Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by petitejolie(f): 9:41am On Nov 09, 2019 |
God please keep this kind of man away from me. Where do people see dis type of men to marry sef. Are u d one that makes children? Ahhh... women Dey suffer |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by maasoap(m): 9:42am On Nov 09, 2019 |
digitaltrades:
And you left out the question about medical examination before marriage? You are intentionally blind and mischievous That bolded part of your comments had rubbished the part that made sense. Yeah, I saw it. You could have posted that part alone instead of speculating her past 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Pusyiter(m): 10:06am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.
Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".
On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice. Visit a fertility clinic You can private chat me on the best in Nigeria |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by krissconnect(m): 10:11am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.
Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".
On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice. I dont know you, nor your family.. but theres an urge in me telling me to prophecy.. and in the mighty name of Jesus, i decree this moment that by this time next year, you will have a twins and those who mocked you shall say congratulations. Amen |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Ayotemide(f): 10:14am On Nov 09, 2019 |
maasoap:
Highly distasteful to throw this kind of words at someone going through this kind of shiit. You could have been subtle instead of showing lack of empathy with your use of words.
Copy Ayotemide Ah, thank you! Every woman who has difficulty conceiving is automatically thought of as a past LovePeddler who has killed many babies; wtf! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Ayt27(m): 10:15am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Op you need to find a church where the presence of God is and pray the prayer of Hannah. Go through the scriptures and read portions of how God gave women their children starting from Sarah, Hannah, the woman with Elisha. Remind Him of his compassion towards them and ask Him for the same.
The God that answered their prayers can and will answer yours. All you need do is find His presence, pray and believe.
He is the LORD GOD of all FLESH *NOTHING* is hard for Him to do. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Ayotemide(f): 10:18am On Nov 09, 2019 |
digitaltrades:
If you were not blind in the mind while reading my comment, you would see where I asked whether they went for medical examination before they got married.
Medical examination will detect such abnormalities before marriage.
The woman concerned didn't even complain, which is a sign that I may be right. As I said earlier, if the women you know in your circle have been known to kill babies and have 'ghosts in their pasts'; don't make it the general assumption for every woman going through difficulty conceiving. That Medical examination yadayada doesn't even cut it; you were intentional in your poor and misguided use of words. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by danot1030: 10:18am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.
Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".
On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice. Madam leave and start a new life, everyone needs where they are loved not where they are endured. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Nwaonyishi69: 10:24am On Nov 09, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.
Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.
Nonsense! . This is no gender war. I always believe there is a cause for every human action. That she told her story in her own version does not make her right. And those women who live alone away from men have not been proved to be the happiest or most secure. So, it is better wisdom to hang on, pray and amend her ways with the hope that the causes of the man's anger may ease off. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by digitaltrades: 10:25am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Ayotemide:
As I said earlier, if the women you know in your circle have been known to kill babies and have 'ghosts in their pasts'; don't make it the general assumption for every woman going through difficulty conceiving.
That Medical examination yadayada doesn't even cut it; you were intentional in your poor and misguided use of words. Like I told you earlier, you should open your mind and stop imprisoning your senses lest you continually suffer mental blindness. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by digitaltrades: 10:26am On Nov 09, 2019 |
maasoap:
That bolded part of your comments had rubbished the part that made sense. Yeah, I saw it. You could have posted that part alone instead of speculating her past Both parts are important. Why do you guys love ignoring possible truths? Isn't this the same way you ignored all signs that buahri would never be a good president? |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by mechanics(m): 10:57am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Just keep praying for him, not having children should not put you into depression, I guess you have read stories here of couples waiting for like 25 yrs before having their children, that should stir up your faith and not to doubt God. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Lightman300(m): 11:02am On Nov 09, 2019 |
I work with one of the best fertility facilities around.You have various viable medical options.Reach me on 09075355307.Goodspeed! |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Repentoday: 11:38am On Nov 09, 2019 |
GOD WILL VISIT YOU . ONLY TRUST IN HIM AND LOOK UNTO HIM. DEFINITLY HE WILL VISIT YOU. amarachi06: I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.
Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".
On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Olanrewaju97(m): 12:04pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
You need to work on your self first before you blame your husband because what you don't work on don't work.Read books and go for counselling. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Mryacks: 12:21pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
This is when the who you marry comes into play.. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Igbodicool(m): 12:26pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
May God who never leave us without children come to your help speedily AMEN
Hold fast to God. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by maasoap(m): 12:27pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
digitaltrades:
Both parts are important. Only one part is important and useful. The other part was needless. Why do you guys love ignoring possible truths? Speculating someone's past, someone you didn't know before is wrong and prejudice. It is a sin because you are not sure of your allegations. Having problems, having challenges is part of our lives, you don't have to be a sinner before facing challenges or having issues in your life. It's just like death, no one is immuned. Different individuals, different problems. Isn't this the same way you ignored all signs that buahri would never be a good president? Buhari is not a good president? According to you and people who have the same opinion like you? Or, according to all Nigerians? |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by meobizy(f): 12:40pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
If you guys are still married then the issue is not that deep. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by fkj950ax(m): 1:16pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: I Please Sound advice. Get a Divorce Lawyer. Move on with your life. Stop trying to make a baby with him AGAIN. You will punish the child if you have one with him and split up. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by digitaltrades: 1:25pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
maasoap:
Only one part is important and useful. The other part was needless.
