HarunaWest:
Egbami, awon gals yin wan fe kpa mi.....Kiss and Cuddle Ke..Is He a Teddy Bear?...........He is not am inanimate creature,he has gat a fucktioning D mehn...You either stop the cuddle nonsense outright or go ahead and give a nigga some Head...

oga haruna, there's nothing like kpa. It is pa. Don't distort our beautiful language. God bless.

In d first place, U made a big mistake by agreeing 2 a no sex b4 marriage deal knowing fully well its not going 2 be easy. Now, Both of u will have 2 review d no sex b4 marriage contract.

Em5:


Auntie, You already had sex with him

It's really not about the definition in the dictionary. Women think differently when it comes to sex & penetration only means sex to them.

Now this may not make sense to you but half of the world are women and this is how they think, you really have no choice.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

Abeg stand your ground. It's not any body's bloody business whether you are virgin or not.

Is that even a man, if he can't be disciplined with the thing in the middle of his legs? Or you think giving him sex will keep him? you'll look back and wonder what happened when he still leaves you, you'll be more heart brokened.

Pls keep your dignity and let the manipulator leave. You no do be you no do. Sex with a man that's not your husband means you are ready to lose your dignity. Those who don't agree, argue with your ancestors.

U are too smart - u decided the whole scam ! They always try to use desperation for marriage to chop women and run ! Don’t see the sense in using sex as a weapon like this sha but to each their own - if she decides she wants to be celibate and u can’t , just be honest and move on - instead of trying to play smart .

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

the way you started the story, is giving the impression you're scamming the guy, and he has probably seen it. 6 months is enough for him to know whether he can proceed to marriage without sex, if he loves you truly the sex won't change his intentions, sex for men sometimes is a seal of trust, he's not sure if you're not getting it from elsewhere.

Rozaytee:
....guy u are mean haba

You no go understand but e get de way some of you girls dey yarn at times, e come be like say garri no be from cassava again.

Well i wudnt blame d lady but blame d guy for going into an agreement he knew he cant keep to it at d long run. There r 2 reasons a guy wil agree to such relationship knowin fully well he having been having relationship wit sex 1. It is either he have d plan of pressuring you for d sex or he wil have girl friend or friends wit benefit but knw strings attached.

Women should not use sex as a bargaining chip but you people will be the first to be shouting olosho, ashewo - if she decides to be liberated about her sexuality ! Awon oloshi

pryme:


And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex?
It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions.
And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.

The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy?
You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them.
The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".

Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?

When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.

Resurgent2016:


Food you don't want to offer a friend, don't ask him to come perceive the aroma.

If you don't want to start having sex with him, avoid cuddling and staying in secluded places.

You' and your partner should avoid secluded place? So both should start fixing meeting in the market square or what? How do you people think?

pryme:


And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex?
It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions.
And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.

The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy?
You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them.
The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".

Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?

When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.

This angle!

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

see them , them don arrive .

A woman has a right to deny anybody she wants to deny sex at any goddamn time ! That’s why majority of u are rapists - entitlements to women’s bodies will kill you .

vincentjk:
You've been scamming him all these while and he just regained his senses. You're denying him sex then why didn't you tell the other guys you've had it with the same thing??

After now you'll claim someone had raped you and got you disvirgined as an excuse smh

Whether you're demanding money from him or not you've no reason to deny him the pot of porridge from which other fortunate men have been eating from for free

All these no sex till marriage bullshit should stop! If you know you ain't ready for sex till marriage, why go into a relationship in the first place? Even if you manage to be in a relationship, you'll not enjoy it. Problem will keep springing up till the moment of break up. And we'd keep reading y'all boring story and lamentation of nairaland front page.

Are you a virgin?Why person go buy motor without test driving the car? Mtcheeeeeew

Resurgent2016:


Food you don't want to offer a friend, don't ask him to come perceive the aroma.

If you don't want to start having sex with him, avoid cuddling and staying in secluded places.

It depends, your friend may have more experience in the field of cooking, so you need her opinion

bluefilm:


You no go understand but e get de way some of you girls dey yarn at times, e come be like say garri no be from cassava again.

lol ....I get

WIZGUY69:
All these no sex till marriage bullshit should stop! If you know you ain't ready for sex till marriage, why go into a relationship in the first place? Even if you manage to be in a relationship, you'll not enjoy it. Problem will keep springing up till the moment of break up. And we'd keep reading y'all boring story and lamentation of nairaland front page.

