Lol. Well the endgame of the woman is marriage. Maybe these people can see what u can't and are trying to Redpill u using religion. I will always tell u. Marriage is prison for men. Try and think to see if u hv been manupulated

SEEK THE PRESENCE OF GOD BEFORE GETTING MARRIED;
Very Necessary,

1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”

2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.

3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.

5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.

7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.

9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.

11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.

14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Of course there is .
But nobody can see fate or destiny .
Don’t listen to those motherfuvkers .

TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...

my bro you can be physically compatible but not spiritually compatible. seek the face of the lord. open ur heart and go on a day or two fast. he will definitely speak to u

Marriage is not to be taken with attitude. My candid advice for everybody and the op is that don't just rush into any partner without considering your faith, the fear of God in your heart, the necessary attributes required before venturing into a relationship that can either make or mar your life.
Consider
1 Samson life purpose was marred by Delilah laps.
2. Abraham made his servant to swear by his thigh for him to get a wife for Isaac from his kindred.

And much more.
Things to do.
My brother pray very well so you don't end up marrying a witch.Just my advice. Is she of the same faith with you for you have a happy home. Is she of the same intellects,thinkings with you for you two not to have a dividing home.Again Is she a true helper as in in terms of downtime will she be there for you.

Most homes would have loved to have these knowledge before finally giving up on their partner.

May the Lord guide you through.

No relationship is by chance, I repeat - no relationship is by chance or mistake
Is either God or Satan that brings people together and connect them for a purpose
Commit your way to God and he will direct your paths or else Satan will mislead you to destruction

TheLaughter:
Some are saying there isn't, others say there is...

I have prayed on my own but I am not getting any revelation...

Now I am scared, I have asked myself what if spirituality is true and all they are saying is true?

I don't want to make any mistakes, but when it comes to compatibility, we are really compatible...

there is a way u pray and u will feel the presence of God. ease ur heart from unnecessary pressures that befalls u and u will get to hear him

Let's stop deceiving ourselves. God doesn't choose spouses for anybody. The only person God chose a wife for was prophet Hosea, the others were out of necessity, such as the daughters of Zelophehad, the men of Benjamin, etc. God layed out instructions and the people only followed. This was what Abraham did concerning his son Isaac.

God only presented Eve to Adam, it was Adam's choice to love and accept her or not.

The layed out instruction for marriage is for us as believers not to marry from the heathen so we would not be corrupted by them just like Solomon was.

Don't be fooled by any Pastor.

victorian:








She was legally married.

They did white wedding and traditional.

But it's unfortunate the in-laws were wolves

She has rights to the property. Let her consult a lawyer.

All in the name of prophecy....
That's how one Prophet said he saw vision that my friend will travel to London (in this context... USA o, Canada o, Germany o, France o etc), only for the same Prophet to claim he knows how.
Later heard he robbed my friend of processing fee.

To your post, my brother just pray about it and stick to your decision.
Once u believe in that prophecy, same Prophetess will tell you how many kids you should have and which of your kids you should throway cos no be 'destiny child'....

What old man that sit dawn see, if young boy clamped tree he can't see it. Do ur due diligence by urself to know the right thing to do. Mind u be careful some people in ur family don't want ur progress but they're pretender, if u fail to do ur due diligent u may regret ur action later. The people that tells u that she's no ur wife may see it all. But u need confirm by urself and even if they say u shld married her u till need to go beyond that because they have evil power to course misfortune in ur life and say we wone u before. God will lead u

We all av realistic things we look for in partners.. Wen u c someone u r compatible that's all.. d relationship will be so real.. no hanky-panky.. Don't let one prophet deceive u.. God will let u know one way or d other..

I am married to a Cross River woman. I am happy I didn't listen to my mum. I happy with my wife and progressing geometrically. I am Bini. My came up with all manners excuses ranging from profecies and other. I got to a point that I was confused but I yielded not to any their sayings. Mothers especially will want their sons to marry who they can control, relate with. It all bores than selfishness.
My brother, I encourage you to go with your heart. If you are with your woman go with her. I have no regrets what so ever for following my mind. Do what you believe.

yes and no , any good man or woman is a destiny partner, there are no absolutes in life and relationships.

Ramanto:

You don't seem to get the prophet's logic. The guy would only die soon if he married the lady who is now your brother's wife.

BTW, I don't believe in anybody telling me about the future. It's a major sin seeking to know what the future holds. The knowledge of the future belongs to God alone.

Only if you are seeking such from external parties like spiritualists, mystics etc. God reveals the future to His children so it's not a sin seeking to know as long as it's from Him.

