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Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by franchasng: 9:49am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Nnemuka:No, they are from Somalia |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Mizwisdom(f): 9:50am On Oct 05, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: See sense, you've won a new follower don't mind those liars |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 9:52am On Oct 05, 2019 |
truthsayer009: Same way mothers of the old looked like dead chickens. They had no say because they had no MONEY. It is what their daughters saw and some decided never to go that path. Men do worse to their wives everyday in this Nigeria. If a Naija man trains you in school, you owe him your life and every existence. They are even worse than their women. If for anything, the women learned from them after being "fish brained" for so long. 3 Likes |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 9:53am On Oct 05, 2019 |
ornicus: How did I even forget that. They like how it is in Nigeria. They can exhibit their wickedness and get away with it. Like I said, I have no issue with where he wants us to stay. I just need him to always know I can hold it down if he decided to be a NED. 1 Like |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 9:53am On Oct 05, 2019 |
ornicus: What is this one saying? Are Men not still playing a bigger role in financing the families in the US. Women contribute more financially outside Nigeria as regarding family because they are brought up that way and their orientation from parents differ from our own traditional approach to parenting. 4 Likes |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by BlueAir: 9:55am On Oct 05, 2019 |
I know it feels weird and awkward but just to avoid scrutiny by poke nosers and amebos just move in with her. It doesnt mean ur house is disappearing. .if she messes up u can go back to ur crib.only remeber not to be manipulated to sell it or have no house backup GOFRONT: |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Bizibi(m): 9:56am On Oct 05, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:yes,there are such cases were some men misbehaves but in the end we are learning mistakes of people. That is why financial stable couples always buy a property to build a family. Some men do support their wives to own properties,igbo men are known for that, not all. As for me I won't try such in my life(residing in the spouse house) ,i prefer a healthy marriage than a broken one. |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 9:58am On Oct 05, 2019 |
ornicus: Lol, that is all at the closing paragraph. But you are right o, small empowerment and Naija men are already wailing. They want to go back to the days where womem were fully dependent. Haqhaqhaq 2 Likes |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:00am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bizibi: Reside wherever you want. It doesn't change the fact that she has a house and everyday you sleep-you will see that big house and know with or without you, she won't be homeless or back to her FATHER'S HOUSE. 2 Likes |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by tojahh(m): 10:01am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Her house na. Abi suffer no dey tire you?
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Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:02am On Oct 05, 2019 |
AntiBrutus: I am not even arguing against Men doing worst, we already established that. That came from our traditional approach to upbringing. Same as women who are hypergamous in nature. You said Train you in school? Lets not even go that length please. Women have being scumbags with this means for a long time. Try paying someone's fees in Covenant University for 4 years, then you know how far. Abeg lets just agree to disagree, no need going further. Thank you. |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nnemuka(f): 10:04am On Oct 05, 2019 |
franchasng:Using celebrities to define all the women in Nigeria wehdone 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:04am On Oct 05, 2019 |
truthsayer009: That I said he expects her to owe him her life, doesn't mean she always agreed she owes him her life. Two different things. It is a human thing and you all are not any better, but that hasn't made women stop moving into your houses. Small thing wey dem do una, una go turn philosopher. Thank you too. 1 Like |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:04am On Oct 05, 2019 |
truthsayer009: What is this simpleton saying? Women are empowered in the west. They are for the most part not shackled by culture or society or income. In Nigeria my wife can report me to the police for domestic violence, and the police will tell her to bear with me. Her mother will do the same. There’s this case I remember from uni. These secondary school sweethearts from unilorin secondary school resumed in unilorin. Then life happened. The gal was very very hot, and the guy was just there. As jambite matter, she was getting lots and lots of attention from guys much cooler than her bf. she was sort of trying to manage it, but bizarrely, the guys response was to beat her up. Apparently that was what went on in his own house. Next thing you hear is the guys Mum is telling the girl, you have to manage, that is how men are. Las las they broke up. Probably good the girl saw a preview of what life with the guy would be like That’s naija society for you. Old women telling young girls to put up with a life of catering to weak egos and domestic violence. People ( friends and family) will ask her to put up with infidelity, second wife, other children. But outside this country, people will tell her, leave him. No one will stigmatize her. If she is earning her own money and is not dependent on him, she is off. See as small pikins are wailing Upandan about small female empowerment in naija. Put them ina situation where their wife gives them the middle finger and moves out, and they will go postal. No one should be dependent to a point where they have no choice but to swallow shit. This is not just about women, but about life in general. 4 Likes |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Numerouno94(m): 10:07am On Oct 05, 2019 |
supernet4:this is a wife material. i luv ur tinkin. |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Bizibi(m): 10:10am On Oct 05, 2019 |