Speculating someone's past, someone you didn't know before is wrong and prejudice. It is a sin because you are not sure of your allegations. Having problems, having challenges is part of our lives, you don't have to be a sinner before facing challenges or having issues in your life. It's just like death, no one is immuned. Different individuals, different problems.
Buhari is not a good president? According to you and people who have the same opinion like you? Or, according to all Nigerians? So much Ado about nothing. Frequent abortion can cause repeated miscarriage. Also, they should have gone for medical examination before marriage. Medical examination would have revealed any rhesus factor incompatibility or genetic problem and also revealed the health of the wife's uterus. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by hkidola00(m): 1:29pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.
Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".
On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice. did u piss off an ex who loved you wholehearyedly,but u hurt and didnt marry him |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by maasoap(m): 2:35pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
digitaltrades:
So much Ado about nothing.
Frequent abortion can cause repeated miscarriage.
Also, they should have gone for medical examination before marriage. Medical examination would have revealed any rhesus factor incompatibility or genetic problem and also revealed the health of the wife's uterus. We all knew what abortions could cause. But you were making your contribution as if you were so sure of her past. You were too direct, and judgemental too. digitaltrades: How many babies did you kill this way?
Did you tell him about those ugly pasts?
It may be the ghost of the past coming to haunt you. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by oka4ugoo: 2:37pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
The both you should go for rhesus factor test 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Lamanii22(f): 2:40pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
Sunnymatey: My inlaw stood by my sister for 17yrs before they were blessed with a child. Some men are sick. Love for couple should be unconditional.
You're right... Not having kids shouldn't disrupt your love towards your spouse... |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Nobody: 3:34pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06:
Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words. Stop being unneccessarilly emotional. What is I am crying already. Give your life to Christ. Since its miscarriages take a day or two even three and dryfast to know and pray the enquiry prayer that God should reveal the root cause of what is eating your babies. Write it down and seek understanding and tackle it. I am sure you are one of this modern day wives that are still doing babe abi chic. Be strong. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Tunagee(m): 3:37pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
PastorPaul1: Ohh sorry about this.. It's God that provides child.. Have you put it to God in prayers, what is the response you receive. And have you done test too, what is the test saying.. Anyway I wouldn't mind if we can talk on mail, so I can see how to help you with prayers to God.. Stay strong. Talk on mail with a married woman? about what really? You better advise her here let's all learn, don't capitalize on her situation and worsen her case o! No be man be her problem for now,and don't come and finally scatter her home. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by digitaltrades: 3:37pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
maasoap:
We all knew what abortions could cause. But you were making your contribution as if you were so sure of her past. You were too direct, and judgemental too.
Have you noticed that the woman in question hasn't opposed what I wrote? Shouldn't that get you thinking? |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by chinedumoooo: 4:03pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
God is only solution to your situation, truth God for wonders |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by godofuck231: 4:22pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.
Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".
On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice. it's your body , your temperature is too high and the forming fetus drops when too high , it's a natural thing with 1 in every 100 women, there's an injection for it , don't know the name though it will be administered at stages even during pregnancy till delivery, or get out of the country you Sweden or Norway and see the speed at which you will take in |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by rogue1: 5:11pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
There are known causes of infertility #1. Blood group: An rh neg woman body will reject the fetus of an rh pos man. U should both check ur blood type. #2. Iodine deficiency: Deficiency in iodine is the major cause of imbalances in the body n 90% of the population are iodine deficient. Iodine increases sperm count,cures ovary diseases,detoxifies the body.it generally restores the body to its original state. Iodine has been linked to fertility. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by bestabigaelever(f): 5:50pm On Nov 09, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:
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I was talking about how women react to being treated badly in the future in the other thread, and most of the people advising her to 'endure' almost jumped me. They claimed I should be advising women to stand up for themselves and yapped about how women had a 'choice'. And here they are saying the exact opposite, confirming what I said initially.
Nigerian women will always be at a disadvantage, no matter how much we try to deny it.
This poster is being abused emotionally by her husband and yet the society expects her to stay. How do you think she will react in the future when she finally becomes a mother and the husband becomes 'nice'. When she realises she now has all the power over her abuser and doesn't have to cower because she now has 'a place' in his home?
Of course she's not thinking 'revenge' now, but she's feeling the resentment and she's feeling helpless about her situation. I doubt if she's going to wave a hand and forget all she's going through now in the future, and live happily ever after with her husband.
When she starts reacting, the man will claim his wife has changed, and these fake people here will support him.
What a joke! Don't mind them What I hate in my life is self denial, must people tell you what to do b4 u know That woman knows that her husband doesn't love her anymore, it's only baby that can bring his love back Now tell me, is that love in the 1st place I read she always have miscarriage, she is supposed to be love and care for at this stage My own advice is that children are God's gift, live life to the fullest Ignore your husband and live your live your life like you don't care I always say this, depression leads to mental illness, once you cross that line u ain't coming back I Don talk my own o 1 Like |