break their head and see where u land

From your expressions I perceived trash words

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

Any children can break anything, they are kids who knew nothing...


Correct your poor evil mind towards her kids...


How has your generation be cheated. Did she took away your $$$$$$ or enslaved you..Am seen you as a wicked sister

Why can’t you face your sister instead of her children

Change your style so your life can be better

Say no to vengeance

But las las if you still decided to do any wrong doing to the kids

Kirikiri awaits you..

Sorry for been blunt

That’s the way it’s done.

WowSweetGuy:
break their head and see where u land

Don’t mind the idiot

That’s what I told her also..

She is a wicked girl from evil planet

Charleys:


The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

Alaye shut up and stop spilling trash

Your words are pointless

You such a damn wicked unreal person

My dear, things are different now. I was much harder on my 1st child than my on younger children.

Discipline yourself not to beat your sister's children. Are you the one paying their fees and feeding them?
NO.
Let their parents discipline them the way they like.
You wait to have your children and beat them as you like. It's then you will know what is called, CHILD ABUSE.

Most of what we call child's discipline is actually child abuse. I suggest you save your disciplinary energy for your own kids and let the parents of those kids admonish, chastise and discipline THEIR own kids according to their will.
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Sir/ Ma, for the love of your God as well as your life, LEAVE THE CHILDREN ALONE!

If they turn out wrong, it's on the said woman and the children not you.

Its not a bad thing to correct another's child or children but it must be done with the approval of their parents.

Just help those kids to get more naughty and indiscipline, with time, it's gonna hurt them and they have brain reset.

off target priority.

Most aunts are like that. The funny thing is that most of the people that will comment here are also like but some of them don't know.
They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but they will never touch their own kids. Some won't even let you correct their children let alone beating them. Even when you report their children to them for something very serious, they will tell you they are just kids.
In fact, 80% of aunties are like that and to them, their children are the best behaved in the world. It's painful but just ignore them and pretend you don't see them. Even when you see them spoiling things, just look away.

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Lol. The only children I do not beat is a non-blood relation. Be ye uncle, auntie, whatever, if you're related to me by blood, woe betide that pikin if he or she misbehave in my present. I dey beat them Weller, na face their mama go swell up. I go so beat them cos their parents nor let me rest when I small. F... Ck it. Beat them, if your auntie Wan fight you, fight her once and for all so that the children go just dey give you chance Weller make una just know say, una Don draw line. I go beat any kind pikin wey fu.. Ck up for my family as long as na blood. Na only outsider I nor go touch. Nonsense auntie

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Exactly my guy. In my family, no auntie or uncle can tell me that trash. I go so beat their pikin if them mis-yarn and pim, dem nor burn dem well cos I go give them hot hot. What rubbish. Na them first born? When dem loose guard me, my mama talk? Rubbish

Trezagezz:


You just want to retaliate not discipline...
So that venomous act from ur wicked auntie is still in ur Gene...
Change n let the children be..
Ur harshness to them Is making u see their stubbornness n many disrespectful act..
By the way how do you know that ur wicked auntie told them secretly to stop greeting u.
Are u a witch?

Them no dey greet you in front of their mother and you say how do I know?

Mind your business bro for me I don’t touch people’s kids for any reason especially if who gave birth to the kids don’t touch them

People need to run away from human like u........ u are wicked not moral instructor.......

Charleys:


The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

If her kids insult me in in his presence I'd whoop them black and blue in her presence not to talk of behind her back. If she objects I'd remind her how many times I have ever talked back at her as her elder sister. She can pocket you cos you still go to her for favours. Always draw a line as a man

Either goodly or badly you have been accommodated and trained as a niece ...so, wisdom that you shld obey the guiding rules or rebuke of those people that accommodate you...

So, do your own part and move on when the time comes

Charleys:


The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

If you learn to stay in your mother's house, she won't ask her kids never to greet you.

And if your parents are the grand parents to her kids then, She is never your aunt but your sister.

yeyeosoronga:


They're not your children, and if their parent doesn't want them to be disciplined by you, kindly respect her wishes and also respect yourself.
If you think she's behind her children not greeting you, then stop greeting her too. Shikena.
She cannot force you to greet her, same way you cannot force her children to greet you.