truthsayer009:come on, don't get worked up on this issue, I have seen women who are wealthy that stay with their husbands here in Abuja so it really depends on the mentality of the person you are getting married to, be it a male or female. When I see comments like hers,i just laugh it off because they are many here in wuse 2 that stay with their husbands and are wealthy. |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by franchasng: 10:12am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Nnemuka:they are example we can point at when making references, or who else can we use Majority of Nigerian women are selfish, toxic and wicked to their male lovers and husbands, only very few are exception but majority are not good to their men when it comes to financial and material matters. They can be good to their family members but to their boyfriends and husbands, they are selfish, wicked and toxic most times, its a known fact by all Nigerian men and even foreign men |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by onegig(m): 10:13am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Breaststroke: Honestly, i don't know how some people reason. It's not ego, it's most likely self esteem issues and inadequacies. As long as your woman isn't the type to go "bragging" around and telling the whole world who feeds who,(can't even be with someone like that we won't last a week) I doubt there should be an issue. It's common sense finance. If you really need to show your ego about it. Start paying her rent for the house . At least you are still keeping the money in the family. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:17am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bizibi: Has there ever been a point women had problems staying in their husbands house? Or is there any part of my post that says the woman shouldn't move into her husband's house because she is "wealthy"? You are just whipping up sentiments and things I never mentioned to butress some point. 1 Like |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:19am On Oct 05, 2019 |
In the end, na naija matter. There is a lot of exploitation and predation on both sides. You get what you pay for. Guys deliberately marry women who will be dependent on them. The women go along until they see a better option Basically a marriage of convenience. 1 Like |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Kenturkey048(m): 10:20am On Oct 05, 2019 |
supernet4:kaiii see super woman......wife material...logical thinker..you are complete my sister... |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Bizibi(m): 10:20am On Oct 05, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:i am Not whipping up sentiments, you are making it look like it is a feminist thing. Well do what suits yourself.we all have our lives to live. |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:21am On Oct 05, 2019 |
naijadrivablog:that's stupidity. Your wife has mansion and you then go and rent a house wasting money. You don't have business brain. Let's assume you get a house you can pay 600k per year. Cause your wife can't build a mansion to follow you and live in a 2 or 3 bedrooms apartment never possible. If you save that 600k for 5 years or even 10. Can get you a cheap land and build a house. Like you said, you guys knew yourselves she knew you don't have money and you know she has. Then how can she come and suffer when she married you knowing you're poor but loves you and want to share here wealth with you. Myopic |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:22am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Jayslicky: Sharp guy |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Rocksteady1(m): 10:22am On Oct 05, 2019 |
I am a guy. God willing, I will make it. I will support my woman to make it in case I screw up in d future, she won't land on a hard floor and I won't land on a hard floor either. Life is sweet. Life is sweeter if we both make it in our marriage. I hope n pray dat my woman n I will respect each Oda irrespective of woteva we will acquire. But, never will I want my woman to be totally dependent on me. If she is 30%to 40% dependent on herself, we r good. Though I would want to take the lead in everything, I would always respect her input, advice and opinion. As long as she is not trying to play the role of the head of the family (which belongs to me)and downgrading me because of financial instability (which may occur at times) honestly we r good to go. At the end, may God help us to marry d bone of our bone and flesh of our flesh |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by tosyne2much(m): 10:22am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Bizibi: Yes you're right!... This isn't just about men's ego but the attitudes women generally exhibit and how they treat their men unfairly when he resides under their roof. Not even in this era when women are begging to drag with men who should cook and who should sweep. Even living under a woman's roof is small, the men I salute most are actually the ones living in their bride's parents house.. I've seen many cases like that |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:26am On Oct 05, 2019 |
ornicus: All your points are valid, as we know about Women not having those equal opportunities & being marginalised. Then also treated unfairly by the society. But then you are totally ignoring the fact that When a woman is playing your Role in an African home, what you get is total reproach, disregard & contempt. This is due to the Fact that they are brought up with those Old Mothers whom you speak of. I totally have respect for women but you cannot deny the Fact that this is true with Women brought up in Africa. I really don't like to be one sided in my opinions. I see the truth, I speak it. 1 Like |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Nobody: 10:26am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Tobiloba84: 10:27am On Oct 05, 2019 |
Easier said supernet4: |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Dagger111(m): 10:27am On Oct 05, 2019 |
franchasng: Let me start believing her words now. Charity begins at home. |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Wiifesnatcher(m): 10:27am On Oct 05, 2019 |
khome: you this girls sef, must everything go verbatim before you comprehend simple sentence I'm contented with what I have means my status won't change who I'm if I meet Rich people and that was related to the Op question, so how is that a contradiction to I can't marry a Rich lady that won't bless me to be rich before marriage, it means I'll stick with the lady of my status while we struggle together to achieve our dream if she want to force herself to be the Breadwinner my post was in conditional form and it requires logical understanding, all words must not go verbatim |
Re: Whose House Would You Live In After Wedding? (Pictured) by Bizibi(m): 10:29am On Oct 05, 2019 |
tosyne2much:it is one of the reasons why couples in that bracket buy a house together in other societies, here in Abuja, I know many married women that own properties here and they don't have problem staying with their husbands, there is one I know that her husband serves in this administration government,there is another one that owns an apartment she resides in,the husband travels to stay with her for some months then go back,.....so when I see some comments I just laugh it off. |
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