sit her down and talk to her to know why she is against the relationship

Some people don't mix business with family matters.  Ask yourself;

Did you meet her niece through her?

Are you trying to get favor from her by dating her niece?

She probably know you as a player and wont want you to hurt her niece.

I would advise you face your work and leave the niece or get sacked,

i will like to commend most of us here for giving our candid and sincere suggestions.

@ poster, i would like you sit one on one with your boss, tell her you are very sorry for dating her niece behind her back and that you will like her to advice you since it's obvious that she isn't comfortable with the arrangement. Most importantly make sure you are not found wanting in your official assignments.

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Your boss knows more about you than you think she does!   She's not comfortable having someone of your character wife her dear niece 'cos she feels you're not good enough for the girl. And she's probably right.

Working in an office environment like that where you also socialise together, people gossip, rumours thrive. Madam likely has some lowdown on your kuru-kere activities so she doesn't want you for an inlaw.  

I still can't figure. . .

Taking advantage of your boss' generosity towards you and woeing someone close to her heart like her niece~

and rather than playing a smooth game of lust, you make it a LOUD affair!!

If you really love the niece and want to keep her then go ahead with the whole thing.However you must be bold to approach your "boss"  .Express your inner mind to her and apologize if necessary.Above all,u must brace up to the whole challenge like a man.Good luck!

separate affection from work, you won't like it if it was you. u need a weight balance, which one do you want more, make you choice or be ready to live with it. chikena!

^^
at this point i can see~
perhaps love is a two-pronged fork. . .pointing at the tip of the heart!

OP,

You didnt plan this thing well,

After you met her niece, You should have told your boss that you liked her niece and watch for her reaction, But you have started dating and poking the girl steady even dey go dem house and you are now telling her.

E better make you track back

Bros, you"re in state of dilemma and the only person i think can delivered you from the devil is your girl friend: the did has been done, is now left for her to meet her Aunty and discuss some thing good about you in which the aunty should have notice about your personality. then tell her aunt why she fell in love to the guy of her choice. Her conclusion will determine your next step but for Christ sake if you mistakenly hurt her heart; know that your job has gone you need to be loyal,faithful and honest to your girl. Her aunty may know your worth that may make her feel you may not be able to take care of her niece for now. Good luck and wish you success.

You broke a major rule in office relationship.

" Do not get your  meat where you get your bread".

You are to avoid your boss mistresses and these include his wife,
sisters, niece, girlfriend, secretary etc. If you  unluckily find yourself
with one of them, God help you because only he can.

Young male nairalanders should go and read The Mafia Manager.
It is full of wisdom for boys who want to be real men

I believe that she likes you as an employee but not enough to be part of her family which isoften the case.

Lets see how it goes because she might still be in a state of shock and get over it later but you never know

dayokanu:

OP,

You didnt plan this thing well,

After you met her niece, You should have told your boss that you liked her niece and watch for her reaction, But you have started dating and poking the girl steady even dey go dem house and you are now telling her.

E better make you track back

LMAO @ bolded

k-money £:

The best advice so far** Why is it that [b]honest people [/b]like you are just too few**

I dey laugh, una nor go kill me 4 dis nairaland.

My broda, forget abt ur boss n live ur life d way u please. afterall, she is married. its not as if u dumped her for her niece.

I dont think she might be interested in an affair with u. Seems like ur actions (DATING HER NIECE who is lke her daughter) wud only begin 2 play on her ability to reason straight especially when she has 2 discipline u. From what u said, I think she respects u as a person and an employee. nothing more or less so having someone who wud laTER become a part of her family wrking with her now is encroaching and choking her territory. It wud be more respectable if she were d person offering her nieces hand in marriage. (if such still happens). I suggest u talk it over with ur lady and get her to find out wat reservations ur boss has about u and make efforts 2 clear d air.

dude make up your mind which it is you want the niece or the job,

if you make up ur mind then the next line of action would be clear,

dude! you crossed the line.

Don't fish in troubled water. The ealier you know it, the better for you: Business and Pleasure don't mix. Choose this day, the God you will serve. Choose a relationship and give up your job or choose your job and give up the relationship QED.

OP, tell you what, your boss is jealous and angry with you, why? After all the signs and feelins that she had been showin to you (meanin she wants to have an affair with you despite wedlock), instead, you ignored her and started datin her niece (that made her felt ignored by you and unhappy with you). Bet you, had it been that her signs towards you are not for an affair (maybe on how good or hardworkin you are), there's nottin that will make her develop unhappy feelins towards you, instead, she'll be very happy and glad to have a good, kind and hardworkin man like you marryin her niece (with the feelins that her niece is with the right man).

Who no go like marry a good and nice person as his/her future partner?

But now that the music has changed, just be yourself brov, man up and, on a good day (maybe after work), sit her down and tell her that you'll like to have a brief discussion with her (in a respected manners, mind you b'cos, she's now unhappy with you and whatever slite mistake you make might lead to her sackin you immediately). Explain things to her, tell her the reason why you never responded to her feelins, and if the relationship with her niece would lead to you loosin your job, then, I'll advice you to quit the relationship and carry on with your job for there's nottin like source of livelyhood brov, best of luck!!!

instead of makin assumptions of her reasons, u just sit her down nd u guys talk things out like grown-up, try to find out y ur relationship wit her deteriorated as a result of u tellin her about ur relationship wit her niece. it wuld be ideal if u talk to her wit an open mind

Honestly what can you expect? You have dug yourself in a hole because now everything that you do wrong with the niece will count against you making any errors at the work place you make worse 2x. You three should have a dialogue.

