What is Cinderella Syndrome?
Cinderella syndrome is when you believe your unpleasant circumstances will change when the man of your dreams comes into the picture. In addition, while you wait for your rescuer to come, you need to obey the status quo, be the “good girl,” sing songs, be nice, be patient, most importantly, do not defy your masters.

While all these qualities are reasonable, it has its flaws; one of the disadvantages of the Cinderella syndrome is an entitlement. Instead of teaching your girl-child to be like Cinderella, why not show her that she can be Moana, who continued her purpose despite Maui stopped helping her?

Give your man a break
A lot of us believe that, as a woman, we are entitled to receive help from our men. Any man that cannot provide for his lady is not a man. So, instead of preparing ourselves to become capable of handling our businesses, we prepare ourselves to become a “good wife.”

The men of olds are different from the twenty-first-century men
Women expect men to take over their responsibilities as soon as their parents stop helping them. This mentality has done more harm than good; unfortunately, a lot of women went into marriage for the wrong reasons.

We cannot compare our twenty-first-century men, to the men of olds because, in those days, women did not have the opportunities we have today. Our jobs were limited to raising kids, taking care of the house, and pleasing our men.

So, the men go out to look for food, provide shelter for his family. But the story is quite different today; today, women have access to education, can pitch for business deals, and get whatever the men are getting if they want. Also, they can build their house, provide for the family; in fact, everything a man can do, today’s woman can do it.

This has brought a lot of pressure on the twenty-first-century male figure; as a woman, we have equal opportunities as the men, but we still expect them to provide and protect their family like the men of olds did. This is unfair; one of the reasons people fought for equality is for women to contribute to the family more.

Why do we still want to depend solely on our men when we can support them? Why do we need to get every penny we need from our men when we have the opportunities to work as much as them?

“But he is a man, providing for the family is his job” yes, it is his job to provide for the family, but it is also your job to fill the gaps when he cannot meet up.

Ladies listen, no man is 100% comfortable if he is not providing for his family; do not rub it on his face because fate has smiled on you. He is working harder than you know, so if your man cannot provide as much as you would want him to, encourage him and support him. Taken from Restructuring the mindset of today's woman