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[deleted] by sweetmelanin(f): 8:35pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
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Re: [deleted] by Cutehector(m): 8:42pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
I think you can decide to change the situation . |
Re: [deleted] by Mutemenot(m): 8:44pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
Marriage got no formula, if the once in a month is okay for you guys, why bothered ? Learn not to bring other people's way of life into your marriage . Be who you Are, that's what makes you peculiar. 19 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 8:45pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: The beginning of marital problems is questioning what works for you by doubting its improper. Whatever rocks your boat is good and norm Ma'am 10 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by goodmorning40: 9:04pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
Frequency of sex in marriage most times depend on the age of the marriage . Marriages under two years tend to have sex more often than older marriages because younger couples still got the spark, much of the love still there, have got times alone, and still pretty much on the forgiveness theory Older couples have time to contend with because of the children and their financial burden, begin to nurse wrongs feom each other and that reduce the love, the spark and that mystery. That is when marriage becomes work and is all about working it out. 8 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by DissTroy(m): 9:06pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: Your husband probably has a low libido, doesn't find you attractive or gets it outside. Once a week is too poor! At least every alternate day. Once in a month? I'd rather not imagine it. 9 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by Jmk9292(m): 9:09pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
If sex hasn't posed any threat to your marriage then relax.......for it's no food............ Keep up with whatever paddles your canoe (marriage)...... Marriage no get formula... 9 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 9:09pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
DissTroy: Cause problems in their home okay? Once a week is too poor says Book of runs chapter 90 verse 200 8 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by modsfucker: 9:10pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: I think everyday is Ok and will bring you closer... At worst you can make it thrice a week but that your once a month is a No No... I get aroused everyday but my wife's libido isn't as strong as mine, so I settled for thrice a week. |
Re: [deleted] by hify9935(f): 9:11pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
DissTroy:hmmmmn. The beginning of marital problems in most cases. 1 Like |
Re: [deleted] by DissTroy(m): 9:19pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
healthserve: Sir/dude/man/bro, once a week is poor; very poor. I deliberately focused on the man. The problem could be the woman - she might be frigid. And no, I don't do runs - only my woman. I'd be really worried if she and I are in good health and a whole 2 days go by without us tumbling beneath the sheets. Once in a week? The only other excuse should be they are in their 50's or 60's. |
Re: [deleted] by sweetmelanin(f): 9:31pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
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Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 9:39pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
DissTroy: They don't counsel this way in marital issues. You've conditioned her to start chasing problems. She wouldn't have known its poor if you and her friends didn't tell her. After all you're not her husband nor in he's shoes nor share his burden of challenges. A man with more free time would obviously need more sex like a young husband when compared against an advanced one. When dishing advice on marital issues,tree softly before you break a home 10 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by missjo(f): 9:39pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin:Lmao, what does this mean? 1 Like |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 9:41pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: One question or rather few Do you have more sexual or unmet sexual needs or is it just about the frequency issued brought about the discussion with your friends Secondly , if you have needs, have you tried speaking with hubby before creating the thread Sanity is how we process information people pass on to us as rights and facts. 2 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by DissTroy(m): 9:46pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: If you got married in your late 20's and have been married for 5 years, you are in your earlier 30's then. Too early to get comfortable with sex once in a month. Too early. I don't know, try to spice it up or something. If you were a male, it would have been easier to advise you. Whichever way, please don't get comfortable with once a month this early. I can't think of any married man that age who is comfortable with just once a month. Except you have overtly or subtly implied you want that arrangement and he just wants to please you so he endures. Ask him this outrightly, "Babe, can you in all honesty say you are completely comfortable with sex once a month?" He would say yes at first (I would too just not to drag an issue with my better half) but if you press him, he would admit it. |
