My friend and i are in love with a guy who happens to be our 3rd friend's(who is also my best friend) elder brother.we all used to live in our friends family house cuz we couldnt get accomodation in school and along the way i became friends with her brother and he later asked me out but i turned him town.About a year later my friend started showing interest in him.it was so obvious dat people suggested to the guy to ask her out but he didnt.Now here i am,2 years later after a broken relationship from both sides he is asking me out again and this time the feeling is matual.am scared of dating him now cuz my friend still likes him and she still live in their house but i no longer live their and am no longer in town.Am scared of ruining my relationship with my friend,my bestfriend,her brother and their whole family.wat do i do¿

From what you have said, I believe the guy is interested in you and not your friend and I would not want you to trade your future with friendship. Mind you, this is your life on the line here. Think wise and act smart.

i am sure the guy is not a small boy and he can decide for himself. so if he asks you out and you want to go out with him say yes. just make sure that the guy lets everyone know that he asked you out.

Op from your post,he's not dating you fwend and he didn't ask her out either,she's just interested but he's interested in you.go out wiv him if you want to,if your fwend is nice and mature,it won't affect your fwendship,even if she gets mad,my dear its not wise to displease urself just to please orthers cos they'll never be satisfied.

Life is too short to be worrying about hurting someones feelings all the freaking time. He didn't date your friend, from your post he doesn't sound remotely interested, I beg go after the guy. You don't want to be single, and alone in your late 30s wondering WHAT IF. just let your intentions be known to your 3rd friend about your feelings towards her brother. If she is a true friend she will want your happiness, even if it is with her brother. The 2nd friend is not much of a friend either, why would she develop feelings for a guy who has shown interest in you and has asked you out in the past!

see, you are damned if you do, and damned if you don't. Dude is single, you are single, why are you stalling? He never had anything to do with her before now, so its not like you will be dating your friends ex anyway. He is a grown a55 man, and from all indication, he likes you, better stop calculating ifs and whens and whys, and go out with him.

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you gals should cast a lot and the winner will take the consolation prize guy

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OP.
If you really respect your friend and you would like to keep the friendship intact . . , . .Discuss it with her first before any move!

discuss it with her because? She is his girlfriend? His ex? Or he asked her out at one time or the other. Come to think of it, if you say you guys are so close she should be aware that he is asking you out, i mean girls always jist about stuff like that. You should know allready from her reaction the way she feels, ok, maybe you should talk to her and see what she says. I just do not know what you will do if she starts biatching and bemoaning her fate, babes are so complicated.

D-sense:

If you really respect your friend and you would like to keep the friendship intact . . , . .Discuss it with her first before any move!

I think I would agree with this poster because if your friend finds out that you’ve been seeing her guy behind her back, it could cause you – your friendship.

kpele