Good evening able nairalanders.
I come across these tips in my brain and I say let me share it here someone might be in need of it.

Marriage is the last bus stop of a boy and girl and the beginning of a man and a woman.

Here are. You should consider be choosing a partner


1........ . Be good to your parents. 
Few things in life will be more exciting for your parents than seeing you find someone and get married, likely starting a family of your own, and certainly bringing a new family into theirs. Why would we ever want to taint that with a relationship that’s strained, disrespectful, and full of alternating miscommunication and silence? Our parents deserve to be loved, to be enjoyed for the people they are (not just some abstract idea of being punished for things), and most of all, included in our lives. The beauty of bringing two families together is very much in the love for your own being grown and shared into the love of the whole new family unit. Shouldn’t we be sharing as much of that as possible?

2........ Move out of your parents’ house.
Learn how to pay bills, manage your money, and live responsibly. The least you can do before moving in with someone FOR ETERNITY is get some exposure about what it’s actually like to take care of yourself.

3........ Figure yourself out. 
Too often people rush into committed monogamy for all the wrong reasons. “Figuring yourself out” is cliche, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work on yourself and prune your crutches, delusions, and self-destructive tendencies. It’s a life-long process, but at least, before you marry, try and have a firm grip on who you are and what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, rather than rushing headlong and blind into an unknown situation. 


4.......... Meet the people who raised your potential future husband/ wife.
Whether you like their family or not, you’ll be able to pick up on red flags that wouldn’t have come to light otherwise. The issues someone has with their family may not make or break a relationship, but you don’t really know someone until you watch them lose it and go apeshit on their parents at Thanksgiving dinner.

5......... Live with a member of your preferred gender identity who you’re not dating.
 This is the best way to adjust your expectations of who is responsible for what in a household.

6......... Get your heart broken. 
Thus this is hard o but it will shape you greatly. Whether from losing a good friend, having a fight you know you were wrong in, or seeing a love you were sure was forever end prematurely — we all need to know what it feels like to be broken. Perhaps the most essential thing about heartbreak is coming out on the other side and realizing that, no matter how badly you are hurting in the moment, it’s going to pass and you are going to be happy again. Few things manage to put future fights, anger, and sadness into perspective than getting over a real heartbreak at least once.

7.... At least Finish college or university. 
Because you’re way too young to be married that early.

8........ . Learn how to cook, regardless of gender.
 One of the best parts of stability is the fact that you DON’T have to go out as much anymore. One of the best things you can do to prepare for a simpler lifestyle is to figure out how live more simply.

9.......... Live alone/ be alone. 
People can go their entire lives skipping from relationship to relationship because they’re afraid of being alone. Being alone isn’t always a walk on the beach, but it’s important to develop the capacity to rely on yourself for happiness before you pass off so much of that weight to another human being.Sign up for the

10...... Be good friends.
Don't marry a stranger and hope you'll become compatible over time. Start with a solid foundation of love, shared values, common interests, and trust.Don't expect your partner to change. People do change, but not in predictable ways. So if your partner has a drug problem, assume he'll always have one. Suppose you're marrying someone with a drug problem, not someone who will, with time, stop taking drugs, and ask if you can live with that. If she doesn't want children, assume she'll always not want children. If he has a temper, assume he'll always have a temper.

11...... Work on projects together.
Collaboration is one of the primary forms of human communication. It's a kind of social glue. Try to find hobbies you both like doing together.

12......... Play together.
I don't mean Chess, Monopoly, or baseball. I mean have tickle fights, or chase each other around the home; or roll around in the mud, together. Playing around is another social glue. You need to lose all dignity around each other habitually..

13......... Marry someone who has intimacy needs that match yours. Marriages can work between joined-at-the-hip couples, and they can also work between highly independent couples. But it's hard to sustain a marriage between a clingy person and a standoffish one

14........ Spend an embarrassing amount of money
spend on yourself a designer bag you love or heels that make you feel incredibly sexy. Chances are, when you have a joint account with your hubby, he's not going to get why a purse is worth the GDP of a small country.

15....... Wear a hip, fabulous ring on your left hand. 
I know this can be a kind of deception but it will save you some stress. Once you have an engagement band, you won't want anything detracting attention from the ring and you will focus on your project.