Re: [deleted] by Nobody: 9:49pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
From your words on this thread below that you created last year, you said there's no sexual chemistry between you, so that must be why. Advice Needed! Is Unhappiness A Good Reason For Divorce? by sweetmelanin(f): 11:09pm On Jul 07, 2018 "I see my husband more like a brother than a lover. We laugh, crack jokes and hold similar world views. BUT theres no sexual chemistry. I find it difficult to get aroused by him. There is a deep sense of unfulfillment and unhappiness. I wonder how long I can cope with a marriage without passion." https://www.nairaland.com/4605024/advice-needed-unhappiness-good-reason#69177711 4 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by desvi: 9:49pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
your only yardstick should be your satisfaction not other couples 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 9:50pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
Chai. Who are these o |
Re: [deleted] by desvi: 9:50pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
theButterfly: ok |
Re: [deleted] by Kalashnikov102(m): 9:51pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
Fire dey go!! #gang |
Re: [deleted] by bukatyne(f): 9:51pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: @bold: Why do you think it is no longer normal? Did your husband prior to now complain about the frequency of Sex? 1 Like |
Re: [deleted] by desvi: 9:52pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: which flaws are so bad that it turned you off? 2 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 9:53pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
The beginning of every disaster is the assumption that stability is boring and archaic. Hence, the beginning of a wanderlust journey that pierces the heart. Someone wants to drift badly off a stable path. I've seen this over a billion times. Rebellion brewing 5 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by sisisioge: 9:55pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
Wow! Once a month! Dang! Biko stop cheating yourself jare, how could you have an open card to have as much sex as you want but choose to do it only 12 times in a year! Forks! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: [deleted] by desvi: 9:58pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sisisioge: |
Re: [deleted] by DissTroy(m): 9:59pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
healthserve: First off, I'm no marriage counselor. Most marriage counselors (like 'relationship experts') have failed marriages or relationships, I digress. Should I have been more euphemistic? Maybe, but it had to be stated - for a couple in their 30's, once a month is poor. I mean, if I am SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to my spouse, we should do better than once in 30 days. We should turn each other on more times than that which should translate to sex, sometimes. Agreed some might end up with us just cuddling in bed but sex should be regular at the least. It's not a threatening problem but working on their sexual intimacy would be great for them. Luckily, they have every other thing going for them and love themselves to bits too. Asking them to have more sex can't exactly ruin their home. 2 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by sisisioge: 9:59pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
theButterfly: Wowzer ...its getting worse then. They need an intervention. 2 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by sweetmelanin(f): 10:00pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
healthserve: ...just a group of ladies being silly, we had a few drinks, raided our host's bedroom and discovered intimacy gadgets... that's how the conversation started really. Sex is scarce in my marriage but when it happens it's ok... honestly, my husband and I have a bond I can't explain, many times I tried leaving him as I felt that the passion is lacking in our relationship but my attempts have always failed as we just can't seem to live without each other.. we met as teenagers and I've always felt like soul mates. In our journey so far, we've struggled with ttc due to low libido on both sides but somehow God blessed us with a miracle baby... during pregnancy my sex drive increased a lot and we got it on more often.. but now that I've had the baby, everything is back to square one. 2 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 10:06pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
DissTroy: Counselor or not, good counsel starts from a neutral stance. Not your husband is a failure stance. Get yourself educated bro 5 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by healthserve(m): 10:10pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
sweetmelanin: We're going somewhere trust me. Is it a case of not being okay cause you and your girls had some talks or its a case of need. If its a case of need, I feel your husband should be the first person to speak with. I'm bothered when too many internet advise is given freely, not that many would be bad but they just may core your thoughts about a situation that could have been talked over first. If you have more needs then hubby should be the first to know. I.e how about we try four times a month I.e Saturdays etc. You get sexy day before put on the girly act to mentally stimulate him and all. Or may Friday nite meal a date and an invite. Wouldn't you agree with me on this? 2 Likes |
Re: [deleted] by sweetmelanin(f): 10:20pm On Sep 30, 2019 |
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