SMH

Total nonsense. firstly, nothing comes to u if God didn't except from God. Have u asked God for advice. now, open your mouth tell God if she isn't the one meant for you let her Go. You are the first prophet, God will talk to. be observant after this prayer. Does she give u peace of mind? if she does, marry her. How did God tell them that she is not your wife? Has anything the prophet has told u come to pass? pls bro , don't leave that gal. this is error from people advising u to leave her. u know what u want. As for destined wife , yes there is. but a man as well chooses wife. your destiny is in your hand.

victorian:








Don't take it lightly.
If both parties say she's not your wife? Then please be patient, cut off from her and pray God makes the path of you and your real wife to meet and marry.

Although I don't believe in destined wife or destined husband. I believe in if I marry this man, are we growing old together? Would our marriage last forever? Will he stand by me till we grow old and die? And are we going to be fruitful,as in be able to have children together?
These are things I pray and seek answers for.

Lemme give u a short true life story.
There was a guy a banker last 6years ago, who wanted to marry me. We were best of friends. He supports me in everything and we love each other. Within 6months, he proposed.. I was so happy!
He wanted to see my mom, my dad was late then.
Quickly I told my mom, my mom said Vicky u guys cannot marry.
I cried and said mom but why. She said he's not your husband. You can't marry him.
I told him, he came to see my mom, he pleaded and all, but mom said sorry you can't marry my daughter, and that's the end.

I know my mom, she's spiritual. And for her to say no, means no.

We stopped dating, I cut off from him, then in few months he called me to his office and introduce me to a lady who looks like me. He said that's his wife, as I don't want him. He truly loves me, he has to look for someone similar to my looks. I and the babe greeted each other, I said no problem, he can go ahead and marry her. They got married
After two years my mom died. Then after 4 years I remembered him, I said lemme check on my friend and how they are doing

His wife picked his call ,I Introduce myself and guess what she said.

She said he's dead!

I was like what? Dead how? Where are u staying? Lemme come. See u. She said she's squatting with her friend and it's better we talk on phone. Her husband family threw her out of their matrimonial home .

She was crying on the phone and she explained how they got married. He was promoted immediately they got married, he became very rich! He completed his first house in ikorodu, then was about rounding up his duplex home in Lekki, when he was attacked with stroke.

She battled with his illness for one year with his family members , before he gave up.

His family quickly accused her and said she killed him. She wants to inherit his properties. That's how they threw her out with her kid.
She really suffered
She vowed she will never evermarry again.

Very beautiful lady, up till today she still insist in-laws and people are wicked. She will never marry and men are always wooing her on facebook. But she says no.


I then realise why mom said no , we cannot marry


So Op, it's possible she may not live long. But they won't tell you. Or maybe if u guys marry, u won't be as successful as u are meant to be. It's either of the two.

So please pray about it and let God also reveal to you. Marriage is no child's play

Have you considered that perhaps you marrying him would have changed his destiny and he'd still be alive today? He probably rushed into that marriage and who knows what signs he ignored because he wanted someone like you.

Evebeautyworld2:

Now I see why mum refuse me marrying my ex,she said d similar things to me that I shouldn't marry him,I keep asking her her reasons she just shook her head and said I won't understand that he just pity d guy,now d said guy is married to someone else...for sometime now I have been having strange dreams about him when I woke up I feel sad or cry,don't understand why I'm feeling dis way...

Please pray for him. You're having those dreams so you can intercede for him. You don't have to tell him about them. Just stand in the Gap

Wolgrace:
It's real, don't let carnality ruin you. Don't toy with the pattern and operation of spirit, they are stronger than the mortality and matters. Personal accessment to the spirit realm through Christ is your birthright. Talk and meet with Him there, He will show you great and mighty things you spiritually know not because you still lack knowledge.

I am a Christian and a strong believer of His words.
I believe in the spirit of God.

I want to tell you that there is no woman created by God and tagged a man that will marry her. Same goes to the men.

The Bible tells us.... Any man that FINDS a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God.
Good wanted us to find based on our choice, lifestyle and beliefs.

The one God gave to Adam, when trouble came up, Adam blamed God for giving him that woman.

The spirit of God can only give u the wisdom to choose a relatively fair partner which you'll need to work on to get your real taste.

Let's try to beliv that God destines women for men and see the implication. Let's imagine that God actually created lady A for Mr B and eventually Mr B went ahead to marry lady C that was created for Mr D instead of his lady A, can u see that Mr D will go ahead to marry another lady that was not created for him cos Mr A has married his destined wife.
The multiplier effect is that more than half of men in the world will marry women not destined for them. If one person makes a mistake, it'll affect millions of others.