16....... Plan your fantasy wedding together. 
Now is the time to let your imagination roam—rip pictures of dresses from magazines, size up ceremony venues, and try on some rocks at the jewellery store. This is stuff that really wigs guys out if they witness it, so get it out of your system now.

17..... Have your dad take you out to dinner as often as possible. 

18..........Hone a signature lingerie style. 
Figure out what cuts and colours are hottest on you, and develop a look that's all your own. That way, your one-day groom will follow your lead...and not buy that hideous, baby-pink, with tacky machine lace bra that looks but absolutely ack.

19............... Want a cat? 
Scared though get it, you won't know it importance until you have it. Heed this bit of advice: buy it now. You can call it Snowflake, and let it sleep next to you in bed, beside you. If you wait to get a pet with your betrothed, it will end up being a big, slobbering lab called Bif, or some other butch name, who drools all over your designer floor cushions.

20............ Eat what you like, when you like.
If all you feel like eating for dinner is ice cream and diet soda, buy a cone and pop a Coke. When you and The Mister chow down together all the time, you'll be less likely to indulge those bizarre—but oh-so-satisfying—cravings..

21...... Travel with your sister(s) and/or closest female friends.
Not saying you can't do this after you get married, but lots of ladies agree there's something especially liberating, eye-opening, and bond-bolstering about doing it beforehand.

22...... Travel with your future spouse.
Everyone can get along for a weekend, but see if you can stand each other for a whole week, dealing with travel dilemmas. As a woman It will not only made you a stronger individual coming out of it, but it also show you never to take love for granted.

23...... Dump someone.
Wow, risky buy just try it may be not the G.
But pleasant experience or not, it's empowering to be the one who called the final shot in a relationship at one time or another.

24...,.. Get your finances in order.
One of my close friends made it a point to clean up her credit and make some serious sacrifices so that her future husband wouldn't have to carry around the burden of budgeting mistakes she had made while single. It's also not a shabby idea to do it for your own peace of mind.Talk about your finances with your future spouse. Make sure you know where you stand on long and short-term goals and spending vs. saving. Depending on how much either one of you is willing to bend on certain things, money matters can be serious buzzkills for marital bliss -- or, at their worst, dealbreakers.

25....... Have at least one big blowout fight with your future spouse.
Dangerous but it must come so just do it, make it up. It's good to know you can get through it.


26..............Face one of your biggest fears.
Be it skydiving, public speaking, or dining in public alone.

27......... Try having a friend with benefits.
If only to make sure that friend you have is the best you can run to for assist.

28.......... Focus on your education.
Not that you can't do this once you're married, but you may want to spend pre-martial time on getting one -- or several! -- degrees.Get started on making your career dreams come true. Same as Understanding each other’s values.

29Long before making that commitment to spend the rest of your lives together.
it’s important to communicate and discuss your individual values and beliefs, such as religion, family dynamics and rituals, and politics. You may not always agree, but you need to respect each other’s viewpoints and ensure that they’re not a deal-breaker before walking down the aisles. If you do find yourselves on opposite ends of the spectrum in one area, know that it can still work, but it might take some extra effort and pre-planning in your relationship to decide how to handle conflict before it happens.

 



30...... Talk about money.
Whether you like it or not you going to assit yourself. You and your significant other should agree on fundamental topics like finances—even though they’re not always fun or easy to discuss. 100K may not be on your mind when you’re in your 20s, but it’s crucial to have this discussion ahead of time so you’re not finding yourself in situations down the road that could do damage to your marriage. Talk about how you'll share/divide living expenses, how you plan to live, and whether you both expect to work till retirement.

 



31........ Talk about kids.
Like the money talk, the conversation about kids is an important one. Do you both want them? If so, how many? Share your vision before you exchange vows. Having children is a huge commitment, personally and financially, for the rest of your lives, and does change your relationship with your partner. Couples go into marriages thinking it's something they can work out later, or one thinks they can change the other person's mind, but it rarely ends well. It's important to agree on this one from the beginning.”



32........ Take dance lessons.
Consider taking dance lessons, but for an entirely different reason than you may expect. Yes, it’s a great way to learn how to move on the dance floor with one another, but equally as important, it’s time where you can literally step away from the stresses of planning. It's an opportunity to learn together, laugh together, and spend time together, phones down and focused on each other. 

33..... No secret

This one na jara

Secrets are necessary because guys love details and they can use it against you later.

