the real world, yeah possibly, but in Nigeria where MONEY TALKS, you will get this information in no time....

Btw, since husband went to doc with the babe, wifey can just dragged the husband with her, and they will get the information again (it's not confidential to the person who was at hospital with her and possibly paid for the test)