A lot of kids in the 80s and early 90s suffered this. My opinion is avoid her. Don’t disrespect her or beat her kids. Just avoid her totally. And if she speaks up, tell her all the evils she did to you as a kid in the presence of the whole family. Nonsense woman

When you give a kid the right training and discipline he/she will be strong emotionally, mentally and otherwise but when you leave the kid to do whatever he/she likes they will grow up to be weak emotionally, mentally and otherwise.

Those kids drinking sniper and all the went through the latter so I am not surprised.

Advice for parents: train your kids well

Charleys:


The children dey insult wella, something that I can never open my mouth to say to grown ups. That's what they say.

I also believe she knows what she was doing that's why she told her children not to greet me.

In fact it is an insult to not greet her when I was small na heavy knock she go use remind me that I didn't greet her.

I need solutions.

My parents which is their grandparents can't say anything because they've gotten old. I believe this is my time to step in

It is not your time to step in anything. Where are you in life presently? Are you in school? Are you working? Why don't you have your own house or pay your own rent? Are you their father?
This vindictive mentality will pull you back from achieving great things in life. Just imagine at your age and level, you're making a whole nairaland topic on how to discipline another person's children.

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

I wouldn't advice you to ignore them because those children are related to your unborn children and their actions will affect, directly or indirectly, your children tomorrow. I wouldn't advice you to be strong handed with them either as that would only create more drama. Treat them nicely; if their mum badmouths you to and before them cancel that negativity with kindness. You can even use the carrot and stick method, employ rewards and most importantly, pray.
Pray that God gives you the right motivation for seeking to correct them and also pray that they come to understand that you care for them.
I hope this helps.

Abeg leave that aunty and the past torment she gave you to God.but if on a thoughtful side you did agree that the discipline she gave you taught you to be patient and to be a better man.so pls ignore her and her children and face your life before the devil would use you to do something you would regret.focus on ur life.have your own kids and discipline them the way you want.since you all go the village and stay together in the same house.i would suggest you dont go to the village again with them,stay in d city and visit ur parents when those insolent children and their mother wont be there.obviously your aunty is a wicked woman.so avoid her and her children b4 ur compromised emotions land you in prison.

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

You have clearly stated that your 'discipline' which you wish to instil in the children is not altruistic.

So your next move is to take the wool off your eyes and start to see the children from a clear perspective before you can think of discipline for them.

Her telling the children not to greet you also means there is more than an attempt to correct these children on your part. Their mum has obviously seen that you are trying to mistreat the children because of your history with her.

I however do not support her telling the children not to respect you, as that will inadvertently ruin the children.

I suggest you leave her children for her though. You can discipline other children who you are not biased towards, since true discipline can only be done in love and not otherwise.

If your Aunty can make her children disrespect you irrespective of the past. It is time you show that your immature Aunty some dose of disrespect. U should leave the children out of it.

ITS REALLY FUNNY THIS POST, MR POSTER ARE YOU TIED TO YOUR AUNT AND HER CHILDREN, IF YOU WANT CHILDREN TO DISCIPLINED GO GET A HOUSE, A WIFE AND CHILDREN TO START DISCIPLINING..GO AND LIVE YOUR LIFE AND LET YOUR AUNT HV PEACE AND REST OF MIND WITH HER CHILDREN

E be like say una no get work abi? Wetin una still dey do for ur aunt's house at this ur age?

U dey mad ohhhh, so this is ur problem, jobless youths.

That's how generational curse start. ..now it has started with you and the trend would continue from one generation to the other

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

Always remember, "my own and our/your own aren't the same" this principle works in all aspect of life.

Ignore her children n pay her back in her own coin. Those who groom their children to be disrespectful hate to be disrespected.
Talk to her with lil or no respect and let her know how irrelevant whatever she as to say matters to you. She can no longer beat or knock your head her children will learn the disciple she's shielding they from that way.

Charleys: