Charleys:
OP does she have a father?






If she has a father then there's no need to see her pastor.

A single Mum was forcing me to see her pastor once and I backed out at the last minute. Because I thought she had been brainwashed by her pastor.

Secondly the father to her child didn't go through all these just to Bleep her so why is she making me pass through all these.



I used to give her money but I stopped.

mrblessed:
Brotherly, what a wonderful idea you have about our sisters and the power of possessing the capacity for rational critical thinking. However, your desert analogy is out-and-out wrong. On the contrary, we have a lot of oil deposits buried in some desert, especially in the Middle East.

You might well remember that Niger Republic, one of our dear neighbours that is ravaged by the menace of Sahara desert, recently discovered crude oil and has commenced exploitation.

Ladylite:


Dangerous to who? She may be too devoted to her pastor but as a Christian anything that threatens the devotion to God that she knows....has to be stopped.

Would you say she was wrong if she was a Muslim? Well I blame Christians for how shabby they have made Christianity in Nigeria because it sounds like slavery but the tenants of Christianity must never be overridden for any reason not even marriage.

Jewessgratitude:


Hello
What am I suppose to do?
So what if you see me everywhere? If that is what makes me happy then please let me be everywhere as long as its not eating into your own data.
Are you the one paying my subscription fee?

Please, what I do with my time and data is none of your biz. and stop following me about.

Stick your nose where it belongs from now on. Ok?

YngDenzel1:
I tell u bruh.. @op that ur fiance head no correct. Someday, that pastor go tell am to leave u and she go japa 2sec

Kennyprince:
Bro if u love this woman, go see her pastor, it's nothing much.

Don't take it personal and u can even ignore whatever the so called pastor would say after cos like u rightly we know how criminal minded most of them are.

It's not about him but your future and family. U don't get too hard in the beginning of a relationship like this.

Good luck

Ladylite:


Marriage is NOT a joke. How can you be marrying a religious lady and the first thing you do is try to enforce yourself over her religious convictions... Your marriage may not last. That lady will always see her pastor above you.

Hate pastors all you want but if your marriage will be against the principles of God and the church then prepare for hell.

Even your parents married in the church, so Oga calm down, your authority has not yet been instituted until she is totally married to you, she is not to be your slave. If you want to marry her and you too do not have a pastor that you can take her to then you both are headed for problem o. Because like play like play after marriage you will tell her to leave that church or stop church totally... Oga pls define your religious stand with her else you are about to be unhappy in 2020


Are you even aware that you are meant to be her leader NOT her boss? Meaning you should be more religious or spiritually inclined than her... Stop all the lazy talk that pastors are fake, it's old news but Oga where are the real ones. You can not marry a church girl without her pastor being involved.

Finally, is it not robbery that you use biblical principles in that you claim to be the head or authority in the union yet you are not ready to submit to church standards. Marriage was created by God and only His principles and rules will stand. You can't create your own thing and call it marriage. It will have problems later and your kids will be free thinkers.


Pls humble yourself and follow her to her pastor. You need to find a real pastor too else don't marry.

MrCork:


..see yor head like baby mosskito. ..edddiot girl...This is romance section..U sopose to be hear talking about sexx & not advising people like arm rober...all u do is advise advise advise..
...and then u complain u can't find man on nairaland!! (Goat)

Ladylite:


Dangerous to who? She may be too devoted to her pastor but as a Christian anything that threatens the devotion to God that she knows....has to be stopped.

Would you say she was wrong if she was a Muslim? Well I blame Christians for how shabby they have made Christianity in Nigeria because it sounds like slavery but the tenants of Christianity must never be overridden for any reason not even marriage.

2goodbobo:
It does not cost you anything to go see the Pastor. I did same before I got married to my Wife.

You have to learn that in a relationship, compromise is and must be part of your daily dealings with your partner. Some times you just have to let her have her way in as much as you are the Man.

I will advise you follow her to see the Pastor and hear what he has to say.

Br.

OTayobami:


Abi o! What sef?! Men be acting like pussies these days!

mrblessed:
Brotherly, what a wonderful idea you have about our sisters and the power of possessing the capacity for rational critical thinking. However, your desert analogy is out-and-out wrong. On the contrary, we have a lot of oil deposits buried in some desert, especially in the Middle East.

You might well remember that Niger Republic, one of our dear neighbours that is ravaged by the menace of Sahara desert, recently discovered crude oil and has commenced exploitation.

zed7:
I'm afraid I will tell you to forget her. People who are religious fanatics are not to be dealt with. Be rest assured her pastor will be the one controlling your wife. Her ideas, thoughts etc are going to be dictated by her pastor.

Her pastor comes before you. Telling you to forget it is the height of disrespect. I detest women who are brainwashed by pastors. Let the pastor come and see you at home if he's so interested in her affairs.

My brother you never see wife. Keep searching.

callthefred:
I have to appreciate you for taking time to read this. I'm about to take a big step in my life and I need honest advice and answers.

I'm planning and hoping to really settle down this year so any relationship I have right now is towards marriage, however, I have a girl friend who also seems to be ready to settle down and I have huge respect for her. However, I have always believed that my authority in a relationship or marriage should not be up for debate. I am a very good listener and also very loving and I find it hard to double date although, I have some women I'm keeping on standby because I've seen enough to understand nothing is guaranteed.

So I told my girlfriend I want to meet her family, she insisted I see her Pastor first or forget about it because she is scared if she takes any man home it must surely be the man she wants to marry.

My challenge is I am not a fan of Pastors these days because I know 80% of them are criminals and I can never have my wife respect her Pastor more than me or even discuss my affairs with her Pastor. Many of these clowns take advantage of women so I have always had my reservations and she knows.

Now she wants me to see the Pastor or forget it in her own words. I was furious with that statement because I have no time to check time but I've also come to realise women are so complex and from experience you can loose a good one for a simple mistake so I don't want to judge her by that statement as it could be out of anger, there's no guarantee the next one I'm meeting will be better off.

I told her let me speak to your Pastor over the phone she said NO. I'm not subjecting myself to any man of God to start thinking he's guiding my life or anything. I was raised right in a Christian home and when I need God I seek him myself.

I need help on what I must do in this case and how I can convince her to see reason. I hope this issue won't end our relationship but I won't from onset become a slave to a fellow man in the name of spiritual father...

I won't pretend to know it all so I need advice please. Marriages is no joke.

callthefred:
I have to appreciate you for taking time to read this. I'm about to take a big step in my life and I need honest advice and answers.

I'm planning and hoping to really settle down this year so any relationship I have right now is towards marriage, however, I have a girl friend who also seems to be ready to settle down and I have huge respect for her. However, I have always believed that my authority in a relationship or marriage should not be up for debate. I am a very good listener and also very loving and I find it hard to double date although, I have some women I'm keeping on standby because I've seen enough to understand nothing is guaranteed.

So I told my girlfriend I want to meet her family, she insisted I see her Pastor first or forget about it because she is scared if she takes any man home it must surely be the man she wants to marry.

My challenge is I am not a fan of Pastors these days because I know 80% of them are criminals and I can never have my wife respect her Pastor more than me or even discuss my affairs with her Pastor. Many of these clowns take advantage of women so I have always had my reservations and she knows.

Now she wants me to see the Pastor or forget it in her own words. I was furious with that statement because I have no time to check time but I've also come to realise women are so complex and from experience you can loose a good one for a simple mistake so I don't want to judge her by that statement as it could be out of anger, there's no guarantee the next one I'm meeting will be better off.

I told her let me speak to your Pastor over the phone she said NO. I'm not subjecting myself to any man of God to start thinking he's guiding my life or anything. I was raised right in a Christian home and when I need God I seek him myself.

I need help on what I must do in this case and how I can convince her to see reason. I hope this issue won't end our relationship but I won't from onset become a slave to a fellow man in the name of spiritual father...

I won't pretend to know it all so I need advice please. Marriages is no joke.

ehmmy11:
Op you are a real Man thumbs up.... Your mom didn't raise no fool

You have already understood the whole man of god thing.. One day monkey go, go market e nor go come back.. That's how the said wife will be sampled by the so called pastor.. Even father the kids sef

She has already submitted herself to his authority what happened to praying about it herself.. She will always seek his opinion before obeying you.. Trust me you don't wanna be in this situation


Will you now become the pastor's member after marriage??
How will you feel when he uses you for example during service??

Oboy japa no time

Richnerd69:
[s][/s]


[s]Another shallow minded lot, without spiritual inclination. You must be one of those people with a debased sense of reasoning, who wakes up abruptly from slumber to make irrational and illogical decisions that will in turn lead to your catastrophic end.

Till you learn to be mature to apprehend the essence of accountability to people that oversee you, the purpose for your life will ever be a mirage to you.[/s]

Richnerd69:
[s][/s]

Your argument and point is baseless . There's no information up there that points the lady in discussion to be religious fanatic. Extrapolating from your comment, You are not spiritually inclined , neither are you religious , so why do you misconstrue what you are deficit of, in regards knowledge?

Every good church going Christian knows, it's profitable wisdom to seek marriage counsel from your spiritual head, rather still Let Him give his blessings to the couple. Why would a church member get married or pick a spouse without being accountable to the people that oversee you?

The OP is not the kind of husband she needs, and if he's forced to go see the pastor, then the union will probably end in a debacle or a huge mess .
what you wrote up there reeks of atheistic propensity, rather still, you must be one.

ehmmy11:


Oversee ko overboard ni

Oversee kill you there

callthefred:
I have to appreciate you for taking time to read this. I'm about to take a big step in my life and I need honest advice and answers.

I'm planning and hoping to really settle down this year so any relationship I have right now is towards marriage, however, I have a girl friend who also seems to be ready to settle down and I have huge respect for her. However, I have always believed that my authority in a relationship or marriage should not be up for debate. I am a very good listener and also very loving and I find it hard to double date although, I have some women I'm keeping on standby because I've seen enough to understand nothing is guaranteed.

So I told my girlfriend I want to meet her family, she insisted I see her Pastor first or forget about it because she is scared if she takes any man home it must surely be the man she wants to marry.

My challenge is I am not a fan of Pastors these days because I know 80% of them are criminals and I can never have my wife respect her Pastor more than me or even discuss my affairs with her Pastor. Many of these clowns take advantage of women so I have always had my reservations and she knows.

joke.

2goodbobo:
It does not cost you anything to go see the Pastor. I did same before I got married to my Wife.

You have to learn that in a relationship, compromise is and must be part of your daily dealings with your partner. Some times you just have to let her have her way in as much as you are the Man.

I will advise you follow her to see the Pastor and hear what he has to say.

Br.

ambassadorgozie:
dis one u don't want to see d pastor, are u sure u don't want to use her for ritual?

chocboi78:
imagine my fiancee telling me to 'see her pastor or forget it'.....I will also take her to my baba or she should forget it also