Yahksbiz:
Good evening able nairalanders.
I come across these tips in my brain and I say let me share it here someone might be in need of it.

Marriage is the last bus stop of a boy and girl and the beginning of a man and a woman.

Here are. You should consider be choosing a partner


1........ . Be good to your parents. 
Few things in life will be more exciting for your parents than seeing you find someone and get married, likely starting a family of your own, and certainly bringing a new family into theirs. Why would we ever want to taint that with a relationship that’s strained, disrespectful, and full of alternating miscommunication and silence? Our parents deserve to be loved, to be enjoyed for the people they are (not just some abstract idea of being punished for things), and most of all, included in our lives. The beauty of bringing two families together is very much in the love for your own being grown and shared into the love of the whole new family unit. Shouldn’t we be sharing as much of that as possible?

2........ Move out of your parents’ house.
Learn how to pay bills, manage your money, and live responsibly. The least you can do before moving in with someone FOR ETERNITY is get some exposure about what it’s actually like to take care of yourself.

3........ Figure yourself out. 
Too often people rush into committed monogamy for all the wrong reasons. “Figuring yourself out” is cliche, but that doesn’t mean you can’t work on yourself and prune your crutches, delusions, and self-destructive tendencies. It’s a life-long process, but at least, before you marry, try and have a firm grip on who you are and what you’re doing and why you’re doing it, rather than rushing headlong and blind into an unknown situation. 


4.......... Meet the people who raised your potential future husband/ wife.
Whether you like their family or not, you’ll be able to pick up on red flags that wouldn’t have come to light otherwise. The issues someone has with their family may not make or break a relationship, but you don’t really know someone until you watch them lose it and go apeshit on their parents at Thanksgiving dinner.

5......... Live with a member of your preferred gender identity who you’re not dating.
 This is the best way to adjust your expectations of who is responsible for what in a household.

6......... Get your heart broken. 
Thus this is hard o but it will shape you greatly. Whether from losing a good friend, having a fight you know you were wrong in, or seeing a love you were sure was forever end prematurely — we all need to know what it feels like to be broken. Perhaps the most essential thing about heartbreak is coming out on the other side and realizing that, no matter how badly you are hurting in the moment, it’s going to pass and you are going to be happy again. Few things manage to put future fights, anger, and sadness into perspective than getting over a real heartbreak at least once.

7.... At least Finish college or university. 
Because you’re way too young to be married that early.

8........ . Learn how to cook, regardless of gender.
 One of the best parts of stability is the fact that you DON’T have to go out as much anymore. One of the best things you can do to prepare for a simpler lifestyle is to figure out how live more simply.

9.......... Live alone/ be alone. 
People can go their entire lives skipping from relationship to relationship because they’re afraid of being alone. Being alone isn’t always a walk on the beach, but it’s important to develop the capacity to rely on yourself for happiness before you pass off so much of that weight to another human being.Sign up for the

10...... Be good friends.
Don't marry a stranger and hope you'll become compatible over time. Start with a solid foundation of love, shared values, common interests, and trust.Don't expect your partner to change. People do change, but not in predictable ways. So if your partner has a drug problem, assume he'll always have one. Suppose you're marrying someone with a drug problem, not someone who will, with time, stop taking drugs, and ask if you can live with that. If she doesn't want children, assume she'll always not want children. If he has a temper, assume he'll always have a temper.

11...... Work on projects together.
Collaboration is one of the primary forms of human communication. It's a kind of social glue. Try to find hobbies you both like doing together.

12......... Play together.
I don't mean Chess, Monopoly, or baseball. I mean have tickle fights, or chase each other around the home; or roll around in the mud, together. Playing around is another social glue. You need to lose all dignity around each other habitually..

13......... Marry someone who has intimacy needs that match yours. Marriages can work between joined-at-the-hip couples, and they can also work between highly independent couples. But it's hard to sustain a marriage between a clingy person and a standoffish one

14........ Spend an embarrassing amount of money
spend on yourself a designer bag you love or heels that make you feel incredibly sexy. Chances are, when you have a joint account with your hubby, he's not going to get why a purse is worth the GDP of a small country.

15....... Wear a hip, fabulous ring on your left hand. 
I know this can be a kind of deception but it will save you some stress. Once you have an engagement band, you won't want anything detracting attention from the ring and you will focus on your project.