How old are you?

You are a stupid girl! Why should you allow a man to kiss and cuddle you! Yet you denied him sex. Are you a virgin?

You didn't overreact. Stand your ground. Have they married all the ones they fcked? Sex or lack of it guarantees nothing.

But if you choose not to have sex in relationships. Don't be blackmailed into doing otherwise by same people that will call you borehole pussy.

They tell you that if you are not a virgin, you have no right to be celibate. Somehow they still ask of bodycount.

Men know some women are not very pro-casual sex. What do they do? They mask their intentions with relationships and marriage talk.

99.13167% do not care about you- always remember that. So, at every point, do what is best for you.

You didn't overreact. You're just being compliant with the T & C of your relationship.
I have been in your shoes and it was good for us until the night of our wedding.

Gina2019:


He has been getting it somewhere else. That's for sure. But rules are rules. Why is he trying to break the rules now?

He didn't wanna put too much pressure on her because she is not asking him for money.

If he can't wait till marriage let him walk away. Respect ppl decison biko.

How do you know?

Do you normally hold the torch for him whenever he's doing it?

U want ask for money b4.

fatymore:
When you say no sex..let it be strictly no sex, don't start any act that make sex desirable

you just hit the nail by the head. that means she started it by allowing the guy to cuddle and kiss

no you didnt it is your choice
but kissing and cuddling we re both humans dont let us deceive ourselves.
if u dont want sex free him look for a compatible woody human like u.
it is what it is really why giving me beans when you wont give me bread?
i wish u well

IamCookie:
Haven't you had se* before ? You are making the whole relationship thing uninteresting to him and he isn't convinced you are not getting it somewhere else, hence the need not to continue being a mugu. That is a Nigerian Man for you!

Should you feel love for him ,take a decision and get married to each other instead of making him feel constrained.

SpyAC:
Y giving him such conditions, are u a virgin, if not, give it to him, if he love u truly, he will marry u, but why cuddle and kiss when u hv agreed no sex bf marriage, abi ur body nah wood? If no sex, stop the kiss and the nonsense cuddles

I rarely understand Humans and Black people in particular. Someone made a promise to keep herself for marriage and you're f**King telling her to give the guy s*x?

And you're the same guys that they call girls giving guys they're dating s*x oloshos.. God will judge us all with iron fist for 1.... Our stupidity, 2. Ignorance and 3. Foolishness.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

Lol only a virgin reserves the right to put up such role. Imagine making sombody work hard for something sombody else got for free. Hehehehe hehehehe and who knew more than 3.5 billion ppl got vigina. Yes guys its True. Did u know that every woman u see is walking with a vigina? Its fact.

Lyydia:
There's this guy that we have been dating for 6 months, we love each other very well and we plan on marrying each other.

Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

Of recent, he has been acting strange and wants to go beyond our normal cuddle level. I cautioned him about this and he promised to change! But he still does this.

Yesterday it happened again as I got furious and asked him to leave.

Did I overreact? I called, he has not picked up since yesterday.

Stop making this mistake others have made. Taste before you buy

Faysuze:
You have two options, have sex with him or call it off. You want different things. Find someone that does not want sex like you do.

But what was her reason of not giving the guy sex, If she is still vigin then no problem

But as far as she has had sex b4, she has no case.

Some ladies think that men are mugus

If both of you are Muslims, you are not permitted to have any form of body contact before marriage..and if you are a Christian, then read Bible widely to understand your limit with each other before Marriage.

You cuddle and kiss,I don't blame the guy for wanting more,the problem is,as man he has more desire for sex ,what you are doing for him is like putting a stick inside fire and telling the stick not to catch fire,its not possible,if you guys are serious abt getting married reduce your body contact,go out on outing have fun to reduce the tension,have a plan for when to get married,so please stop the cuddling and kissing for now.wait till u are married

If you want to abstain from sex, then abstain from sex.
All these kissing and cuddling is not helping matters.
Deeper life members that get married without sex don't even touch each other to avoid lust.

If you want to fucckk, then fucckk and stop wasting our time.

Though there is a high possibility the guy will chop and run.
In that case, you have experienced what 90% of Nigerian women have experienced.
Nothing spoil.