Guy, its either of two things.
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[li]Your married boss wants you and you left her for her niece. Thats annoying. I find it annoying in a twisted way. I mean, somebody is going out of her way to recognize you and keep you happy and what you pay her back with is snuggling next to her niece. Tufia![/li]
[li]Your married boss likes you but at the same time feels you are a smooth criminal and at the same time equally is fond of her niece and won't want you to break her niece's heart. So she's pissed you are getting close to the kitty which she feels she has to protect. Though I have some doubt in this though[/li]
[li]Your boss has a twisted personality. Fakes she likes you all in a bid to satisfy some physical or phsychological need (say, for people to see her as nice). But feels you are way beneath her and her family circle. So when she sees you in her family circle, in fact near the kitty, she's screams internally and hates you.[/li]
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Figure the rest out yourself.

Why is it difficult for some people to separate THEIR JOB FROM RELATIONSHIP.

Your BOSS is not have a crush on you, but she is angry that you are dating a close relation of hers .

And more embarrassing is that you are meeting  each other at her family house.

My guy no boss in Nigeria will tolerate that to them it is disrespectful.

If you want to enjoy your work always do your job  in a very-professional way and trying staying way from any relative of hers(YOUR BOSS).

OR ELSE ONE DAY SHE WILL DISGRACE YOU OPENLY.

I AM TELLING YOU FROM EXPERIENCE.

General rules for "professionals" with aspirations: 

Never "Shit" where you "eat". Wimps could, if they so wish. you cant afford it!!

just go ahead and Bleep sorry date de 2 of them. 4 peace 2 rain in ur life and in de office.

i dont get it when people say he took advantage. culd he not have woed the lady on his own merit? is the girl in question obama's daughter?

relationship like this however needs cost and benefit analysis.

overall, communication amongst all involved is key.

fuke:

You broke a major rule in office relationship.

" Do not get your meat where you get your bread".

[b]You are to avoid your boss mistresses and these include his wife,
sisters, niece, girlfriend, secretary etc. If you unluckily find yourself
with one of them, God help you because only he can.[/b]Young male nairalanders should go and read The Mafia Manager.
It is full of wisdom for boys who want to be real men

T.Wise:

I dont think she might be interested in an affair with u. Seems like your actions (DATING HER NIECE who is lke her daughter) wud only begin 2 play on her ability to reason straight especially when she has 2 discipline u. From what u said, I think she respects u as a person and an employee. nothing more or less so having someone who wud laTER become a part of her family wrking with her now is encroaching and choking her territory. It wud be more respectable if she were d person offering her nieces hand in marriage. (if such still happens). I suggest u talk it over with your lady and get her to find out wat reservations your boss has about u and make efforts 2 clear d air.

You encroached on your boss's space and makes it stuffy for her. Meanwhile you have to be very discreet about the affair from now until she calms down. Dont flaunt your affection for her niece on your boss's face until she accepts the relationship.

lovejo:

IF YOU HAVE ASKED FOR YOUR BOSS OPINION 1ST YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN HER REACTION BEFORE YOU START THE RELATIONSHIP, THAT WAS WHERE THE PROBLEM STARTS, IT WAS JUST THAT YOU FAILED TO GIVE HER DUE RESPECT.
WHAT IS BAD IN TELLING HER YOU LIKE HER NIECE AT THE BEGINNING, SHE WOULD HAVE BEEN HAPPY FOR RESPECTING HER BEFORE STARTING BANGING HER NIECE,

SHE JUST FELT IT AS INSULT TO HER AUTHORITY.

A word is enough for the wise! listen to the above comments, really makes sense. Go to your boss and appologise to her for taking advantage of her kindness to date her niece. (She probably thinks that after all she has done for you, you still go ahead to shine the congo of her niece and thats disrespectful)
Promise her that you are a very responsible guy who will not hurt her niece and that you mean well for her and would seek for her advice on how to make the relationship work and also that the affair will not affect your output at work. Always learn how to be a profesional in your workplace.

Dont be deceived your boss is only being nice and doesnt have a crush on you, remove such thoughts or you will do yourself more harm.

Guy You must be UGLY and maybe not too intelligent, My Boss want me to Marry her junior sister by all means not to talk of a niece.

Wor a lil lucky bastard u r! i envy u man, u just blew her desire for ya ata proportion and u hv to use this 'jelosy' pill that has thus ensured, to your make or your break!! this is the right time to bone the hell out of ha wantom bossy ASS! after all, boss ladies dont ghe it hot often! trust mi.

this is not the time for your to act wussy! it is time to be a man!  i have been there and i speak from been dere!

Here is my advise

Invite her to a romantic spot , do that preferably on a saturday evening(7 pm) odd hour huh? just perfect! dont worry, she cant refuse!
strictly spirit, beer, pepper-soup joint that also offers short time rest, ghe em drinks and sip some soup, gud 4 ya liva!
dont even bother bringing up the main subject, she wud speak up eventually and then, it wud be more revealing!
behave like everything is just fine between you.,,,,,,no matter wor chu do on this 9t, never apologise for anything, tis ur 9t to boss.

make jokes, comment on her hair in a cocky and funny way, tell her how sexy she luks without those stereotyped official robes, and generally flirt with her, know something, for her to come meet chu up in a place like that at that odd hour, shows she is a bad gurl that needs the rod of a rude boi!

nature calls ,,,wud be back

Nigerians ehn wen we go stop dis habit of jealousy? dis no go lead us anywhere i dey beg. Anyways just ignore your boss and continue ur relationship with her niece. she think say she fine but she no fine she wowo.