16....... Plan your fantasy wedding together. 
Now is the time to let your imagination roam—rip pictures of dresses from magazines, size up ceremony venues, and try on some rocks at the jewellery store. This is stuff that really wigs guys out if they witness it, so get it out of your system now.

17..... Have your dad take you out to dinner as often as possible. 

18..........Hone a signature lingerie style. 
Figure out what cuts and colours are hottest on you, and develop a look that's all your own. That way, your one-day groom will follow your lead...and not buy that hideous, baby-pink, with tacky machine lace bra that looks but absolutely ack.

19............... Want a cat? 
Scared though get it, you won't know it importance until you have it. Heed this bit of advice: buy it now. You can call it Snowflake, and let it sleep next to you in bed, beside you. If you wait to get a pet with your betrothed, it will end up being a big, slobbering lab called Bif, or some other butch name, who drools all over your designer floor cushions.

20............ Eat what you like, when you like.
If all you feel like eating for dinner is ice cream and diet soda, buy a cone and pop a Coke. When you and The Mister chow down together all the time, you'll be less likely to indulge those bizarre—but oh-so-satisfying—cravings..

21...... Travel with your sister(s) and/or closest female friends.
Not saying you can't do this after you get married, but lots of ladies agree there's something especially liberating, eye-opening, and bond-bolstering about doing it beforehand.

22...... Travel with your future spouse.
Everyone can get along for a weekend, but see if you can stand each other for a whole week, dealing with travel dilemmas. As a woman It will not only made you a stronger individual coming out of it, but it also show you never to take love for granted.

23...... Dump someone.
Wow, risky buy just try it may be not the G.
But pleasant experience or not, it's empowering to be the one who called the final shot in a relationship at one time or another.

24...,.. Get your finances in order.
One of my close friends made it a point to clean up her credit and make some serious sacrifices so that her future husband wouldn't have to carry around the burden of budgeting mistakes she had made while single. It's also not a shabby idea to do it for your own peace of mind.Talk about your finances with your future spouse. Make sure you know where you stand on long and short-term goals and spending vs. saving. Depending on how much either one of you is willing to bend on certain things, money matters can be serious buzzkills for marital bliss -- or, at their worst, dealbreakers.

25....... Have at least one big blowout fight with your future spouse.
Dangerous but it must come so just do it, make it up. It's good to know you can get through it.


26..............Face one of your biggest fears.
Be it skydiving, public speaking, or dining in public alone.

27......... Try having a friend with benefits.
If only to make sure that friend you have is the best you can run to for assist.

28.......... Focus on your education.
Not that you can't do this once you're married, but you may want to spend pre-martial time on getting one -- or several! -- degrees.Get started on making your career dreams come true. Same as Understanding each other’s values.

29.......... Long before making that commitment to spend the rest of your lives together.
it’s important to communicate and discuss your individual values and beliefs, such as religion, family dynamics and rituals, and politics. You may not always agree, but you need to respect each other’s viewpoints and ensure that they’re not a deal-breaker before walking down the aisles. If you do find yourselves on opposite ends of the spectrum in one area, know that it can still work, but it might take some extra effort and pre-planning in your relationship to decide how to handle conflict before it happens.

 



30...... Talk about money.
Whether you like it or not you going to assit yourself. You and your significant other should agree on fundamental topics like finances—even though they’re not always fun or easy to discuss. 100K may not be on your mind when you’re in your 20s, but it’s crucial to have this discussion ahead of time so you’re not finding yourself in situations down the road that could do damage to your marriage. Talk about how you'll share/divide living expenses, how you plan to live, and whether you both expect to work till retirement.

 



31........ Talk about kids.
Like the money talk, the conversation about kids is an important one. Do you both want them? If so, how many? Share your vision before you exchange vows. Having children is a huge commitment, personally and financially, for the rest of your lives, and does change your relationship with your partner. Couples go into marriages thinking it's something they can work out later, or one thinks they can change the other person's mind, but it rarely ends well. It's important to agree on this one from the beginning.”



32........ Take dance lessons.
Consider taking dance lessons, but for an entirely different reason than you may expect. Yes, it’s a great way to learn how to move on the dance floor with one another, but equally as important, it’s time where you can literally step away from the stresses of planning. It's an opportunity to learn together, laugh together, and spend time together, phones down and focused on each other. 

33..... No secret

This one na jara

---Dynomite! (JJ of Good Times)

This one na for oyinbos