@ Poster

you looking at this all wrong

it is very important for both you and she to be aware of "what is on the table."

prior to committing one to the other

finances, credit, fidelity, religion - is your REAL NAME

your birth name ONLY distinguishes you in a familial capacity.

WHO YOU ARE - IS WHAT YOU'VE DONE

I need to know what my man makes $$$$ to know what I am marrying and in turn he needs to know THE SAME.  If I make nothing he needs to know in advance that his salary is being spent by two with no replenishment but from whatever he makes.

This is important prior to starting out in life as a couple.  IT dictates stress levels, expectations from one to the other, goals, next acts by both partners.

Being broke, being financially stable, being well off financially can dictate just about EVERYTHING

I have gone blind into a situation before - NEVER AGAIN - it is wise and responsible to find this information out about each other.  Trust is important and it can also show you a whole lot about each other.

Her knowing what you make and you knowing what she makes doesn't put those dollars in the pocket of the other.  So don't fear showing each other - it can also give you a clear indication of her motives.  IF you make a lot of money, watch her response, if it isn't on this level 'that's great -- I want to try to do the same can you give me some tips"?  However, if she doesn't say anything but just stores the information away - I would be very skeptical of her and I would let her know right away that you are looking to save and NOT SPEND any money.