I have seen marriages that ppl prayed and fasted, for approval that she's his destined wife and within months the marriage collapsed. Also seen those that did not even prayed nor seek for any confirmation and their marriage is blossoming daily.

Marriage is all about how u made it.

Now based on the issue that made you ask this question.
When it comes to the issue of marriage, pls make sure your agree with your parents especially when words seem to make sense. When they did disagree, calm down to seek for better solution.
What parents see lying down, we may not even see them even when we attend on the top of the mountain.

I don't believe in this but what i know is that the bible says in pro18:22 "Whosoever findeth a wife findeth good thing and obtain favor from God

So if you strongly believe this girl is a wife material and is a good christian,marry her.

TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks

there is....but the shape, or concept of the person is already within you
what i mean is DO NOT BE DECEIVED BY ANY OUTSIDE PROPHET....ANY ONE CAN claim to be a prophet, and yes prophets do exists, BUT WHAT EVER ANY PROPHET TELLS YOU MUST, MUST match with what GOD HAS ALREADY PLACED IN YOUR HEART( you have to be close to God too)

the point is if you feel drawn or are happy or wish to be a pilot or are happy when your piloting(you need to be close to God and sensitive too)
ANY PROPHET THAT COMES AND SAYS GOD WANTS YOU TO BE A BUS DRIVER IS A LIAR, I REPAET IS A LIAr

the scripture says the spirit of man is the candle of GOD, that means as we use light bulb to see in the dark, thats how are spirits, God uses to guide us.

ALL the best

all the best

You already have plenty advice here and you might not see mine but I have advice for you.
1. If you are convinced that she's yours, go for it. You are not wrong
2. If you encounter problem in the future with her, don't ever imagine that you weren't right after all. Every human societies have problems and you got yours. So deal with it.
3. Remember that the prophetess or whatever might not be happy if you go against their prophecy. They could come after you. Deal with there antics by connecting to God yourself.

Note: Relationship is of love and agreement. If you both agree in the mind, then she is the right one. No two ways about it

Who you date and by extension, who you marry, has a lot to do with how you turn out in life. A lot of people have already said this on this thread. Spiritual compatibility aside, you need to marry someone that shares your dreams, aspirations, hopes and goals. Your ability to plan and carry out those plans with this girl tells me she shares your goals and dreams.

I'd ask that you tell your family or the prophetess to expatiate on why they don't want you to marry this particular girl. Years ago, my Mom dissuaded me from a girl I'd dated for 2 years and she was really quite specific about the girl's Mom being a horrible person. This was true. And my Mom being a pastor, I didn't question how she knew. The girl herself dreads her mom and cries because of her. They never met. Both mothers live on opposite sides of the country. That's very specific. A prophecy should at the very least be specific.

Also, someone mentioned here that a seed has already been planted in your mind against this girl. That is true. It is now your responsibility to get them to explain in detail why they don't want you to marry this girl.

Good luck.

Destiny is God's plan for your life even before you were born. If this is true then God has already designated your life partner!

Now a major problem is most of us miss our destined spouses due to sexual immorality or impatience.

Can you marry someone who is not God's perfect will for you and the marriage still works? YES. But it will take a lot of love, tolerance and patience.

But it's far better to marry someone destined by God for you... A million times better.

Witches/wizards claiming to be prophets.

If you like nor marry her, dey there dey believe one mumu prophet of doom.

tot:


Only if you are seeking such from external parties like spiritualists, mystics etc. God reveals the future to His children so it's not a sin seeking to know as long as it's from Him.

We are saying the same thing. "Seeking* in this context means going to an external person

mauriceju2:


No relationship is by chance, [/b]I repeat - no relationship is by chance or mistake [b]
Is either God or Satan that brings people together and connect them for a purpose
Commit your way to God and he will direct your paths or else Satan will mislead you to destruction

True.

Let me tell you a little story about me @ op..
My first travel outside Nigeria a lady I was dating then gave me 250k but before then I had no idea she was planning to give me such amount of money,one day she called me and told me that her mom went for prayers and they told her we can't marry and she said her aunty said the same thing and I asked her what was there reason they said if we marry we will be fighting every day..I immediately told her then if it's true she might be the one that has problems and not me...she was telling me all this the day she called me to her house to give me the money cash.fast forward to some months after have left Nigeria then the real devil in her showed up I was shocked to the bone....I will advise you to be closer to God if you are not...and don't go in with the mind set that if it's not working you break out.. because it's a covenant before man and God!

At the great junction. God will See you through.

TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks

there is nothing like destiny. if you tell them she is adenuga daughter or an American citizen, they will tell you destiny has been changed because of their prayers and fasting