Thanks for the Commendation

Fadoria:
i love this write up,i dont joke with them cos i know what they ve done for me through out the stages of my life ....

My family first, back then in school my younger brother was responsible for the payment of my school fees, as he was into handwork which I left after gaining admission.
So will my wife now take decision that is barbaric to the beautiful relationship I and my relation have build before getting married to her.....she will live my house, my relation first.

MhizzV:
Rules are meant to be followed not broken...for every rule my husband will impose on ma family,it will be applicable to his...and any rule I impose on his family, will be applicable to mine too...

May the love rule your family. Rule is too formal!

majestique:


my dear, I'm happily married with a child so focus on your own development first and when you're mature enough to divorce yourself from the apron of your family, go pick a wife. you think marriage na girlfriend & boyfriend matter? una eye go clear soon!!

I wanted to say 'I feel sorry for your husband and his people', then I realised, you and your types are classic submissives, but come to a faceless forum to miss-lead single ladies and rant about all the things you don't have the will power to do in your homes.

But they should not stay longer than necessary.

AmTruth:
My wife's relations have rights to come to my house

What an interesting topical issue in marriage.

Simran94:

lol, you were the one who brought Ronaldo into the issue. And besides it is all Ronaldo's money, he will still end up returning the money.

Some rich men's wife can't even do more than Boxers and Singlet

Yeah, I used Cristiano's case because his former girlfriend usually complained about his mum staying around!!!
I like Cristiano classic response tho

Youngzedd:


I know her level of manipulation. It's no longer new to me. Women as a whole are manipulative.


Lies and manipulations are how she survives >>
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2-9u9kBoFzQ

so I should watch this YouTube video because?

counter tread to aunty pot owner, aunty he opened my matrimonial pot.

Take it easy Bro, she would not live your house. But you said it all, marriage must not separate us from our families who contributed in paying the price for us.

Ilufoye00:
My family first, back then in school my younger brother was responsible for the payment of my school fees, as he was into handwork which I left after gaining admission.
So will my wife now take decision that is barbaric to the beautiful relationship I and my relation have build before getting married to her.....she will live my house, my relation first.

[quote author=Ilufoye00 post=86449750]My family first, back then in school my younger brother was responsible for the payment of my school fees, as he was into handwork which I left after gaining admission.
So will my wife now take decision that is barbaric to the beautiful relationship I and my relation have build before getting married to her.....she will live my house, my relation
Why dont you let him live with for life!
That's would be a better way to pay him back.

Hmmmm

mechanics:
But they should not stay longer than necessary.

AmTruth:
Hmmmm

Yes na.

eni4real:

Every lady/new wife is innocent
Every man is bed down select
Na dem !!!

You can avoid your dysfunctional family as much as you want , that doesn't mean other families have to be like you!!!

Every dysfunctional family members should avoid one another!!! May be that is the stand of your husband too!!!

But if he doesn't stand for that, you dare not change his stand on family unity!!!

How about that??

Why so pained? I am speaking for myself, any in-law wey no get sense will be thrown out. If its from my side to, hubby should do the needful. Them no born anyone to come my home to cause fight between me and my hubby or boss me around. That road to your village wey you forget, I go give you the map, that's if you are so educated to study it, if not, Ikeja under bridge is available. How can you be homeless and be rude/useless/unfortunate at the same time? Howwww??

The problem here is that most men don't know that 85% of women are very selfish. When a 'woman' marries, she looks for every means to cajole her husband into enimity with his siblings and extended family. They believe (their twisted minds) that their husband's relations who moulded him into what he is today are pests and should stay as far away as possible. I have seen women who get so angry that their husband helped a relative with something as pertinent as school fees or hospital bills. NO HUMAN BEING SHOULD BE THIS WAY!

Dear Women, those of you who have love, kindness, patience and affection for your husband's relatives, May God continue to bless you. You are indeed rare. We can only hope that your daughters would emulate your Grace, Charisma and Candor. We are privileged to have you in our society.
For those of you who hate extended family of your spouse, it is my candid advice that you change, have a rethink and submit to God. In his infinite mercies, he will purify your heart and give you true Joy whenever you come across your husband's relatives.

Adedayobusayo12:



Why so pained? I am speaking for myself, any in-law wey no get sense will be thrown out. If its from my side to, hubby should do the needful. Them no born anyone to come my home to cause fight between me and my hubby or boss me around. That road to your village wey you forget, I go give you the map, that's if you are so educated to study it, if not, Ikeja under bridge is available. How can you be homeless and be rude/useless/unfortunate at the same time? Howwww??

That happens in a dysfunctional family a lot..
I hope your husband still have some authority over issues like this??
You seem to be the one calling the shot

Stewpid men cannot differentiate between their immediate family and extended family. Selfish wives want their horsebands to themselves only. Those men should remember to build 72 rooms mansion to accommodate your dead great grandfather's ghost.

Ryan03:
so I should watch this YouTube video because?

You are Ryan03

Is good at least they can stay but not unnecessary.
Nice one, instead of like No Visit or No Stay

mechanics:
Yes na.

Rubbish post, as your family members are important in your life,so is your wife, your going to spend more years with her than you did with your family, show her that respect.
To those allowing their family members to stay indefinitely in their homes, more grease to your elbow, when trouble brews dont open another account and start constituting nuisance here.
Your mum is not more important than your wife and vice versa, set boundaries.the highest a family member can stay is 1 week and he or she has to leave.
Moreover how can you save when your feeding battalion of people, how does your wife cope with cooking and all, no privacy, enmity, jealousy in the house, please why did I get married?
Every body dey your dey.

Easy!Easy!! Easy!!!

Adedayobusayo12:



Why so pained? I am speaking for myself, any in-law wey no get sense will be thrown out. If its from my side to, hubby should do the needful. Them no born anyone to come my home to cause fight between me and my hubby or boss me around. That road to your village wey you forget, I go give you the map, that's if you are so educated to study it, if not, Ikeja under bridge is available. How can you be homeless and be rude/useless/unfortunate at the same time? Howwww??

AmTruth:
Is good at least they can stay but not unnecessary.
Nice one, instead of like No Visit or No Stay

That's right, I get your point.

I am gradually coming to understand that women who don't allow relations to visit or stay with them are not truly at peace with themselves because of fear of Insecurity, and are very aggressive and attacking about things unnecessarily.
Thereby giving themselves some sort of self inflicted pressure.

And for the good women most of us are fortunate to have I pray the Lord grant you the grace to raise More generations of your Likes.
I have a daughter and I pray she be like her mum, so wonderful.

For the women against the visiting or staying, I pray you look beyond the present and think of the future.
Because no man is an Island!!!

TheKingMurphy:
The problem here is that most men don't know that 85% of women are very selfish. When a 'woman' marries, she looks for every means to cajole her husband into enimity with his siblings and extended family. They believe (their twisted minds) that their husband's relations who moulded him into what he is today are pests and should stay as far away as possible. I have seen women who get so angry that their husband helped a relative with something as pertinent as school fees or hospital bills. NO HUMAN BEING SHOULD BE THIS WAY!

Dear Women, those of you who have love, kindness, patience and affection for your husband's relatives, May God continue to bless you. You are indeed rare. We can only hope that your daughters would emulate your Grace, Charisma and Candor. We are privileged to have you in our society.
For those of you who hate extended family of your spouse, it is my candid advice that you change, have a rethink and submit to God. In his infinite mercies, he will purify your heart and give you true Joy whenever you come across your husband's relatives.

Meeyankee:
People like Bukatyne will not like this thread.you married to a weak man who will allowed his family to visit him because he has taken one over used lady from the street that is not even a Virgin. You guys should take not of this lady with this moniker Bukatyne she is a very bad wicked lady.who doesn’t allow her in-laws to visit their brother because of her own selfish interest.

lolssss, babab u get bad mouth, i swear

Triniti:
it’s only unintelligent women that I see fighting over kitchen and food, creating boundaries where there should be none. When you taste real wealth, you will know that food is meant to be eaten when cooked and a man siblings is part and parcel of him that no one should ever try to cut off

Being wealthy doesn't mean you condone bad manners. You cannot just got to someone's kitchen and take food from the pot. There are silent codes of conduct in some situations. A brother that does that doesn't respect his brother's wife.

I will rather remain single than getting married to somebody that will block/stop my relatives from coming around.
Well I don't blame them ladies, I will rather the weakling man that will allow such nonsense.
Even girls I have dated knows this, I don't joke and I will never joke with my relatives.

eni4real:
Forces to marry who?!!

Someone that I personally bring to my Family after doing every necessaries??

She needs to mature!!!

I think at this point you may be the one that needs to be mature and understand your obligations to your wife.
It does not cost anything to love and care about a woman neither does it make you less a man.forget all these things makes are posting on nairaland, it is all for likes and mentions, many supporting you are not married or separated. See no matter how many siblings ,friends, mother you have, a wife is the one you go home to everyday. Why not seek to make her happy and watch that happiness rub off on everyone around you.

I dont want to have this conversation anymore, and if you thin shes not worth being honoured as a wife. Pls dont make her life miserable because of the people whose feelinga u consider are more important than hers

to visit no problem, but to stay for what now...

truthsayer009:


It's a circle, do you care about a Guy's sister or siblings when you start billing him every now & then? Answer is NO.

but they will rush and borrow money from their sisters --- Before nko, If I don't borrow money from my Sister to call babe, then who should I borrow money from na? My Sister is the closest to comfort

I Don't Bill Guys, so, I have no idea what you are talking about.

The Problem with many of you guys, is that you have met so many trash girls, you automatically assume all girls are trash. I cann hardly blame you, trash is kept outside and that is where you meet them.

YorubaAmaka:
hmmm

you must be a STINGY type

Those Women that don't want anyone to eat their FOOD

Na So

YungJo207:



You can't live in your siblings house in America says who abeg? Is it from what you know or what you have seen?

Cause I know of about 2-3 couple who at least one of their family stays with them.

I know a guy his brother been living with him since 15 the guy is 25 now that 10years mehn hommie just rent a house and guess what the older brother wife( African American ) was crying he was leaving cause of the bond the family has.

The other lady I know ( white in her 50's ) her sister lives her mom since their mom passed and if my guess is right it been more than 5yrs since 2012.....so I don't know where you getting those mentality from....

Again saying American spend time with their friends Instead of their family is false...if I talk to bae now I give her 30mins is either she's on the phone with her mom or hanging out with her elder sister or some cousin.

These Are exceptions, not general rules.

brownemmanuel43:

lolssss, babab u get bad mouth, i swear

My brother na real matter ooo